I'm 18 this year and have had 3 boyfriends before, but the last one ended almost 2 years ago.
2006-08-22 00:21:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Chloe,what's ur worry?Is it about being lonely?or is it something u have not said here?.Come on sugar grow up now u r 18 and coming out of ur teenage.U should now understand that it is not worth changing urself for anyone.If someone likes you,he will come to u no matter what u or others think of u.It is not correct to make a compromise of ur basic nature as a building step to ur relationship.So sit back and realx the freedom while it lasts.Once u have a partner,there comes responsibilities, problems, although it seems to come in a nice happy package,there are loopholes in that too.So lady just wait and watch and someone will click ur bell.then decide what do u wanna do.Till that time,play more and study harder cos this time is never gonna come back
2006-08-22 00:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by chooseme_only 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should address is why you're considered stand-offish.
People who are shy or naturally reserved can often be considered stand-offish and aloof.
The fix is to be very friendly, talkative, and chatty with people, especially strangers or people you don't know well. A good way to have a conversation with someone is ask them questions about themselves or the things they're interested in and be genuinely interested in what the person is saying. Everyone is an expert about something, and finding that area that they enjoy talking about can lead to some really great conversations!
If you ask someone a question and then just respond with, "huh," or, "that's nice," of course you're gonna get a reputation as being aloof and disinterested. Conversation is an exchange between two people; you should participate rather than observe.
Another thing you may want to consider is your body language. Look the other person in the eye. Smile. Nod your head if they're saying something you agree with. Don't stare down at the ground or stand with your arms crossed; these are signals that you're not interested and the person will move on.
I'd recommend the book "How To Win Friends And Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It's a flawed book, mainly meant to teach salesmen how to sell and also suffers from the slightly dated language of the author (it was written in the 1930's, I believe), but even given those flaws, it is still a very good book, filled with valid points and observations. It may well bring into focus for you a lot of things about dealing with people that seem like they might be obvious at first blush but are often forgotten.
2006-08-22 07:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by helloiamchuck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to be yourself if you want a good long lasting relationship. If you just have problem meeting guys and getting past that first meeting then you just maybe need to relax a little.
If you online asking questions like this I'd say your just fine and you just haven't found that right person yet.
Keep trying, I'm sure everything will workout fine. You also said you're good-looking so really all you need to find a boyfriend is just to smile once or twice at him. :)
2006-08-22 07:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gary Bucht 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, U shouldn't be offish!!! Atleast when you are in such type of relationship! One should obey a "Friendship theory" in every Love relationship! If you have that, you vl never face any problem...regarding life partner issuses.....and do remember.never flirt anyone! Be noble and honest to him and giv him lotsssssssssssssss of love and care......you'll WIN! love you.Peace@
2006-08-22 07:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by I๓ρєяเãl ãяc° ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile more, be more approachable, encourage guys to talk, be a good listener. carry a mirror, check your self out. You may be sending the wrong signals. Don't try to analyze other peoples thoughts. Enjoy moments.
2006-08-22 07:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to go see a counselor. You don't just have a boyfriend because you want one and decided to have one. People and relationships aren't like going to the store for a pet that suits your mood.
If you want a relationship to work, it needs to start naturally. And you need to pursue it with someone who likes you for you.
2006-08-22 07:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by noir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see a guy that you like do not be afraid to approach him , you may find out that he likes a strong , go-for-it kind of girl .If that does not work call me !!!
2006-08-22 07:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by rocknrod04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there,
it sounds to me as they are taking you in the wrong way. let them know who you really are by showing them. if you have something to say then say it. you sound like a pretty good chick. if they have a reason to not be with you then they must have thought about it. good luck
2006-08-22 07:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ellezypoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up. Laugh a little. Relax.
2006-08-22 07:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by eric_aixelsyd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER change who you are for a guy. Be true to yourself and the right guy will come along. Good luck!!!
2006-08-22 07:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by rosecrashers1365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋