I don't want to get my heart broken again. How can I protect myself when meeting someone new? Thanks everyone.
2006-08-21 20:38:59 · 23 answers · asked by coolchick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly? it's normal for you to be scared.
after breaking up with someone you've dedicated so much time to, it's only normal for you to feel frightened because you've lost a habit. and believe me, it's a habit and nothing else.
you've encountered many things in your life that have hurt you emotionally, so put this experience with the others. don't think it special because it was a 'relationship'.
if he can break up with you, then he's not worth a second thought. so mope around a bit, cry to sad songs, indulge in some junk food, but afterward, get back up, work yourself into splendid shape and go back out to that battle field!
don't push yourself to date someone new. but remember, don't compare any prospective men to your ex. that will only cause you to push them away.
and don't make yourself commit too quickly. date around, have fun. this is your first time in a while to be allowed to check out guys freely without worrying about what your guy will think.
and you can't protect your heart from getting broken again because love comes unexpectedly. just follow the flow, and i'm sure you'll find that guy who'll treasure the way your ex never did. becareful of the guys you meet, don't just date anyone though, you don't want to meet a psychopath. but don't reject the guys who ask you out so readily. give the guys you think are 'cute' or 'pretty cool' a chance. there's a mr. right for every girl out there. your ex wasn't it. so have fun, be daring be brave. be everything your ex never wanted you to be, and find that one man who'll think you're perfect in every way.
good luck dear.
2006-08-21 20:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by jell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your previous relationship does not prove anything. It is just a part of life that we get hurt or rejected. We all go thru that phase of life. But you shouldn't get scared of taking that chance again.
Being in a relationship involves risk, but it all depends on how you handle the relationship. Every relationship has its ups and downs. All you have to do is have faith with your partner, and do your part.
Right now, just take things slow. If you are still having second thought on dating, maybe you are not yet ready. It takes time to heal a broken heart. But be open if love comes your way the next time around.
2006-08-21 20:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to move forward sometimes but you can never fault someone for other mistakes. Take dating slowly.. start as friends and as trust builds up you will see what happens. Sometimes love just grabs hold of your heart with a friend but most important make sure who ever it is can be honest.. able to communicate.
You may end up finding your true love .. your knight in shining armor .. but you got to stand on your two feet to move forward. I know you can do it.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-21 20:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u see people get hurt like yourself and all i can say as it workes 4 me is have time to think and fell then go out to the world with your head up high and try again dont make yourself and others miss out on meeting u or u meeting them ok just keep going.
HANG IN THERE YOUR PAL CHICHI
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2006-08-21 20:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by NAUGHTY GURL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you dont supply him a shot i'm getting the effect you wil ask your self what would desire to of been and via my adventure blunders are much less complicated to hold than regrets . in basic terms dont positioned out for a sturdy long at the same time as until eventually u know he's actual that way it doesnt count what his intentions are cos if he seems to be a dick he wil be leaving with no longer something
2016-09-29 13:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 9 yo or what? It's a risk vs. reward thing: Having a gf/bf isn't necessarily fantastic. There are pros and cons still. No need to jump into that unless youre sure it's for you
2006-08-21 20:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't protect yourself from heartbreak, in trying to do so, you'll only cause yourself more agony. Don't worry about dating until you feel like you can handle it, right now sounds too soon for you.
2006-08-21 20:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never really protect ur heart from that but as time pass it gets earier but u just have to brave it and put urself out there and hopfully u wont get ur heart breaken. love is a gamble
2006-08-21 20:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all felt your pain and apprehension.... This is a good time for you to rediscover yourself....plan your new few....open a new chapter of your life. The world is yours for the taking!! You'll know when your ready to start dating again. They say time heals all wounds.....actually love heals all wounds. Good luck!
2006-08-21 20:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you will do, depends on ur expectations. give ur self a space off...no responsibilities in first dates, just check him. if u feel comfortable then move on... if not, let him go, that's it..it is the fun of dating. believe in ur self then u will get the right person very soon !!
2006-08-21 20:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by excited 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋