i have tons of family members so it wold be hard to choose. i have about 3 close friends that i want to have in it. but if he has more guys then i do girls for the wedding i will have family members that i can.
sister-in-law told me that friends can come and go but family is always there.....but she only had her cousin,her 2nd cousin(flower girl) and me(sister-in-law) in the wedding..other 3 were friends.
2006-08-21 17:30:18 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have who you feel closest to, but try to avoid permanent damage to family relations (you will need them one day). My daughters had an almost even split in family & friends. Sister & Sister-in-law then Sorority Sisters. Good luck & ignore sister in law on unwanted advice. Your wedding will not & should not be like hers.
2006-08-21 17:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have more of who YOU want in your wedding. I believe the key words here are YOUR WEDDING and not your sister-in-law's. This is your day and you and your husband to be should discuss this and make a decision. If he absolutely has to have a lot of guys and you need to, then you can throw in a few family members, but you shouldn't feel like you have to to please your sister-in-law.
Wedding planning is stressful enough without a lot of do-gooders giving you advice. If you cave and let other people tell you who to have, who to invite, etc., etc., you will probably feel like it wasn't really your wedding. Follow your heart and do what YOU want and feel is best.
By the way, families, can come and go just as quickly as friends these days, particularly "in-laws".
2006-08-21 23:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 6 bridesmaids and only two of them were family. I think it should be a mixture of friends and family as you do have the shower situation to contend with. Your decision as to who will stand with you should come from who will support your marriage the most. Yes, it's true that friends come and go but family is always there. Therefore, if they are family and aren't picked, they'll still be there. Perhaps she is regretting friend choices she made for the wedding....Ignore her and follow your heart! (she's probably just wanting to be sure you pick her...)
2006-08-21 23:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well family are not allowed to throw you a shower so if you are hoping for one you need some friends in your weddng party.
You don't have to match the numbers of the groom's and brides, sides, by the way. Almost no one cares about that any more.
Go for a mix of friends and family.
2006-08-21 18:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister in law to put a sock in it. lol have family and friend. i'm having both and most of my friend are friends of the famliy. so whatever you want because the bride does her own wedding not the in-laws. i wish my in-laws would tell me what to do. i would smile and ignore them at the same time. nobody is not telling what to do even if i am not paying for thewedding. its my day or the highway. congratutlations!
2006-08-21 17:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just who you are closest to.
my attendants are:
my sister, MOH
fiance's sister, Bridesmaid
Friend, Bridesmaid
cousin, flower girl
my fiance's attendants:
his brother-in-law, groomsman
my brother-in-law, groomsman
nephew, ring bearer
i know there are not the same number of men and women, but i have 4 people that i'm very close to and he does not. so the groomsmen are already going to be standing at the front with my fiance and the girls are going to walk the isle by themselves.
2006-08-22 02:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say friends because weddings are so stressful. If you have a bridesmaid that pisses you off, you can never talk to her again. If it's family, you're stuck with them. I had both in my wedding. Honestly, put who ever YOU want to stand up there with you. It's your day.
2006-08-21 18:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are referring to your bridal party right? If this is the case, I believe that your heart should choose. Talk about it with your fiance and choose the people that you are most close with. Make sure these are the people that are going to make you feel the most special on your big day!
2006-08-21 17:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by catherineannehicks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sis in law should go jump in a lake, and realize it's your wedding, and you should have whoever you want to be in the wedding party.
2006-08-21 18:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make the decision this is your day and don't let others rule what you want. if you want more friends than do it. hopefully they will stay friends, but you will always have your memories of your wonderful day the way you wanted it. good luck.
2006-08-21 20:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by thedreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋