And everyone declines as he's a huge showoff and mean to a lot of people at work...so he then invites the people with kids..saying for a 'fun' day for the family (men play poker, women and kids do the barbequing and basically nothing else planned for them) and then tells everyone to bring raw chicken to barbeque and yet he knows he likely won't have more than 20-50 people IF that many!! showing up but most people don't even want to go as he keeps bragging at work about his new 450,000 dollar house and how he wants everyone to come and see it etc and how much money his wife and him have as total income etc so I think he should pay for the chicken -I think it's rude to ask your invited guests to bring food to your house-I believe guests should bring a bottle of wine or cake at their choosing -not be TOLD to basically bring their own entree AND cook it too LOL -what do you think of this? Please be honest.
2006-08-21 18:20:07 · 16 answers · asked by Shermin Joseph 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Most of the people he has invited do not have the same income as him so we know it's just to show off and rub it in. It's not really that we're jealous-it's just he can't shut up about how well off he is and trying to make others feel inadequate-he held most of us down in our jobs and we had to fight like hell to get away from him being our boss-(he's a higher level than most of us by far) No-one wants to go really!!
2006-08-21 18:28:27 · update #1
Man, what do have against this guy?
It's a party! So it costs you $6 worth of chicken to make him feel good. So what?
Plus, I'm sure if you show up empty-handed you'll still get fed.
Share the joy. Stop looking for mean explanations.
2006-08-21 18:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you asking?
It's not out of the ordinary to have a BYOM barbeque, so I don't think asking guests to bring chicken to a party is unheard of.
Nevertheless, if you don't want to go to the party, don't go.
It sounds like this guy really feels insecure about himself and is trying to feel better about himself by showing off and such. Maybe what he really needs is a little compassion.
2006-08-23 19:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not like showoffs. If I am impressed by someon's home, I will gladly tell them they have a nice home. I don't need someone to tell me daily how much cool stuff they have and how much better they think they are than me.
Bragging is something that most people do when they need to boost their own ego's because they lack something else in their character makeup to just be satisfied with what they have.
I would do one of two things. #1. Not show up at all. #2. Tell him I will be there, and then not show up at all.
2006-08-25 11:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh man, poor guy. but if he is such a show off and mean to everyone, plus he even told you guys to bring raw chicken, i suggest don't go. if everyone doesn't go and you do, he's going to brag and brag and brag and you are the only one who is going to listen.
do you want that?
if it's possible, tell him to stop showing off and be mean coz nobody wants to go to his house. if he has a brain, he will stop his nonsense or even cancel his invitation.
but if you feel bad, give him some house gift for his new home and say that you can't make it. hmm...think this one is better. ask a couple of your other colleagues to join in too.
2006-08-21 18:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by shopaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone should have a talk with him. LIKE management. The whole of his bahavior and his invitation is not well receieved and clearly not of good intent. Someon needs to talk to an upper level manager or director about this. The invitation should be rescended and the whole would-be event called off.
If that doesnt happen. Simply, dont go.
2006-08-21 19:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a host should ask guests to bring their own food to eat or expect them to cook it at his house unless they have a really close relationship, such as family or good friends. Also, if you don't feel comfortable going to his house and possibly listening to him brag, don't go. Spare the torture and do something you want to do instead.
2006-08-21 20:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree...if he's throwing a party for just some co workers...not close friends...he should be in charge of providing cooked food. But if it was a get together of a bunch of really close friends, I think everyone should pitch in and bring stuff and help prepare. He sounds arrogant and snotty. I wouldn't go either.
2006-08-21 18:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like this men who make so much money yet are so insecure of themselves and who think that by bragging they'll feel better deserve no time, attention, or energy from your behalf.
I would NOT go to a party hosted by such a person, to indirectly let him know that the grounds and attititude of the party were not adequate nor welcome.
2006-08-22 03:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to go then do not go. It is wrong to invite people over then ask them to bring something. If it was a barbecue and he said those that want to come need to bring something that would be alright.
2006-08-21 19:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a good idea to bring different dishes ,so that every one gets to share each others favorite dish but i dont think the same of every thing is appropiate. its always better to trash somebody elses house rather than your own.
2006-08-25 10:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by jorge m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋