EXTREMELY URGENT! How can we make this legal?

Question

What is the name of your state? I am in CA she is in WA

To make a VERY long story short. Girlfriend's mother just kicked her out of the house 3 months pregnant. I am now 18 (was 17 at time of conception so it was completly legal) she is 15. Her mother wants her to come live with me. But she will not sign any papers or take the proper channels to do this. The way it looks I am going to have to get her a plane ticket in the morning to come down to CA. Shes literally at the gas station with a bag. My problem is I realize I could get in serious trouble for her coming down here with me. She has no where to go but here. Her mother is the type of person that would call police once she got here though.

Is there anyway to get her down here tomorrow and me NOT goto jail for doing it? I really have no choice. Is there somewhere we can go when she gets here to make sure everything is okay for her to enroll in school, etc. I want this to be completly legal not a hiding in the closet type deal.

I moved out of state to stay with my grandparents and save rent money. I had intentions of returning but not for about 2-3 more months. Her mother refuses to sign anything so I am going to check laws on recording a converstaion with her stating the fact that she has kicked her out and wants her to stay here.

Is it GUARENTEED that social services would allow me to have custody of someone only 3 years younger than me?

I'm 100% sure they would find my life a much more stable environment than the current situation but even in my head them just letting her move in with me over going to some foster home sounds a little odd. i don't want her in a foster home PERIOD.

I HIGHLY doubt her mother will change her mind. This is also a case of her mother choosing her boyfriend over a pregnant teen. Her father has called (lives in AZ and also has a restraining order) and offered to purchase her a plane ticket for tomorrow.

Answer 1

i have had this issue come up before in the crisis service I work for. The police have told me that if the mother has kicked her out- if anyone is prosecuted it would be the mother for neglect and or abandonment. Your g/f should find her own financing to get across state lines tho. Just to cover your @$$. Good luck to you both.

Answer 2

I don't know the answer to your question, but as a mother of two sons, I beg you to be very careful. You can't help your girlfriend, or your child, if you're in jail, and having a jail record will make the future difficult for all of you.

I admire you for being responsible and also for thinking about the legal aspects; you'll make a good father.

Is there no adult that you can turn to, who could advise you or take her in temporarily, without legal ramifications? Maybe you can call a Legal Aid Society for legal advice tomorrow, or some other counseling service (maybe a trusted teacher would know someplace she could go), although I know the situation is urgent.

If she's at a gas station right now, maybe she could call the local police, and they could take her to a safe place for the night, and then somebody there might be able to find a place for her to stay till things can be worked out with her mother.

Is it possible that after thinking it over, her mother will change her mind and take her back home? I don't know if there ARE any legal papers she can sign to allow a minor to live with you, unless you can prove ability to support her and be her guardian--unless maybe your family would agree to take responsibility for her. Maybe they could persuade her mother to agree to this.

I'm sorry I can't help. I wish you both better luck than you've had so far.

Answer 3

You'd better look into this a bit further before you act too hastily and wind up in trouble. I'm not sure what the legal age is in either state, not what the ramifications are. Consult with a legal aid clinic in your town or call the police yourself and get some clear answers. Sound as if the mother is a little cuckoo.

Answer 4

well prayerfully her mom wont file charges for statutory rape cause it still is until she is 18 no matter you were 17. you better check it out for out here. then i would sugg she go stay with her dad until you find out what ca laws are. i couldn't understand the restraining order from her father against whom, but if it isn't for you or her than she needs not be with you until you legally know what to do and that be by contacting free legal aid in your county or dial info. you could even through the Internet for free legal advice. it is good that you want to take care of your responsibilities and lashing out on what you both did is not the answer the deed is already done. i hope that you find your answer so the girl don't be in the street. right now getting involved with her mother is gonna be a long battle mom sounds a bit angry that her daughter got pregnant and any way that she can she will destroy you and try and take custody of that baby. be careful how you will ask and who you ask. to answer your question on making this legal. go through legal aid they can better help you in your decisions and your move. tell her if she is out in the street to go back home until tomorrow. she will be netter off there or to her dads if he is willing to pay for her ticket and mom wont let her back she needs to get out of the street. it will be hard to go to schiool at that age unless it is an adult continuation school, without her parents consent. unlessshe says that she is or has emancipated herself from them unless her dad can do it i dont know what type of relationship they have hopefully better than the moms

Answer 5

Tell your girlfriend to contact the local police department. By her giving a statement to police about what happened with her mother, will make her case for emancipation. She will most likely not be able to go stay with you until a court decides where she will live (legally independent or not). You can petition the court for guardianship if the court decides not to grant emancipation.
If I were you though, I would be contacting the police. Have them get a statement of permission from her mother for your girlfriend to be with you. I don't know about her getting down to California by tomorrow unless you went down there to get her. As the future father of that child, I'd be buying my airline ticket. Why are you living out of state?

Answer 6

Legally you in worry being 18 her mom can call the police and declare what ever she needs too. in case you have been 17 and she or he grow to be 15 while she conceived its no longer satitiory rape yet you prefer to have evidence the she grow to be pregnant in the previous you turn 18 from her docs which will help you there. You suited guess is to get a lawyer and characteristic her get emancipated from her mom. You in a warm project yet i could fairly danger reformatory then go away my lady pal and infant homeless.

Answer 7

If there is a Women In Transition, Homeless Shelter etc. She can go there.

She can also go to the POLICE DEPARTMENT and inform them what her mother has done to her. Good case of child abandonment!!!

Juvenile Services, Protective Services & Department of Human Services can help also.

She can also get help from Planned Parenthood.

City Mission can give her lodging.

Answer 8

I would call social services on the mother right no they will give you custody of her.And the mother will go to jail for abandonment.

Answer 9

ALl I can think of is a Red Cross shelter or women's shelter. Heck, even call the polie and they will know where she can go, and be able to take her there safely in their car. Otherwise shes stuck with a motel/hotel until somehting can be arranged... or until you know what you can do....
I hope you two aren't too badly scarred by this...

Answer 10

Call an attorney and ask. Most of them will answer a simple question or two for free over the phone. Tell them exectly what you told us in this question.