I've recently come out of a 2 year relationship, and the once Self Confident guy who loved chatting to Women (me) has gone shy... All my friends think I've still a smooth talker although recent ventures into town on a night out haven't proved fruitful as I'm finding it difficult to approach girls (grrrr) My female friends say I'm a really good looking guy so maybe it's a confidence thing.
Description: 5'11, Athletic/toned, short dark hair, green/blue eyes
2006-08-22 00:19:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just need to get back into the swing of things...take your time theres no rush.
2006-08-22 00:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 15:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get a good answer just by the decription of your question.
My guess is that you are still a 'smooth talker', You may still feel 'guilt' chatting to other girls because you still see yourself as taken (even though you relafionship has ended).
Im sure in time... when you be totally over your ex girlfriend and see yourself as a true single man again, you wont have problems being that self confident guy once again and chat up the girls!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-08-22 00:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not so much the self confidence, but its the disbelief that youre not in a relationship, that she had teh audacity to finish with you and go off with someone else.
it happens. it happens every day, so get used to it. and your failing coz youre trying too hard, which is why you feel akward and self conscious of your actions. youve experienced rebuttal, denial and have no doubt been told NO on more than one occasion. **** dude, it happens.
a lot depends on whether you just want sex, or a relationship. you want sex, put your hand in your pocket and pay, like everyone else does one way or another...
stop worrying. and stop comparing your successes to your mates...it isnt a race, or a competition.
2006-08-22 00:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sometimes when a breakup happens it can dent your confidence in ways that aren't clear but people pick up on unconcious signals you are sending out without realising.
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Best wishes.
2006-08-22 00:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by internetoptimiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just frightened of being hurt again or maybe you are looking for something more meaningful now than just a cheap pick up in a bar, after all hopefully you've grown up a bit in the last two years.
Give it time.
2006-08-22 00:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-21 18:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 13:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what it is, is the fact that you were in a relationship for 2 yrs so had no need to chat up the ladies so you have just forgotten how 2 i think you will be fine in a few weeks, and if your female friends think your hot you shouldn't have any problems
good luck!
2006-08-22 00:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u used 2 do 2 feel better bout things? prehaps its 2 early 2 get bk on the old horse! have u got a friend that could hep u out in the areas of ure life that u feel that ure missing out on
2006-08-22 00:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lynz Lou XxX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confidence don't just go out from you without a reason. maybe because of your past relationship.
its a little hard to pick up the pieces but one by one u can make it.
better start from the beginning, i mean go out, have fun, look around. for sure in right time it will comes up again to you.
good luck
2006-08-22 00:33:24 · answer #11 · answered by Amani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋