Under what circumstances should you get back with an ex-girlfriend?

Question

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. It would help clarify a great deal for me. Have a lovely day!

Answer 1

Oliver - you are suffering aren't you?!
Never go back.
Unless 24 years have passed. Then marry her within 7 months and live happily ever after.
C'est moi et mon mari.
Long story.
True love and soul mates. Finally managed to reclaim what should have been ours years ago.

Answer 2

Personally, I do not think that there is any circumstance in which someone should go back to an ex. Everyone that has ever broken up with me has attempted to come back. But I feel that if it did not work out the first time, it definitely will not work out a second time. After a trust is broken, it cannot be remedied, so I could not take them back.

I am not saying that I was not tempted to at times, but after contemplating on it, I realized that it would be more from loneliness, or just wanting someone familiar around than actually wanting THEM back.
If someone is an ex, there is a reason.

Answer 3

It depends on the amount of time that has passed since you were last together. If it has been recently, people really don't change that much. If this is someone that you knew long ago then time and wisdom acquired through life can help a person evolve into a better human being. People can become more tolerant and understanding, more selfless and aware...If you feel like you are leaning towards rekindling something you once had it is possible but make sure that you aren't doing it just because you don't want to be alone. Make sure that you really want to be with HER. Good luck! :-)

Answer 4

It's important to recognise why you broke up in the first place - as has been said, if that issue is still around, then are things going to be different this time around?
Saying that, if time has passed and your older/more mature, it's likely you'd handle the issue in another way.
I'm with an ex-partner...the reason we parted was due to a lot of outside influences and as we were both young (quite a bit actually!) we didn't know how to react or deal with those issues.
Only advice worth anything is to go with your instinct...inside we do know - really!

Answer 5

It actually depends on how you break-up in the first place. If the reason was falling out of love, then there's no point of getting back. Otherwise, if you just gave a break to your relationship and then later on realized that both of you can't live without each other, then try to get back. It takes two to Tango so make sure she feels the same way too.

Answer 6

You know in Grosse Point Blank, John Cusack and Dan Ackroyd, circling each other, each with their hand in their own jackets, ready to fast-draw and take the other one out? When you've sone that for ten minutes, and agreed that all you're here for is to rip each others clothes off and go for it...

Or you could sit down and chat in a neutral venue, and talk about what went wrong first time, why you think you should try again, are you missing each other?

Answer 7

I believe that when you break off and find someone else, that "remaining friends" is a farce. It never works out, and soon you are back to sex.

However if there is no third person, i don't see why not. Forgiveness has healing power.

Answer 8

If what split you was a genuine mistake and you are able to truly forgive.


P.S. Love your paintings, only one question, one of the ladies in one of the paintings is very well endowed but missing a nipple, why?

Answer 9

This happened to me. We always loved each other but had to separate, mainly because of undiagnosed depression and its effects on our family. Through time, we remained friends, and I finally realized how much he loved me, how much he was willing to grow for our relationship and how much he meant to me. I'm so glad we let ourselves fall in love again. We were finally getting it right, but then, he died. Yeah, it sucks. But it just goes to show you, you never know what's going to happen so follow your heart. I'm glad I did.

Answer 10

If you want to, and trust that she isn't gonna mess your head up and think you're weak for going back to her.....if she ended it don't go back unless she does a lot of work to get you back. If you dumped her don't go back unless you are totally satisfied she has changed whatever it was you dumped her for. its gonna be tough.