Is it possible to continue the relationship with the person who keeps you wait all the time?

Question

Were on a long distace realtionship now for 1 year & a half. We still had communication from time to time sometimes he wrote a letter, chat on line, call & text like sometimes in a month or in two weeks & he visited me 3 times within that span of time. I call him as well & text him often but seldom I recieve some reply on ly if I have questions but sometimes not. He wants to call or text only in his convenient time. He always reminds me that he loves me so much & he miss me so much when he calls, but how long will I wait? What if he doesnt call anymore or what if something bad happened, will I wait until I recieve a message or a notice? Please I need advise

Answer 1

You know.. long distance relationship can be a blessing but they usually don't work.

It takes a lot of commitment from both parties to make it work. But, its because of that commitment, which is what makes the relationship so good.

distance is good because people don't fall in love when they are together, but when they are apart.

Listen to your gut though, if you feel like it isn't working or going anywhere, you might want to cut him loose.

if you are under 25, don't go into a serious relationship. you are too young. focus on your own dreams first.

one short sentence but can solve and explains a lot of societal problems we have today.

p.s. i'm actually thinking about engaging in a long distance relationship 125 miles away.. los angeles -to- san diego..

Answer 2

Sure, if you are in love. Space and time may only be a nuissance when communication is absent. Communication provides an opportunity for constant assurance, that is what your guy keeps doing.
Just because somebody fails to respond to your e-maill immediately does not imply a lack of concern. The important fact is that we can only respond seriously to mails at a convenient time (not in the middle of a board meeting, or while sleeping).
Things go wrong in all relationships, even at the level of marriage, but that is the last thing anyone in love should hope for. As long as he keeps calling take advantage of this and try to work out a very clear and practical plan (covering all your expectations, including timetables, etc.) for your relationship. Until you do that and find him not to be committed to the plan, you still have every reason to keep going on with him. You still love him and you know he loves you. What else? Just tell him what you expect from him and you will be fine. Meanwhile, go on enjoying the excitement of a long distance relationship with full trust.

Answer 3

My buddy havin long distance for more than 10yrs!!..till now he is still waiting for her to move into his country...bt still no commitment..all story same like yrs..
I would suggest u start giving each other a time gap how long must u have to wait n wats the plan ahead..dun drag too long like more than 3 yrs...person will change n u will change the way u think abt him/her..end up all parties will get hurt in the end..

Answer 4

I think a lot of it matters on why it is long distance is it due to work school what while I was in college I wish I had spent more time in my studies. It has been 7 years of marriage later I still wish I had finished

Answer 5

i was in a relationship like that and i married the lady , the marriage lasted 7 years then crumble because she didn't change and i finally got tired of waiting for her

Answer 6

long distance relationships are bad ideas
time to face the facts
dont hang around for him anymore
get your own life in order

Answer 7

sounds like it has cooled off... time to call an end to it and move on...

Answer 8

good things come to those who wait...