my gf recently just moved 110 miles away to college. She started working at a new job and last night she flirted with the 4 guys there and gave a guy her phone number. she also said in front of me that he is "really hott." what do i do? should i worry about this? I cant really trust her. Is that normal?
2006-08-22 01:53:09 · 13 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for the answers, its just hard to leave someone after 2 years. I know i told a friend the same things your telling me. Its just totally different when you love someone, its like your not who you used to be. And after this i dont think ill be who i am now...
2006-08-22 02:08:27 · update #1
Um...yea. Absolutely. Your woman is wildin out at school. She's liberated and is embarking on a exciting new journey and this may lead her to want to be free to flirt, have sex, experiment in bisexuality and all those other things wild girls do when they go to college.
My advice: Don't be exclusive anymore. Tell her that the both of you need some time to figure out where the relationship is going. Let her off the hook so she can be free to date guys if she chooses. You'll know where you stand then.
Good luck.
2006-08-22 02:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just the fact that she looks like shes intrested in other guys. I can't believe she would give her phone number out!! wow thats pretty rude.. I think she considers you as a friend now because she moved 110 miles away. This is not normal... i think maybe you might want to move on, don't look like she's too serious about your realtionship. Find someone closer to you, that loves you. Good luck!
2006-08-22 09:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me remind you that Aristotle's idea that there is friendship of utility, friendship of pleasure, and friendship of goodness is applicable to intimate relationships as well. There are those people who use each other for pleasure, to gain something , and there is a rarer find which is to enjoy being with a person and really respecting them and valuing them for being exactly who they are. Aristotle must have realized that in relationships there is usually a mixture of all three but I don't recall him stating that in Ethics. I once met a wonderful woman, Gabriele, whom I will always remember. She said to breathe people in and out like resperation. I suggest that you follow that. You have a lifetime where people will stumble into your life. Allow them to come in, and if you can do something to help them during their time with you then you have acted well, and when they are ready to part just allow it to happen. With the intimacy of a boyfriend obviously there is a physical intimacy, a sense of sexual pleasure and companionship and so as creatures of pleasure it is hard to part from someone whom we "love" in that way. Remember that Plato suggested that we love what we don't have and to some degree we are attracted to opposites that might complement us for what we lack; however if you find yourself fighting with this person a lot that should be a good sign to move onto something different
2006-08-22 09:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Steven S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's seems really odd for a girlfriend to be that straightforward, but I wouldn't rule it out. Yes, I think it's something you should worry about.
Also, after moving 110 miles, she is going to be meeting people she has never met before. Its a new experience, and she is going to want to experience it fully. The relationship between you and your girlfriend way break apart.
2006-08-22 09:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on! You answered your own question. Would you give 4 girls your number in front of her? Doubt it! She's moving on and you need to face it. Stay friends with her if you want but it's time to call it quits and look for someone new.
2006-08-22 09:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should Not be with someone you do not trust. If she did all that right in front of you she is not for you anyways. That was rude and mean. Dump her before you really get hurt.
2006-08-22 08:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by anne04char 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would worry my *** off that **** aint right. thats just disrespectful. trust me long distance relationships dont work no matter who you are they dont work. i had a girl friend just 10 miles away if that and it lasted only a month... hurt her before she hurts you
2006-08-22 09:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by gein13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking a relation just because of you heard a news from somewhere is not a good dicision. if, i was you then i would must go through the situations and would ask her first about the confusion and if she accept her fault then i will left her ...
2006-08-22 09:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by manav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will be changing...she is testing her independence...and growing up. this is normal with all girls, and guys, too. as the school year progresses she will settle down.
maybe you should talk to her about this. don't push or complain...just talk and see what she says...don't be angry..be understanding...
yes, you should worry...but show her you can take the change...be evasive about your life and let her wonder about you...
2006-08-22 09:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she moved that far away without you things are gonna change she's going to meet new people and want to try new things don't take it personally like she doesn't care about you anymore that's just the way it is
2006-08-22 08:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋