This somehow is giving me greater inner energies. It is makng me stronger within. However, I am aware of the pain of the distancing too. Am I punishing them and myself too? Am I being selfish? I do like the sense of inner freedom. Do you understand what I mean?To the world I may be depressed, but I am more myself, within.
2006-08-21 20:03:25 · 14 answers · asked by spiritualseeker 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
How do you know they care about you, seems to me that you would not have turned your back on them had they really cared about you. The fact that you feel stronger within yourself strongly suggests that they were dragging you down. People we once perceived as caring about us really only wanted something from us, when you work out what that something was, you can then realise why you turned your back on them. But maybe they turned their back on you first. Friendship needs nothing in return, it should be based on trust and honesty and understanding. Maybe you just outgrew them. Trust yourself and be happy.
2006-08-26 01:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, there has to be a balance between society and solitude.
If you've gotten too close to people or been around them too long, distance might have been just what your relationships with these people needed. In that case, your solitude is a gift to both you and them, even if it's uncomfortable now. Having that discomfort makes us feel so much better when we come together after a time apart.
You're being the right kind of selfish--the kind that makes you tend to the garden within you, which has to be done if we are to grow.
Of course you're more yourself within! The "you within" is the only "you" that counts.
Enjoy your solitude and then enjoy your social interactions.
2006-08-21 20:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you but I think you believe what you claim here. You are avoiding responsibility. The fact of being means you have responsibility. They don't need you anymore than you need them.
You are selfish because you want them to show you more love and you think you can withstand the pain more and longer than they can.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder... what they didn't tell you... "only for a few months" and then you are forgotten.
You are a perfectionist and you feel you need to be perfect around them so you will be loved. Do a test. Go back to them and be yourself for a change. Not defiant but yourself. If you feel like putting a glass of water on a table without a coaster, do it. Don't take a shower the day before you visit and wear your clothes from the day before... no deodorant. If you don't agree with what is being said, don't enter into the conversation or take any sides. For once say, "I don't know."
2006-08-21 20:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I like that!! .. I have felt the same. I think I understand it more deeply, just wouldnt come out right in words here. I always try to be alone,and I dont think I mind too much if I was absolutly alone for a long time. I dont buy into the view that we must always be with other people.
You put it well.
I think you are being selffish, its just that I dont think that this selfish acts should always be called wrong.
I could say more, just wouldnt in public, will come accross in the wrong manner.
Good luck
2006-08-21 20:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by CJunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to really know. You seem pretty self aware which is a good thing so maybe you need this time for a sort of healing.
Ultimately, the only way to become truly happy though is to connect with other people. If your happiness depends on avoiding people I would say it is a very fragile happiness. Something a kin to being happy only after buying something... shallow. But still, we all need some time to ourselves, and that new HD LCD TV looks pretty good... ;-)
2006-08-21 20:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bad Buddhist 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I am not stopping you from isolating yourself but you have to think about the other people.Maybe the people that care about you may love you.You never know what is going to happen out there in the world.But if I was you I would go out there and discover things that I never knew exist.For example finding a new relationship.The girl I like is leaving for england next week and I live in Australia.I feel like isolating myself but then you never know whats going to happen.I havent told her yet and time is running out,so before she leaves I planned something big.So its best to get out there.
2006-08-21 20:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew Y 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
greater inner energies?
Wow man, lay off the Vitamins. They are not all what they are cracked up too be.
You might try Maloxx*.
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2006-08-21 20:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you taught that there is safety in the world? Perhaps somehow, you subconsciously feel that there isn't anything that you can rely on people to offer you unconditionally.
Well, you're right. Don't worry about them, just keep living your isolationist life and be you.
2006-08-21 20:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Tuna-San 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I feel this way sometimes.....I vaunt to be alone.....It is good to give yourself time to be reflective and introspective, but don't completely isolate yourself....I have found that we can find good qualities in some, and we can also share ours with some. It is not all bad.
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2006-08-21 20:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by gracefully_saved 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WHO CAN CARE ABOUT YOU YOU HAVE ISOLATED YOURSELF THEREFORE NO ONE CAN GET TO KNOW YOU AND BEING ONLINE IS NOT THE SAME SO BREAK OUT OF YOUR SHELL AND GO OUTSIDE
2006-08-21 20:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by jkpoet2@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋