I broke up with my ex after 3 years of miserable relationship. for all the tears i cried and so many sleepless night, i've decided to leave him. he cried sadly and begged me to stay and that he'd change for me. honestly, i felt he was so immature.
am i cruel? or is he really a crying baby?
2006-08-21 17:12:53 · 43 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesnt want you too leave him but I feel that he wants to change and feels you are a good person that he needs in his life but he doesnt know how to treat you. He can cry all he wants but he needs to learn how to treat you. Dont go back to him he is just going to be the same. He needs to be with out you and maybe never with you but he will learn never to treat the other girls like he treated you or maybe he will never learn. Dont stick around to long to find out, you'll be missing out on mr. right
You are not cruel and get that out of your head. You have to be that way with him because of how he is with you. He needs to understand that you were good to him. Think of how many times you have had these problems with him and all of the bad things he has done to you. These things alone should make you not want to go back to him
2006-08-21 17:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfreind cried too when we finally broke up for good. In fact that was the ONLY time he ever cried for me. I can tell you from experience that if he's made you miserable for three years, it can never change no matter what he says, only get worse. It's time to harden your heart and move on. You will be much happier in the long run. Even if your single for a long time, that's when you can grow and accomplish a lot in your life. Then you will be ready for a man who will treat you right.
2006-08-21 17:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you had to do, and if you believe you made the right choice for yourself don't feel bad about it and change your mind. Your not a cruel person for doing this. He will get over it in time and move on with his life. There is no reason to stay in the relationship if it was negative. You deserve happiness in your life, and it's good to see that you are trying to get it. I wish you luck in your future!!!!
2006-08-21 17:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a little bit because you never know if he will change. but also think about why you left him. Did he not have time for you? Did he do anything bad to you? If not, maybe you are cruel. U both shed tears for each other, so you obviously love each other. Go back to him but let him learn not to take you for granted or whatever lesson he needs to learn
2006-08-21 17:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a baby. Don't even give him a second thought. If u were treated miserably, then u deserve so much better. U did the right thing. Go on girl :)
2006-08-21 17:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not cruel. He is the one being cruel to you by playing on your emotions regardless of how miserable you are/were. He would rather you be miserable and pretend to like him than to move on and find another girlfriend. People can only change for themselves where and if they find it necessary. People cannot change for other people.
2006-08-21 17:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Joe K 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being cruel you have a right to be happy and he had his chance to make you happy, but he failed . I say move on you can do a lot better. Find someone who you can be happy with . Who respects you all the time not when you are about to leave them.
2006-08-21 17:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that he's crying and begging out of desperation. he really wants you in his life, and i think he's starting to realise how lost he is without you and that he doesnt want to lose you. you werent being cruel when you left him, you probably made him realise how much he wants you in his life. give him one more chance and if things still havent changed then break up with him again and find someone else.
2006-08-21 17:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been miserable for three years then its time to let go! Forget the tears!
2006-08-21 17:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Dana J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would you really want to stay with a man who would manipulate your feelings? If you are unhappy with him, leave him and don't let those fake tears of his make you feel obligated to stay with him.
2006-08-21 17:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋