If he is a Muslim, and I don't have a religion, is it still a rule that I must convert?

Question

Why is it that I have read in some website that if the man is a MusliM, and the woman is a Christian, then she won't have to convert? I am confused.

as some of your replies say muslim men are allowed to marry a christian or jew lady. then how about people like me who have no religion?? can anyone answer that? and i am not throwing away any beliefs for him, its that i don't have a belief in the first place. and also, of course he is not forcing me. but i just want to know are we allow to marry without me converting since i do not have a religion?

n those who know nothing about islam please don't give me stupid answers. u r just insulting the religion. respect all religions, i am sure your gods teach you that.

geesh! i ask if it is a rule that a person with no religion have to convert if marrying a muslim man, I DID NOT ASK FOR OPINIONS IF I SHOULD CONVERT. AND I DID NOT SAY ANYONE IS FORCING ME TO CONVERT. I AM ASKING IF ITS A RULE TO CONVERT. Keep all you opinions to yourselves, I did not ask for that.

oh Monk Mst, i am grateful for those who replied me with what thye know about islam and sharing with me their knowledge. but i am impatient to replies like these: if he has enough lust for you he can convert outside his faith or accept you as a wife outside of his faith
i'm with tish...be who you are...God doesn't expect you to follow some stupid MAN-MADE rule...
Do yourselves both a favor, convert him!
Do yourself a favor and stay away from Muslim men, you're
looking for big trouble.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
You better stay as you are (without religion). it is better than becoming a muslim lady.
You will be prisoned for the rest of your life.

Answer 1

It is said that a man should marry believer Ie a Muslims but he can marry the women of the book Ie.. Christian or Jew. U do not have to convert to Islam is you marry but you have to weigh the cost of your union. there is no compulsion ie. Islam Meaning you cannot convert on the behalf of anything are any one it has to be your own doing no one can force you,

Answer 2

Rules donot come without a reason. So you need to know why a particular rule is being imposed and the consequences that follow breaking that rule. I think people here are trying you to guide you in the best possible way. Give them a break and be patient.

Now about your question, yes it is allowed to marry a woman who is a follower of the book of Allah but she has to convert to Islam on a later stage. The reason for this allowance is because at the time of Prophet the people were converts in halves like husband accepted Islam and wife is not yet but the marraige remains in place until sometime later.

Now why both should be muslims, its because of the children and the community that we bring up. Now mother is the first house of discipline... children will learn what their mothers teach them. A mother's position in Islam is 3 times greater than the father. Tell me if you want confused children to be brought up because father believes in something and mother in something else.

It's all about family values and guidance to the same direction.

Hope you understand.

Answer 3

Hi there Fiona....

I can understand ur frustration with those nonsense answers.

By the way, yes In Islam, if a man or a women wanted to marry a non-muslim, their partner need to convert to Islam. Preferable if the partner convert because he or she want to know more abt Islam rather than jus because of marriage.

About muslim guy can marry christian girl etc, different religious teachers will give you different answers. but Mijority Nowadays would will tell you that is converting to same religion is the best choice.

Hope this answers ur Qs.

Take care.

Answer 4

You would have to convert, but not because Muslim is selfish and unreasonable.

When a couple are of 2 different religion, if causes alot of havoc in a marriage. Religion being the basic foundation of your lives, shapes your character and personality. Believing in the same thing makes marriage a whole lot easier with smoother communication and understanding. Many marriage of diff religion lands in disaster after just a few years, when the 'love' gets distributed among children and when upbringing comes about.

It's really the most reasonable thing to do, for the sake of your future together. This is not just for Muslims, but for other mix marriages too.

Answer 5

If he is a Muslim then by Islamic rules he is only allowed to marry Muslim, Christian or a Jew (Believers).
He can't Marry an atheist or a non-believer.
However, many Muslims in USA & Europe ignore this rule but I personally will not recomend this.
Kindly check-out for yourself.

Answer 6

a muslim man can marry a woman of BOOK (people of the book- Al-Kitabh). this includes jews, christians and muslims, becoz inspite of our differences we all 3 sects beleive in concept of THERE IS NO GOD BUT ONE GOD. but i think that even bible and torah mentions that u should not marry idolators ot people worshipping false Gods..

since u have said that u dont beleive in God, but later in life somewhere along the line u will start trusting the existence of God. i have seen many cases likeu where people later in their lives accept God. but i think its becpz of ur age that u are bound to reason and doubt the presence of God. it happens to many people. t will take some time.

i feel its better u dont have faith in God rather than worshipping a false God. so still its left for both of u to decide at the end of the day.i'm giving u a verse from quran wher it says that there is no compulsion on religion.

Qur'an 2:256.
Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah heareth and knoweth all things.

it depends on both of u and ur levels of comfortability, if u have any restraints its better u dont convert. and moreover a person will luv u for who u are and not for what u will become for them.

all the very best for ur bright future. may Allah bless u and may He guide u in the right path.

Answer 7

Islam has made marriage to Jewish or Christian women lawful for Muslim men, for they are Ahl al-Kitab, that is, People of the Book, or people whose tradition is based upon a divinely revealed Scripture. Although they have distorted and altered it, they do possess a religion of divine origin, and hence Islam has made some exceptions in dealing with them

Answer 8

religion must not be forced..if you really love him, then you should take the initiative to understand his belief, learn about his religion and when you have fully understand it and ready to believe, embrace the religion because of your own belief not because you want to marry him. one of the complication that i could think of out of marriage of different religion or belief is the children..what will they believe..how will you teach you children? in what lifestyle will you let them live? it is not a matter of rule..having a belief is important..
discuss this with him, ask him what his opinions are..if you want more information, ask a local head of muslim community for a more thorough explanation..ask quetions that you have doubts on..

Answer 9

Islam recognise other two religion (Jews & Christian) as people of the books (torah & bible). these two religion brought by Abaraham decendance (moses and jesus) in isaac side.. in the same time mohamed also decendance of abraham in ishmael side. so, the teaching of all these there relgion almost the same. so, muslim can marry christian woman (without covert to islam).

Answer 10

If you are a student of the scripture (Jew or Christian) he can only ask you to convert. If you are of any other persuasion it is his duty as a Muslim to convert you!