dad had affair and possibly other kids how to find them?

Question

iam not sopoesed to know my dad died and my mom told my wife but asked her not to tell me.

Answer 1

These links will help you

http://www.zabasearch.com/
http://people.yahoo.com/
http://www.freeprf.com/
http://www.reunitetonight.com/
http://family.public-records.com/...
http://www.192.com/
http://www.b4usearch.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com/
http://www.emailaddresses.com/
http://www.anywho.com/
http://www.addresses.com/
http://find.intelious.com/


Good luck and take care

Answer 2

Go directly to your mother, for two reasons.
First, as her son and your wife's husband, you need to set a clear boundary here, and let her know that telling your wife, and expecting her to keep such a thing a secret was not only unfair to your wife, but it also was unfair to you. Tell her you deserve honesty and that you're a man -- not a child who needs to be protected. Second, as your father's wife, your mother knows at least something about the 'other woman' and clearly does not want to talk about it. She'll also benefit from knowing that though you're sad dad did it, you love him and you honor her decision to stay with him and make it work. As for the secrecy, don't let her back out of talking by saying she knows nothing -- how else would she know if he possibly has other children? My guess is your mother is needing this secret to get out anyway, because she's had to keep it for many years. Do this confrontation in as loving a way as possible, but keep those boundaries clear. Tell her that the best gift she can give dad's memory is a commitment to being honest and open about family matters, for everyone's sake. Secrets hurt people, and remind her how much dad's secret must have hurt her and that you want to help ease that pain because you love her. I hope this makes sense and helps a bit. Such a conversation could lead to a lot of healing for your mother, and for the rest of the family too!

Answer 3

If anyone had a name that they would be willing to share with you, it would give you a huge advantage. Was the woman located in the same town you live in? Approximately when did this take place?
You could search old birth announcements in newspapers, check places he might have visited, take along a picture of him and ask if anyone knew him.
There is a lot you could do but it would take time and, possibly, money. Of course you could just take what you know and hand it over to a detective or someone who specializes in finding lost relatives.
All this depends on whether or not you think it's worth the effort. Only you can decide that.

Answer 4

i am trying to figure out what you are saying. you are not suppose to know and your father has died?
Please leave well enough alone. Or talk to your mom. You are opening a can of worms you may not like.
I think talking to your Mom first if you have to.
This is alot of soul searching for yourself.
How old was this affair?
If it was a long time ago, you will be disrupting other families.
Think before you leap; you may end up in quick sand..
Good Luck

Answer 5

Ask your Mother, she probably knows the other women your dad had affair. You can't look for them (as they are the source of possible siblings) unless you talk to your Mom, she might be offended of you. You may ask your wife to talk to your mom and tell her that it would be good idea if your mom talked to you herself.

Answer 6

Why do you want to know?

I was adopted. I was the product of an affair. I helped(not the full reason) to end a 30 year marriage. My siblings wanted to know about me, and then just got on with thier lives.

Would you really include your previously unknown siblings in you life? Would you accept them? What do you really want......knowledge or connection?

To find them easier than knowing what you do when you find them. Contact me...........I can help you locate sibs. OR contact me........I can help with the issue of the non-recognized child.

Answer 7

I have to agree with the person who said something about talking to your Mom. I think that would be the best way to start.

Answer 8

Let the past stay in the past, you could be sorry if you trace these other kids, you may open a can of worms for yourself and your mom.

Answer 9

go to the registry of births or marriages and find out. Or you could go to the press and ask them to publish an article to help you find your possible half siblings.

Answer 10

Ask you dad, he will tell you on a walk in the park

Answer 11

Why not?Re U sure he is ur dad? cos ur da first person Who is meant to Know dese