Relationship question for women?

Question

Scenario:

BFF turns into BF + GF. GF breaks up with BF and says "It's not your fault, you didnt do anything wrong I just don't like you that way anymore there's nothing you can do to change it. I only like you as a friend."

Could you expand on that "I just don't have feelings for you anymore" thing?

Men...we just don't understand it. So explain it to us!!!!!
If I like a girl, I would only stop liking her if there was a reason to stop liking her. Even if that reason is another girl-- it's still a reason. I began dating her because there was a reason that I was attracted to her in the first place.
Maybe our personalities clicked, I thought she was beautiful, she made me like who I was when I was with her, you know? (those are the things that make guys like girls FYI) all that good sh*t.
So if nothing changes when I'm in a relationship with a girl how can she change her opinion of me? What do women base their opinions on in the first place? I'm really confused by this!!

Or is that just some BS excuse I was given?
Even if so...Why would you start going out with a guy in the first place if you didn't think highly enough of him to try to mend the relationship when something goes wrong? i really tried to get an answer out of her, I wanted to try to talk it out because I liked her a lot. I just don't get it. women....what do you want from us? we aren't midn readers, and we aren't disposable either.

buffyfromgp you gave me a good answer but what about the guy? After dating her, I realized that I didn't want to be friends with her anymore. I couldn't go back to that no matter what. But it really didn't answer my question. What did she see in me in the first place that made her want to date me? She's the one who came on to me. (sober) We were friends for 3 years, knew eachother like... perfectly and she decided she wanted to start dating so i don't see how that could suddenly change and be irreversible. Its so dumb it makes me so angry at the female brain. its not logical even when it comes to love!

It's not a legitimate answer at all! Don't justify it by saying that you've used it, that just means that you gave a bad excuse too. LADIES tell your boyfriends that there's another guy! Tell him that he's lousy in bed. Atleast he won't be wondering about it forever!! Do you really think you're sparing him that grief of actually telling him by leaving him hanging??? That is so unbelievably poorly thought out! Try not being selfish!

If you're not going to help me then do you atleast see my point? I feel like all of your read this and just hear "blah blah blah" and write whatever you want to write. Until I get a decent answer I'm just going to have to assume that you don't posses logical reasoning capabilities.

Answer 1

She obviously had some purpose for you other than love. Mybe she thought you were a challenge, maybe she just wanted to be physical and you know how that can wear off if you're not in love. You might just want to cut your losses and move on.
She sounds like a real winner. She doesn't have feelings for you anymore becuase she never did. And whatever purpose she needed you for is over and she on to the next sucker. Good luck there are real genuine girls who will love you for who you are and the fact that this is hurting you shows your a nice guy.. they don't alway finish last you know.

Answer 2

Sometimes you think someone is a certain way and it turns out they aren't. For example, you think you have a lot in common with someone and then, as you date, you realize you don't. Of course, this doesn't sound like the case for you because you were best friends before you started dating. It could be that you have different definitions of what it is like to be in a romantic relationship. For example, one person could think dating means to be dating exclusively and seriously while the other thinks dating is like being friends with occasional sex on the side. Also, although you think nothing has changed something probably has, you just don't know it. Perhaps her interests have changed or her expectations have changed. Sometimes it is easier to break up than try to change someone to how you want them (plus, changing someone radically is unhealthy).

Answer 3

I think its just a "nice" way of letting you go...The words just be friends is a relationship killer, there is nothing you can do to change this. Some people feel its just a way of letting someone go without hurting their feelings, but it only causes more confusion. People need to learn to be more honest, blunt whatever you want to call it and stop using the just be friends excuse, because that's all it is a lame excuse.....

Answer 4

Sometimes that line should not be crossed by friends because once you realize that the feelings are not BF + GF love, it ruins the friendship.

My best guy friend had always tried pushing the friend line between us, but I knew I would never love him totally 100% in that way. Maybe your friend figured that out after you two blurred the friendship line.

Answer 5

the thing is she might have a real reason as to why she broke up with you but doesnt have the courage to tell you. or maybe she didnt want to give you all the details so she just left you hanging. as a girl i understand her saying that and you just have to accept it and respect her decision. i know its hard but theres not much you can do but still be her friend

Answer 6

Oftentimes women don't know what they want. And we have so many psychological and emotional problems that men will never know what's up with us. It was a legitimate answer. Hell, I've use it myself. She just don't want to debate the issue with you. I know it's messing with you head but believe me you're better off.

Answer 7

OMG you guys do the same thing to us... same thing happened to me... best thing i could make out of it was that he just wasnt ready for a serious relationship. maybe your case is different... try talking to her.... of course there was a reason why she started dating you or else she wouldnt of.... talk to her...

Answer 8

well thats the thing woman dnt knw wht thy wnt....we r confuesed ourselves if i break up with a guy 4 no reason its becouse i found sum1 better, or the guy is just boring, or the sex is not gud, wel that was b4 i found my bf nw he thought me that if i dont lyk sumthng we shuld talk bout it b4 i rush into things... m nt perfect and guys r nt perfect 2...

Answer 9

it depends on the maturity of the woman you date. most women dont give poor excuses to break up with someone. anyway, it's her loss. now you can find someone who truly deserves you.

Answer 10

hey its not just girls who do that ive never said that but it happened to me i want to know the answer myself so if you find out could you fill me in