I recently took a partner to a very plush hotel, with spa, she had a day of treatments, we had a large lounge room with jaquzi. I wanted to give her loads of papmering but all she wanted was to go for diner then bed early no rumpy pumpy. I have taken this as a big rejection again..I have been trying. If it was you that was taken away for the weekend...would you have enjoyed and entered into the spirit of the thought.??
2006-08-21 21:24:36 · 15 answers · asked by tezz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Certainly not, if the 'spirit of the thought' was that all that pampering was supposed to be payment for services rendered. That is nothing more than prostitution.
And furthermore, if you are not married, your partner was perfectly right to say no to sex. Sex creates a bond so close that it cannot be broken without a lot of damage. Normally, that would mean heartbreak, but if it doesn't, you should be even more worried because it means that destruction of the ability to love and give of yourself has taken place.
So it only makes sense to have sex in the context of a permanent, exclusive relationship. No running home to Mommy and Daddy if trouble comes, no third parties, no breakups. And this will not happen by accident: it will happen when you:
- really put each other first, higher than anyone except God,
- take 100% responsibility for your lives, your decisions, your actions, and
- make a permanent commitment, in front of other people so that you are accountable.
That is what the spirit of the thought ought to have been before you even thought of having sex together; I would strongly suggest you make any necessary changes before you allow yourself to think about it again.
That way, you will spare yourself a lot of trouble and temptation, because you have made a decision to love this person no matter what, and focus on doing what needs to be done to have a good, lasting relationship. You are only responsible for your own behavior, so regardless of the other person's behavior, if you have really done this, you have a clear conscience.
Another thing: every sexual relationship has a spiritual element. If it is undertaken in circumstances other than what I describe above, you open yourself to influences from the devil & co., from which only God can release you. So if you do do things 'by the Book', then you avoid that, God joins you together, and you show respect for Him in this matter.
And once all this is in order, there is still the ongoing obligation (yes, it is commanded) to love our neighbor as ourselves. And neighbor includes even our enemies. Love is not self-seeking, acts neither out of fear (e.g. of rejection), nor out of desire for reward (e.g. shaking of booty). If we show love to our neighbor, even 'the least of these', then we show love to the God who created us all.
There, I've given you a bit to think about. May God bless you with the wisdom to do your bit to make your relationships everything He would have them be.
2006-08-21 21:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question. Yes I would have tried to enjoy the experience has much as I could. Maybe she just wans't interested in being there, because it doesnt sound as is she wanted to enjoy the whole experience and the time you two had to spend toghether. Next time take her somewhere les expensive take her to the cinema and then a mcdonalds maybe she'll appreciate that more. That's what ungrateful people deserve.
2006-08-21 23:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be very annoyed if someone did this. if they were feeling tired or unwell i could have re-booked the treat for another time. if she's off sex right now and has told you then that's different but it's a bit odd to use you like that and would she have gone to bed early if she'd been out with a pal. very odd behaviour..even without sex..it may have been that time of the month but you sound like you've been together a while so you'd know. is she mad with you?
2006-08-21 21:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I would given this chance with my loved one I would be more than delighted. Any gal would enjoy such a treatment from their bf. If a gal don't appreciate such a gift then I dun know what is going on in her mind. Maybe you should find gal who appreciates you and doesn't behave like that. All the best man
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2016-11-05 09:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been to a spa myself i must admit i felt so pampered and relaxed after that i did just want to sleep, its not necessarliy the right thing to put you in the mood!!!
2006-08-21 21:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by yo_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you gave her enough notice then of course she should of enjoyed it. Yeah if my hubby took me away for the weekend i would have sex all weekend long who cares about being tired quality time, alone time. You need to sit down and speak to your partner as t his does not sound to good.
2006-08-21 21:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by jules 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things. 1. A day of pampering can actually leave you feeling very tired, it is possible she was knackered. 2. I f my hubby had done that for me, he would be the one that was knackered!!!
2006-08-21 21:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is so damn spoiled or she really doesn't love you.
I would make love with my man the whole night through (there is something about hotel rooms...).
2006-08-21 22:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is sad that you did this only to make her to sleep with you.
Clever girl she must be.
2006-08-21 21:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by ywe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋