ok, I think she's not interested in me any longer after our first meeting yesterday. I will meet her today just because I know a man who rents an appartment and she needs it so we'll go together there and I will introduce her. I think it's the only reason she meets me again though.
But still I'm not 100% sureyet. During our date she was smiling and laughing but gave me no hugs or kisses, also mentioned she was sleepy but let her to take her home.
So as you know, today I'll see her again. Should I still ask if she would be interested in seeing me one more trime? Or should I appologise for a terrible yesterday (to me it was enjoyable but not for her, perhaps)?
thanks!
2006-08-21 20:28:56 · 10 answers · asked by Mr. Owl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you are asking these questions reveals your problem.
You need to be more confident. If she doesn't like you, then you wouldn't want to try to be with a woman who doesn't click with you, would you.
Women like a very self confident man, and if you are going over all of these things like this in your mind, then you are inevitably projecting that same kind of trepidation and uncertainty in your interactions with other people.
If you become confident enough, and assertive enough, you can be attractive to any woman and then you never are as interested in women, which is a good thing.
I say this from experience.
When you are young and given over to lots of infatuations, it is a reflection of insecurity.
If you can put yourself in a lot of dangerous difficult situations, then you can defeat those insecurities and you don't feel things to be as far removed from you.
When I was younger I used to find myself extremely attracted to very elegant looking physically attractive women. It was an expression of desire combined with fear, and not a place of knowledge.
Because of a series of unusual events that challenged my confidence in many areas beside this, I was forced to "man up" and ignore concerns over people's opinions, whether some girl liked me or not, etc. etc. etc.
You need to get very manly, and self confident, while not forsaking kindness and gentleness, and then you will not feel as compelled to be with women.
2006-08-21 20:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not, in any circumstances apologize, and yes I do think you have a chance. Maybe she had a great time too, but she is unsure of her feelings. So instead of accepting defeat, just go ahead ask her again, and again, and if she continues to see you, don't worry about the hughs and kisses, some people need more time for this and beside, you as a man in a relationship must be the leading part. Good luck, mate :)
2006-08-21 20:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by silverspoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer with girls is: never assume anything. I would ask. The worst thing that can happen is she says no, right? Don't apologize unless she indicates that she really had a bad time. If it was your first date, then she probably is one of 3 things: 1)She's not interested in anything but the apartment (not likely or she could have just asked for the address), 2)She's interested but is afraid of pushing herself on you, or 3) She's interested, but not a very touchy-feely kind of person and doesn't believe in a lot of touching on a first date.
2006-08-21 20:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep things as casual as possible. She may not enjoy your date last night but you shouldn't give up if you do really like her. Not all good relationships start in a perfect first date. Just continue being that same person that you are. You doing her this favor of accompanying her is one thing she probably appreciates. Continue being sweet and nice to her. Show her that you are interested in her and you still plan to see her after your not-so-perfect first date. =)
2006-08-21 20:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. enjoying in a date is like clapping, you will always need both the hands together.. so if you have enjoyed ur date then she must have had good time wid you two.
change your expectations, she might have liked you as a frd but not as future bf.
hugging and kissing... could b tough for anyone on first date.. even you didn't hugged her or kissed her... she might be feeling the same.. when you meet her next... just tell her you want to hug her... talking straight always helps.
2006-08-21 20:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by lsnfathesametime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act desparate! Apologizing for a terrible date when it really was not terrible for you is no way to start a relationship. If you have a good time today, then ask for another date.
2006-08-21 20:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are assuming that she doesn't want to see you after the first date. after the apartment you can ask her straight up in order to settle your mind, 'was wondering if you would still want to go out again, like for dinner?' you'll know depending on your answer.
2006-08-21 20:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are creating a lot of drama for yourself, be honest to yourself, sound like she want to use you and you are going alng hoping to catch something-herpes-, but man get real. just ask her directly, it can get expensive and then the disapointient, self incrimination, why, why, .
call her up and ask her, if sound good, go with it and if you get the feeling you are being use then run like hell, you having lost nothing becouse you did not invested nothing.
2006-08-21 20:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by gotaken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just play it by ear. let her know that you still would like to see her and that you like her. and let her decided what she wants.
2006-08-21 20:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirlsliketoride2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm...invite her out again...look at her eyes ...they dont lie..good luck
2006-08-21 20:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by miraart2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋