Would you get mad if your boyfriend...?

Question

Went out with this one girl(who likes him) and her birthday and didn't tell you? Even though he knows you hate her... Keep in mind that this is the person that tried getting my boyfriend to uninvite me to prom...just so she could be with him(even though he didn't...but just knowing she had the nerve to ask him to do such a thing...)

AND you found out from one of your friends who saw the pictures she put up on her myspace bragging about the fact that they went to lunch...

Answer 1

I used to be in the same jealous position as you are in. But what I realized was that the girl likes my guy, but he's looking at me. I trust him, and know that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me, hope you feel the same about yours. The only difference is that my guy would have told me he was going to this other chicks place, he wouldn't be hiding it from me. Talk to him and ask him why he didn't tell you, it might have been because he knew that you would get jealous and not want him to go hang with his other friends, or it might have been because he was messing around, I dunno, talk with him, and then if he does it again, find another that'll be open and honest with you. Let the girl brag about going out for dinner, cause you get to hang with him all of the time, right, I dont think that matters, she's just trying to get to you, so that you dump his *** and then he's all hers, I would fight for your man, trust needs to start somewhere, be the one to start it!

Answer 2

It is wrong that he didn't tell you he was going somewhere with her. If he knows you have bad feelings towards this girl, he should have had the common courtesy to tell you before he went just so you would NOT have a reason to suspect something.

Everyone who replied automatically made it out to be that he's trying to keep secrets from you, and he's a lying cheat.

He may have not told you because he didn't want to cause a fight, there may not have been anything going on between him and this other girl, at least not on his side.

So yes he should have told you he was going somewhere with this girl.. BUT..

You don't have the right to dictate who he hangs out with, who he considers a friend.

Both of you are in the wrong. So instead of getting angry why don't you both try admitting your faults and working on a compromise.

The whole situation sounds a bit childish anyway. Like something out of highschool (and I'm assuming it is by the mention of "prom"). So figure it out, or be dramatic. Does it really matter?

Answer 3

If your boyfriend knew how cruel that this girl is to you, but he went out with her anyways--- that's definitely an issue, and I'd try to talk to him about it. Even if it is only lunch, that's beside the point. If he blows you off or accuses you of being too jealous or insecure, then leave him-- he obviously has no respect for your feelings and u can do much, much better.

Answer 4

I might be insecure if I were you!Ask your BF what the real deal between them, anyway your BF is not your husband and he is still open to have friends,girls or boys and also open for any invitation!But still you have to confront the girl about those myspace issue and tell her stop flirting with your Bf in a nice way!

Answer 5

I guess you should accept that they are friends, but ur b/f should of told you that he went to her birthday party...cause i can see why you would be mad...its feels like something is wrong.

Sit down w/him and calmly let him know that its okay if he did go, but atleast let you that he's going to her party and such. To please not keep secrets from each other. There always have to be this "communication" between one and another. There's gotta be trust and such and etc.....

um...well....GL!

Answer 6

It sounds like you are a teenager so I will say this - In high school guys will be guys and in school they do not have a brain to understand. You never want to take a guy serious in high school because they are just discovering their hormones. If you are a cute girl - use your femininity and play the field. Women rule this earth and men were just put here to lift heavy objects for us. Ask your mom whose in charge and she will say she is, but she just let your dad think he is. I got that from my dad. Never let a man make you feel less. He is not worthy of you.

Answer 7

I would not consider him a boyfriend.
And if you put up with this you are a fool.
you say she had the nerve.......hon, don't blame her. It is your bf who says yes. I assume he is smart enough know the difference between right and wrong.

Do you really want a guy like that for a boyfriend?

or maybe you guys are so young that you are too young to be more than friends.

Answer 8

i would be furious with him for not telling me and for even going out with her. Its like she won.. eventhough she didnt get to uninvite you to the prom, she still got time with him without you.

But.. she is probably just doing this to make you angry. So ask him what it meant.. and if it didnt mean anything... do the same thing let others see what he really thinks.

Answer 9

of hell yeah, Not saying this jut b/c I am a woman but being a person in a committed relationship. I think that would be very dis-respectable to you and your relationship. I think you better question if this dude has feeling for this girl, he may not but he he may just enjoy the attention he gets when she is around.

Answer 10

First of all my boyfriend has to have own seance which he doesn't wanna do anything which will make me sad or mad. Second if he will hide anything from me such as you mention I definitely don't believe him in anything in future. He has no reason to be with any other women specially who i don't like and who try to get him from me. So.. Once my boyfriend choose to go with her in any reason that will be his last moment with my relationship. period!!!!!!!!!!!