I was taught to thank God for everyday you are given, good nor bad. But since she has been sick, she is not the same person. I am suppoting her all the way but is their anyway to help her get through this and still remanin the strong woman she once was?
2006-08-21 18:25:27 · 11 answers · asked by ashloveus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is deffinitely nothing happy about being sick ! And especially , if your mom ( like most moms) is just so use to being ontop of situation & getting things done ... and now due to ill-health can no-longer do those things.... yesssssss, i certainly understand her becomming such the changed -person as u say .
However, still in all... I am sure to say that you-yourself are doing exactly as what mom expected of you as her child. You're being there when she needs you most.........your being strong & supportive yourself . Good -daughter you are !
I can only suggest that you do continue to be there for you moms as she was for you .
If her illness & health grows worse... then you see to it that she gets the medical -attention she needs.
As for her seemingly dimishing -faith in her religious belief; perhaps it would help to revigorate her in her faith if your were to read to her from her bible every so often .
Remind her that she is only human; and that as being such..it is ok that those of us that are parents fall sick sometimes or even just plain tired...and must rest . Yet pass-off the still burning-torch to our children & let us( parents ) sit back and just watch them (our children) go the remaining distance.
Hope your mom get well soon ! And God bless!!
2006-08-21 19:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long your mother has been sick, or what her outcome might be, but as a nurse, I have learned people can go through phases of illness and their acceptance of what is happening can change over time. She may seem to change, some days up or down in mood. But the first thing you can reflect on is that you can't control her attitude/mood. You are not responsible for making her feel better, no matter how much you love her. That said, I would suggest you give her the opportuity to speak if she wants about good feelings and bad feelings. It's okay to feel angry or upset if you think life is being unfair. She may need you to listen as she vents her frustrations. But if you continue to give her the blessing of your presence when she is in good spirits and in bad spirits, you will let her know you love her and are concerned about her. And find a friend to share your own frustrations with, too. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-08-21 18:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by christhescribe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you care very much for your mother, and miss the way she was before she got sick. Unfortunately there are some situations in life that have to be dealt with alone. She's probably sorting through a lot of the feelings she has from being struck down with whatever illness it is she has.
This isn't uncommon with people who have become very sick. They feel like a lot of their life, and their time has been taken from them. They feel that they've been treated unfairly. That's common with people who get sick.
All you can do is hope that she sorts through these feelings before its too late, and regains her love of life. Regains her appreciation for time. All you can do is be there for her.
There is one thing you can do, but that one thing is something you have to do for you. That is you have to realize that things are always changing. Nothing ever stays the same, and people never stay the same. Even if your mother regains her appreciation for life, and time. She will never be the same person she was before she got sick. That is something that everyone has to discover when they're growing up. It's one of the hardest things for people to take in, especially when it comes to people.
She may regain her strength, but it won't be the same as it was before. Her values, opinions, beliefs may change. That's something you have to take one day at a time.
Just be there for her, and be sure to let her know that you're angry too. You're angry and you think its unfair, that will help her realize that her feelings are VALID and she's not being selfish or unrealistic.
I hope that helps, and I hope things get better for you. Take care.
2006-08-21 18:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
depending on how long she has been sick, u may just have to let it run its course. right now your mother is angry and hurt because she knows she is not the same person she use to be. my mom is going through the same thing. make sure u watch out for the onset of depression. she may be depressed and the altered view of life may be a manifestation of it. continue to be there for your mother and continue to show her that she is still the same person. maybe not in the big odvious ways but in the small ways too
2006-08-21 18:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by silentasalamb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I know what you mean, my mom was like that to once. She was active, outgoing, firm with us but still loving. Now she's usually in a bad mood and she doesn't like to listen whenever I talk to her just in general. I know it's because she's sick but what she tells me does get to me at times. I try to stop myself at times and appreciate the time that she is here on earth my dad to. I try to imagine how will I feel if something happens to one of them and I didn't appreciate them, that always straightens things out. Try to brighten her day or remind her of the things she taught you when you were little and you were sick or in a bad situation. Remind her of the times she told you to keep trying or keep your head up, then ask her to do the same, keep praying. God bless you.
2006-08-21 21:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by blueradiating 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that I am truly sorry for what you and your mother are going through...
I will keep yall in my prayers....
The only thing you can do is stick by her side and tell her that things will get better...
Hopefuly in the end the both of you will be happy again...
God bless.
~Angela~
2006-08-21 18:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by The_Pet_Lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact her doctor or clergyman. I would sooner say her doctor. Perhaps he can put her on a anti-depressant to see her through these troubled times. I believe he will be able to help her, and In turn, it will help you also. Good luck
2006-08-21 18:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by BGS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your church pastor / priest to visit her. I'm pretty sure she'll be back to her own old self.
I admire you for supporting your mom all the way. You are one of the few sons/daughters whose love & respect for parents never fade away during tough times.
2006-08-21 18:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by lette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by being withher physically as well as emotionally. talk to her talk about good things you two have experienced in life. she is the strong person you knew she just too sick to convey it. stay by her and you carry her load for awhile
bless you!!!
2006-08-21 18:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry your mother isnt doing well...Just be there for her, as you age you will see alot more of this, it really sucks and you will never get use to it...
2006-08-21 18:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋