I'm almost 20 been going out with the same guy for a year and a half but m,y parents still won't let me stay the night. Am I being unreasonable. Should I stand my ground.
2006-08-21 17:28:11 · 22 answers · asked by Nickygirl13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you still living with your parents? If so, then I'm afraid you're compelled to follow their rules, one of which sounds like you're not to spend the night with a member of the opposite sex. Sounds like it might be time to move out on your own if you don't like the rules your parents set. Grow up, in other words.
2006-08-21 17:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are being unreasonable. Most of these people here will tell you that you have to abide by your parents rules. That's not the same as they cannot be brough up for discussion.
Since I don't know your parents, it's hard to give you advice about what will be most effective. Think about how you have convinced them about other things before.
At the end of the day, you may lose the battle. That's when it's time to consider moving out.
2006-08-22 00:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TD is wrong. As long as you live under their roof you have to abide by their rules. If you want to do things your way, then you should think about getting your own place. You cannot disrespect your parents by going against their wishes on matters this serious, no matter how old you are. My 25 year old daughter lives at home and would never even consider spending the night at some guy's house because she knows she would have to move out if she went against our wishes on serious matters.
2006-08-22 00:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes. I've been staying the night with boys since I was 16 and they stayed with me. Thats my parents though, they trusted me. Ask them for your trust! I turned out just fine, been married with two beautiful kids and am 27 years old. Doesn't sound like many are happy with their lives, but I am and if you play your cards right you will be too. Don't let what other people say try to bother you.
2006-08-22 14:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- A) If u dont pay rent, then u have to listen 2 what they say, it comes down to a matter of respect for the household. If u come in late will u be disturbing the family? B) How late is late? Legally u are at the age where u can make ur own desicions, but when u dont turn ur own key, u have to obey ur parents....
2006-08-22 00:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nay Nay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent. I love this question.
You may be over 18 but as long as you are living under your parent's roof, their word is law. If you want to sleep at your boyfriend's house, have sex out of wedlock, whatever, you can legally do it if you are independent. As long as you are under your parent's roof, you are not independent.
The solution? You can move out (which at 20, you should either be in college or have a job and be supporting yourself fully).
Also fast forward 25 years -- what would you say to your son or daughter if they were still living at home but wanted to either have their boyfriend/girlfriend spend the night under your roof or under someone else's roof.
Thanks for allowing me to practice "tough love" on you so I would be ready when my daughter or son asks me the same question. Hopefully, I wouldn't have to.
2006-08-22 00:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kitiany 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are over 18 so you should be able to do what you want. But with you living with your parents you should follow there rules. If you don't like there rules then it is time to be on your own
2006-08-22 00:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by onefinedayitwillb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You should pack up your things, find your own apartment, and move on to a grown up world where you can do what you want when you want, because you are paying your own bills.
Otherwise, if you are still living off your folks at 20, then respect their wishes. Can't have it both ways hon.
2006-08-22 00:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move out into your own place if you want to stay with your bf over night.I mean you live with your parents and you obey there rules.I feel sorry for you,but I asked My Mom if I could stay over my bf/guys friends she let me but she was always worry about me.
2006-08-22 01:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kitiani IS IT????
Now, sorry... im a mother myself.. a mother of 4 healthy, smart, mature and strong minded beautiful women.. whom yes have stayed at their boyfriends houses. All allowed to from the age of 18.
Now who the hell do you think you are firstly undermining people like me as parents, and secondly this nicky girl making her feel like S*** by suggesting her boyfriend doesnt want to marry her. They are both 19 for christ sake.. who wants to be married at that age. Dont youu dare come onto this forum and give such discusting horrible loathful advice youu pitiful women. Why dont you go back to "making love" to those german sheppards you were so sickly bragging about you stupid women. Get a life. I hope your dauughter becomes a prostitute.
PEACE OUT :)
2006-08-22 02:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋