If so, what was the outcome?
2006-08-21 18:24:22 · 5 answers · asked by jaimestar64cross 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. with two of me three boys. The oldest I had to kick out of my house when the levels of drinking and disrespect were uncontrollable. he was 19. Now he is a commercial pilot, a daddy and manager of an aviation company. It has only been 5 years since I gave him the boot. He says its the best thing I could have done for him. The middle child now owns his own trucking company and we are extremely close. the end result. They will both go after my youngest when he steps out of line or disrespects me in front of them. It hurts very badly, but sometimes you have to do it. they wont talk to you for a long time after. but when they do, it is usually to thank you for opening their eyes.
2006-08-21 23:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by rwdycwgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God says if you love your child don't spare the rod. Hey, this is a figure of speech, don't hit him/her, it doesn't work that way.
My husband has used tough love on our three boys, you should see them now. They are great young men and hard workers, have never been in trouble.
They now thank their dad for being so tough on them.
The best way to apply tough love is taking privilages away, i.e. phone, firend over, or over at friends, no money, assign house chores, and be firm. Let your "YES" be a YES and your "NO" be a NO.
Explain why they are being punisshed, and set a grounding time. Don't let him/her off punishment before due time. After punishment is over, sit down and tell him/her howmuch you love him/her, and that you are very sorry you all have to go through that.
If you have to do this more than one time, just do it. We parents are not allowed to get tired of our children. Find your strength in your weakness. Translation for love is discipline.
2006-08-21 18:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had to use tough love on my son for the last year and it's been a eye opening experience for him. He has changed his ways!
2006-08-21 18:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by lisa l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent and counselor from my experience what 'technique' you use depends on the temperment of the child. The more manipulative they are the tougher you need to get. I needed to instill the 'fear of God' into my son for surfing for porn. He has a 'real' consciousness of what he's doing now. (He was 12 at the time, and it was violent/submissive stuff.)
2006-08-21 18:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , I have 4 kids, when my daughter was 11 , she stle some stuff from the mall, got caught, they asked me 2 pick her up and I told them no, that I wanted her booked and they did, it scared the crap outta her.. I did this becuz She knew that I was suspicious and she kept denying stealing , so old her OK, but u WILL get caught and she did... she got probation out of it ... she never did it again... shes 15 now
2006-08-21 18:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Swtnis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋