Another question for the men of the world...?

Question

Ok, in case you don't know I am compiling information on how men think. A little research if you will. This question is one I have wondered about for a while. What is it about lesbians that make a guy lose their mind? I mean I, like many other women, have no interest in watching a couple of guys go at it. Why is it such a big deal to men? (Behave with your answers, please)

Answer 1

men are more attracted to physical aspects. The more the merrier!

Answer 2

I think it stems from something on the line of "it's something that guys can't have." I for one am not interested in seeing two lesbians go at it. The ones that I see and have dealt with in the past I could not imagine even being scantily clad let alone naked. I think it's just from the porno industry having a lack of guys for some reason and just say... "well why don't you two girls go at it for a while." So there you have two attractive women going to town doing there thing and it is recorded for posterity. Then circulated to porn shops and Internet sites across the country putting the idea in men's heads that all lesbians are like a Pamela Anderson type instead of a Kathy Bates... (no offense to those two women btw.) I think that is where you get the "losing their mind part."
Personally I used to applaud every time someone even said the word lesbian... but high school was 15+ years ago.

Answer 3

I don't know that they make us lose our minds. I think it is just that we have no interest in seeing a guy, so if it is 2 lesbians we don't have to worry about seeing some gross hairy old axx showing up on our screen. Another explanation might be that men are naturally competitive where other males are concerned. Watching a man and a woman becomes more about comparing and competition than about enjoying. Just remember for a lot of us men, if we like something, more is seen as better. Like cars? Bigger engine, bigger tires, more chrome = BETTER! Like women? Two women = BETTER!
OK, so that's my answers. I never really thought about it before, but I think some of those reasons are at the root of our behavior.

Answer 4

First of all women have always been farther ahead than men in doing their homework on the affairs of the heart. For heterosexual males, it is the ardent, raw, but soft visuals of women making love that turns them on. Men are in no way threatened by it and thus it is a form of human sexuality where they won't be judged and they will be safe. Issues of vulnerability, expressing love, displaying feelings, performance anxiety are men concerns to be sure. They don't have to address these issues watching lesbians make love.

I have never meet a guy who would lose his mind over this. I have also never met a guy who would turn down the opportunity of joining in. I think that how we are socialized has a lot to do with it. American society is really hung up about sex and as far as homosexuality is concerned we are still in the dark ages.

Answer 5

The men that lose their minds over lesbians have not seen any real lesbians in action. Most lesbians are not supermodels with huge breasts.

Honestly your question is flawed. There are plenty of men that do not believe two women is attractive. Look at the media and world in which we live in. It's obvious that even if many men were not interested in two women, it's "gay" to admit they don't find it attractive.

Also, do some research into Chinese and Japanese culture. There is an entire genre of comics and animation featuring "cute" gay men. This genre is not aimed at gay men, but directed at teenage girls.

Answer 6

It's possibly more of a fantasy for men, than anything. Imagine a women who's bi, will a man's been dating for several months, they go out dancing at a night club, another hot blonde girl comes over and they start dancing, just like in the movie dirty dancing. Then your gf ask you if this girl can come home with you both and you can do both of them at the same time. (That's the fantasy). Most men would love this to happen to them at least once a month!

If a guy says no, then he's queer or brain washed by so called bible thumpers who have no clue what it says in the bible anyway.

Men don't want a lesbian girl friend, but a bi girl once in a while would be ok, but only if the guy gets a piece of both girls.

Answer 7

Personally, I give lesbian porn the big so-what. I mean, at best it's pictures of two naked women, but -- ah, there's no "protagonist," from my viewpoint. And I think that's a big part of it.

I don't enjoy girl-on-girl porn because there's nobody in it for me to identify with. Nothing wrong with it, it just doesn't turn me on as much as other scenarios because there's no "hook" for me.

I have always believed that most guys who DO enjoy girl-on-girl porn do so because there's nobody in it to be threatened by -- either threatened because the guy in the movie is bigger than they are, or threatened because they're excited by a picture that has a guy in it and they're afraid it might mean they're gay.

Now, I've had lesbian friends, and gay male friends, and that may be part of it too -- lesbians aren't these weird, mysterious creatures to me; they're our favorite next-door neighbors, we'd take care of each others' animals and share fruit from our trees (they had a great orange tree, we had apricots and lemons, it was a cool setup!)

Now, take those same two women from the naughty movie and have them doing unspeakable things (as in, it's not polite to talk with your mouth full, and since you ask us to behave, I'll stop there...) to a guy, and you have my complete and undivided attention. Because THAT's a story I can relate to -- or wish I could, at least. :-)

Answer 8

we as men love women. the female body is a very beautiful thing. some could be works of art. so if 1 girl turns me on then 2 are going to be like double time. plus theres that whole want what you can't have thing that makes them so interesting.

Answer 9

It doesn't turn me on in the least, nor for that matter do I care to watch hetero action. It isn't that I am sick or a prude. It's like sports. I love to participate in all kinds of sports, but I really don't care to just watch. In both cases, sports and sexual spectating, someone ELSE is having a lot of fun, and it AIN'T me!
It just doesn't make sense to me.

Answer 10

its just something hott about a woman going down on a woman, b/c they have the products needed for both giving and recieving, so they know how to do it better then we do. So by watching, we (Men) can get better at giving women pleasure!

Answer 11

Honestly, it doesn't turn me on in the least. I'm as straight as an arrow. I could never understand what my fellow brothers out there see in it, but there are men out there like me as well. I'm turned on by a woman alone but not with another woman....to me it's unnatural for anything but a man and a woman......but to each his own.