That includes oral sex, handjobs, any of the bases and of course sex. Please don't report me it's an honest question. I never even made out with a girl really. My last girlfriend I would just kiss her on the lips I don't think I ever even used my tongue with her. Girls think I'm really cool though, like the quiet, mysterious guy who is real smart, always plays it cool. My guy friends always ask me for advice and I just make something up so I don't get exposed. Really I'm still just a n00b. I'm still a kid inside. I never dated a girl for more than a month. Opinions? I know the dating part is pathetic, I can get another gf, but answer the other part of the question, do you think it's unusual that I'm still a virgin when I'm as old as I am?
2006-08-21 19:00:21 · 34 answers · asked by mwells0629 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have seen it. It pwns. But I'm not a nerdy toy collector nor am I 40 years old.
2006-08-21 19:05:06 · update #1
Let me specify. I didn't plan this. I don't care about waiting til marriage it just never happened. I go to lots of college parties but I'm ont going to have sex with a drunk girl because the next day she'll tell everyone i raped her. so i'd rather just do it with an established gf but i never held one for more than a month or so. i wasn't going to pressure them into having sex when im inexperienced and its only been a few weeks, so thats why. and no i'm not gay. i'm sure.
2006-08-21 19:13:06 · update #2
also don't you think its better instead of saving it for my wife or someone i really care about, that i get some practice and experience so that i'm actually decent at it when i want to have sex with a girl that i really love? wouldn't that be better? I guess thats what im more concerned about. Just that at this point i think most kids had long term relationships in high school and college and got lots of practice. being a n00b sucks.
2006-08-21 19:17:32 · update #3
Why not remain a virgin till you are married. I'm still a virgin at 23 (GUY). it's true it's true.
2006-08-21 19:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Agentj100 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it's not that unusual and you're not too old.
You've got plenty of time yet, and once you do meet that special someone, you should be honest and tell her you are a virgin, so you can relax and stop pretending.
You don't have to wait to get married, but it sounds like you only want to have sexual contact in a serious or at least semi-serious relationship, which is responsible and healthy, and women will appreciate it. I think when you do have it, it will be more satisfying than if you jumped a drunk girl at a party because you will have an emotional connection first.
You sound like a really sweet, smart and attractive guy, and I bet everything works out for you just fine. This IS a story which will get you laid!
PS My husband didn't lose his virginity until he was 22, and he is 100% heterosexual, so it's not a sign that you are gay. (I have a gay friend, and he started banging girls left and right at the age of 13, so there's no correlation).
2006-08-21 19:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question to ask. It is not stupid. It should not get reported. It is perfectly fine that you haven't wasted the most intimate part of humanity on some girl because "it was the moment". Give it time, dude, and you'll find the right girl and never want to have sex with anyone else. Save yourself for the right girl. She will appreciate it even more. Good luck in your college ventures, man. Oh, and for the record, I found the right girl when I turned 19. I'm 20 now and it was the best move of my life, waiting for sex!!!
2006-08-21 19:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the same answer I gave to a guy who is a 29 year old virgin.
If you are really a virgin, I think that is very special. It is good you are not loose like many of your male counterparts. LOL, it's rare you hear a man that is of your age is a virgin. But I think it is attractive. You actually have something to give to your wife when your married, other than aids. People think it is not cool to be a virgin. But it is. It shows alot about your character, morality, spirituality and integrity. It shows you stand for something and that sex means something to you. Which is true. Sex is important and it is a very serious thing. But people don't take it seriously. That's why GOD never intended for ppl to have sex outside of marriage. Believe me, I speak from experience. Stay a virgin until you are married. I think it is sexy and it shows you have self-control.
2006-08-21 19:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tonya 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! I'm about to graduate from college and I know lots of really nice, cute guys who are still virgins or have only had sex with one person.
Even though I think some people really over think the loss of their virginity it really should be with someone you have feelings for and trust. I know too many people that lost theirs while drunk at a party and don't remember any of it. It's just empty.
Find someone you really like and it'll happen before you know it.
Seriously, you're just overthinking it.
2006-08-21 19:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by jae3646 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never too old to be a virgin. My ex-boyfriend's friend is still a virgin at 21. He hadn't even kissed a girl until the day I kissed him just to show him how it's like (but my ex-boyfriend never knew...) I was really proud to be the first girl he kissed. I think sometimes it's something exciting to show these things to a virgin guy. Someday you'll find a girl who's gonna be happy to show you. Or maybe you'll even meet another virgin girl of your age.
2006-08-21 19:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Isabelia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There are many men who won't even be at this stage until like 25 when they realize that sex didn't come out of the blue like they thought they did or whatever. Relationships are hard to maintain, and hookups take a bit of work and class as well.
2006-08-21 19:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by hondapride67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm about to be 19 and I'm a college sophomore female and I am still a virgin and I plan on staying one until I am married. U hate that people constantly ask me about my personal life and they make me feel almost bad for being single. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for your experiences in life, for it is your life to live not theirs. God has a plan for you, just take things as they are handed to you and let the pieces fall as they may. The right girl for you will come along soon enough, just be patient. :) Good luck & God bless! :)
2006-08-21 19:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya man, trust me, its not a bad thing. What you DON'T want to do is worry about it and end up getting drunk and doing it with some skank. One of my buddies was like that and got with a super nasty chick and still gets tons of crap for it 4 years later. In my case, I got drunk and slept with a friend, just to lose the V-card, she was hot and stuff, but she was just a friend and it messed that up. Find someone you really like/love, it will happen when it happens.
2006-08-21 19:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by swingaway1021 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm 24 and i actually stopped having sex. i realized that i was only commiting adultry on my future wife. society brain washed everyone into thinking its "natural" and "normal" to screw around. and you are missing out when you don't. its a sack of bull. i stopped for 2 years and i feel great. sex is kind of like an addiction, the more you do it, the more you need.
it is destroying our family structure
- single parents
- adultry and cheating
- child growing up without a functional family
- once child grow up, they duplicate the problem
- STD is higher than ever, can't even kiss a girl because stistics show 1 out of 3 have herpies.
- girls are spoiled in this society, they have what I called "sexual currency" with them splitting their legs and look hot, they can get $1,000 dinner, to diamond rings and gucci bags.
2006-08-21 19:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Stick to your virtues. Don't lie to make yourself look better in the eyes of your friends. Be proud you are who you are( stay above the influence). Some day, the woman you meet that will become your wife will appreciate your sacrifice. There needs to be more guys out there like you. Congratulations, and keep up the good morals.
2006-08-21 19:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋