I'm in a brand new relationship and I've already cheated on my bf twice. It was with the person I've been messin' with off and on for the past 8 or 9 years. How come I don't have any self control. His ex-wife and kids are now living w/him and I'm a little worried they'll hook-up. He tells me the sex was never good with her and he's not tryin' to go there. But I can't help but worry. Well, i've prepared myself just in case it does happen.
I guess I'm used to guys lying and cheating, which is why I did what I did. How do I get to a point where I can learn to trust?
2006-08-21 21:39:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well dear, Its about learning and growing. Don't let this guy block the real man that may be out there for you. As far as cheating goes, remember that you don't always have to have a "back-up plan". If you have been messing with this guy on and off for 8-9 years, what is it about him that you love so much that you allow him to have your body....LUST....its not worth it. One day you will look back on this situation and be happy that you got yourself out of it. Not all men are cheaters and liars, but remember this if you keep looking and being attracted to the same type men you always have, then you will always get the same results you always have. Good Luck!!
2006-08-21 21:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by sgame00 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've already proven that your cheating doesn't take the sting away from this lover of some "8 or 9 years" is doing, sleeping with his roomate / ex-wife. And you're wise to doubt his saying the sex he has with the ex-wife isn't that good. Prepare yourself to be right on this and move on.
You're used to guys using and lying to you; but returning the same doesn't help you in any way. Be a better judge of character and seek out the guys you CAN trust---and be faithful should you involve matters of YOUR heart with them.
Once you blindly trust someone (and that's a pretty scary thing to do), you'll grow as a mature person. We all work hard at avoiding heartache---when we really can't avoid such from happening.
2006-08-22 05:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hard Rocker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl,
I had actually had that problem not too long ago, where in order to protect myself from anywrongdoing, I made sure to do the most first. So I cheated, lied and whatever other things I thought the woman might do to me. I found that I would never be able to trust myself much less trust my partner living like that, I made the decision to get married on a whim and I can not beleive that I have not cheated at all. And let me tell you my wife is a pretty boring lay., Anyhow, My lady you just have to forgive those who hurt you and realize that you do deserve true and long-lasting love
Sincerely,
Sincere.
2006-08-22 05:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn a bit of what the rest ofus call self control huny. if you like new guy so much, then why the hell are you off with your gripping partner?
and if you are in a new "relationship", then why are you stressing over the other guys sex life?
do you realy think that that makes sense?
cumon! if you want help, you gotta meet people half way. stop stressing over the other guy, he's not your official guy. and dont uuse that pathetic excuse about being used to guys dogging you or whatever. thats what like 98 percent of guys do (lol, but seriously speaking here) thers a heluva lot of nice guys. (yes just 2% of the population, but work with me here)
you gotta make yourself trust. just give in. this crap about learning is such hogwash.
sort it out huny coz they bf, might b the guy 4 u and u 2 busy messing around with someone else to realise.
2006-08-22 04:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by rumbz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would probably benefit from some counseling. Whatever issues you have, what ever help you need, you aren't going to find any simple answer to. Go professional.
2006-08-22 04:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am the most monogomous person I know... date me! Or someone like me anyway...
2006-08-22 04:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counseling
2006-08-22 04:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by P K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no words for you
2006-08-22 04:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by destiny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋