i am thinking until i get married i can't have sex. what do you think?
2006-08-21 21:11:50 · 35 answers · asked by Mexicool187 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you shouldn`t care what we think
2006-08-21 21:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are absolutely right to think that. Sex creates a bond so close that it cannot be broken without a lot of damage - either heartbreak or destruction of the ability to love and give yourself to another. You leave a bit of yourself with the other person, and they with you.
So it only makes sense to have sex in the context of a permanent, exclusive relationship. Which of course will not happen by accident: you need to:
- really put each other first (above everyone except God - and that includes Mom and Dad);
- take 100% responsibility for your lives, your decisions and actions - which again means becoming independent from your parents, and
- make that permanent commitment to each other and only each other, in front of other people so you are accountable.
If you do this, you spare yourselves a lot of trouble and temptation, because you have made a decision to focus on doing what is needed to make a good and lasting relationship.
Another thing: every sexual relationship has a spiritual element. So if you do things this way, you ensure that you are not opening yourselves to spiritual influences from the dark side - from which only God can set you free. Instead, God joins you together, and you show respect respect for Him.
I wish you all the best in your personal life - may God bless you!
2006-08-21 21:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you will know when you are ready and no one can tell you when that will be.
I could be your wedding night. It could be before. But it also happened that someone wasn't ready even than.
If you are not ready, it is OK and doesn't have anything with your age. Sex isn't so big taboo any more, at least on Internet, so you can be virgin without being ignorant. Find out new things, learn and it will help you to improve the moment when it come.
2006-08-21 21:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by no one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex until you are absolutely ready to do so!! Saving yourself for marriage or serious committment is the best way to go(that's what I'm doing.) Any person that you meet who does not respect your wishes is not worth your time! You're doing the right thing.... I have sooo much respect for you right now.... and the person you're saving it for will respect you, too, for having such good values. Trust me, in a world full of STD'S and unwanted pregnancies such as the one we live in, I don't think you're missing out on much by holding out! I'm not saying that sex is not a beautiful thing, but I do think it's a really big decision (especially your first time) and you should take a lot of consideration into who you want to share it with. It SHOULD be with someone who you love and who loves you, such as a spouse or serious relationship. So stay strong, good luck, and God bless you!!
2006-08-21 21:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In MY opinion (which really shouldn't matter) I wouldn't wait until your married but I would wait until you are truly in love. See I was saving myself for marriage but then one night I took some ecstasy and my sex drive was off the wall and so was a girls so we had sex, but we didn't make love...theres a difference...It was meaningless and to me that made it pointless. There was no passion, not love and respect for each other after the deed was done. So I am no longer waiting till marriage but Im waiting till I find the right girl, someone who I love and respect and want to charish and remeber a night of love-making with
2006-08-21 21:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking you are correct. Sex is for married people. Most people today think of sex as just a meaningless pleasure but it isn't. Sex is special. It is sacred and it is something that shouldn't be taken for granted. If you are going to lose your virginity let it be to your spouse. Peace and God bless.
2006-08-21 21:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by cave man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as it feels right for you. For whatever reason you decided to remain a virgin this long...I commend you on your virtue and fortitude.
Since you've abstained this long, make it your business that the person you make love to the first time is well worth it.
Yours is a treasure that only the blessed should receive.
2006-08-21 21:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being a 19-year-old virgin. Wait until you're ready, honey.
2006-08-21 21:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Vixen Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least wait until you meet the right person. If you do stay one until your married, I think that's wonderful and more people should think that way.
2006-08-21 21:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say keep your virginity. Its priceless. I regret ever losing mines. And Plus, it will be a nice gift for the one you marry =]
2006-08-21 21:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by KrZyBeE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your decision to make. some people say they want to remain virgin till they get married, but then, when they meet somone they have strong feelings for, they have sex... its your life and your body... do whatever youlike with it, but don't waste it with the first that comes by!
2006-08-21 21:16:38 · answer #11 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋