kids gotta luv'em?

Question

kids gotta love em'... but have you ever tried ur hardest to get a better job, move to a bigger home, and buy a better vehicle and ur kids make u feel like crap? in 8 months i accomplished this and u know wat MY KIDS TRY to make me feel like i failed because maybe i'm not home enuf or sh*$ i dunno. i only work 8 hrs a day and i work less than 15 mins from home... SUMBUDDY PLZ TELL ME AM I DOING THE THING FOR MY KIDS OR ARE THEY RIGHT AND I SHOULD FEEL BAD????

Answer 1

Kids r mean at that age, they just dont appreciatte what u r doing, theyll understand when they grow up dont worry u r a good mom.

Answer 2

I know what you mean--just hang in there- and every time they want something, remind them that it cost money- evne the electricity they use. Break it down for them, if they want a name brand shirt, or something else, figure out how long you had to work to earn that money, and tell them. Then, ask them what they can do to earn that money- extra chores, etc. If they want the item, they will do it, if not, then it isn't that important. Of course, kids do want time with you, too, maybe they miss you- but they have to understand that you are providing for them. Try getting some of the bills out and showing them what it costs to live - and that if you didn't work, you guys would be living in a run down ghetto, shopping at the Goodwill. Take them to a poor area and drive around, point out the homeless people, the run down look to the houses, etc. Tell them that you want better for them. I explained to my oldest that everything I do is to make a better life for them than what I had. She knows and understands, maybe yours will, too, after trying some of these suggestions- good luck fellow mom :)

Answer 3

I don't know how old your kids are, but mine are 12 &17. When we moved nearly 3 yrs ago, you would have thought I had moved them to the north pole or something. We moved 3 miles from where we did live, just a bigger house, better neighborhood, less traffic, less kids.... that was the problem, they had to leave their friends. But it is only 3 miles, please, they can see each other on the weekends. Anyway, mine try to make me feel guilty too. sometimes my husband got in on it too. But in the long run, we all got used to it, & really like having to spread out.
Good Luck. I think if you're happy, they will eventually be happy. just give them time to adjust.

Answer 4

Don't let that get into your way, I know you're a lot older than I am, I'm turning 16. It's life, they don't realize it yet, money is hard to make, it's not easy. Life is never easy when you grow older. You're a parent, it's your deed to discipline them and to talk to them about the actuality of life. You didn't fail, you know why? You're still living it up. Working hard, getting the money, trying to support the family, and your kids should appreciate you for that. If they don't, discipline them, they'll realize it when they get old, they'll say, "I should've listened to my mother." You're doing the right thing for your kids, you shouldn't feel bad, they'll realize it sooner or later. Best of luck. I mean, look at kids now, all they want is to satisfy their own desires. NOT YET! Once they get older, of course, they'll be on their own.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I feel your pain. I have the reverse problem. I stayed home with them and we have no money and they want things that we can't afford. I now have two jobs to try to get us out of debt and now they complain that they never see dad and I together. Will you make up your mind???> if you want the money I have to go to work. If you want me hoem to be at you beck and call then we will loose our home.

Answer 7

Kids are not going to understand all that you do for them. Kids are kids they are going to complain about something. They quite do not understand of all that you do for them that is thier nature they are selfish and I am not meaning that in a bad way. When they grow up they will understand all that you did for them.

Answer 8

Tell them: "Tough, Suck it up."
Find out what the real problem is. Moving can be traumatic, but they'll get over it.