Am I awful for being attracted to this guy..he could be married?

Question

Okay, I posted my problem before, but tonight it got worse. The guy I work at a sports bar with whom I have heard could possibly be married and only speaks Spanish (I speak it roughly well) is oh so kind and charming. Anyways, he looks at me a lot, and is not shy about direct eye contact. He calls me "mucha bonita" and grabs my shoulders and arm. He is always helping me out and when I look into his eyes I just melt. The chemistry is insane and something I've never felt before with any other guy. But, he could be in a committed relationship--something I would never destroy. I am a Christian and would NEVER cheat with a married man. He doesn't wear a ring, which I know means nothing. But today at work another guy hugged me and was messing around and he got "mad" at him cause he was "flirting" with me. When we walk by eachother he will turn his head to maintain eye contact. I have tried to forget/ignore him but it's so hard with the way he acts all the time. Why does he do this

My friends say that he looks at me a lot (which I don't see) and they don't think he is married. He sure doesn't act it, but I am going to assume he is. By the way, I am not interested in a "sexual relationship" with him because I am saving myself for marriage. I genuinely care about him because I only want the best for him no matter what. I just am really confused as to why he acts this way. *SIGH* :(

Answer 1

Since you are only assuming that he is married, why don't you ask him directly?

If he is not married, carry on with your relationship with him and make it clear to him that sex is only for marriage. If he truly loves you, he will respect your decision and will not force himself on you.

If he's married, move on. No point linger on it since you know that you won't want to be a third party.

If you eventually found out that he lied about his marriage, this shows that he is not a trustworthy person. He will say that he did this cos he loves you and doessn't want to hurt you, etc.

Remember that these are all bullshit.

He will sound like he is a victim of love. If he can "betray" his wife, he can do likewise to you.

Answer 2

Ok!!! This is the deal! You are attracted to this guy obviously or his actions would not bother you. The guy is been charming to you I mean his most likely attracted to you also. Which guy doesn't always think about sex?? Pretty much all of them. You are both attracted to each other obviously!!
Now, there has to be a reason why you think that he could be in a serious relationship or married?? Maybe is your intuition as a woman. Sure you can ask him if his in a serious relationship or if his married but I can garantee you that he will lie. Why? Because if he knows that you are a true Christian and that you would never think about sleeping with a married man and he really, really want's you he will lie to you to get you to do anything with him, trust me!!! Yes you are smart by thinking that if he does not wear a ring it doesn't mean anything because it doesn't he could just be taking it off. If you really wan't to find out if his married or not do some investigation, For example: his name,check it out in the internet, his house# you could just call it and check out who answers, his house# not cell, maybe even find out his address and check to see who lives there. I know this probably sounds really crazy to you but it's worth knowing now than 3 yrs down the line and this way you save yourself a big dissapointment and heartache!! He acts jealous because he is most likely attracted to you and even guys that are married still get jealous with other women that they like and they are probably worse because they have,"been there, done that." Just be-careful because everything always starts with chemistry and attraction and is very easy to get caught up in infactuation. We tend to loose ourselves and not face the reality of the situation!! If you have an instinct it's important that you listen to it!!!! Take my advice from experience I was in your situation once and just like you I had an instinct but I chose not to listen to it by the time i knew it I was totally in love and when I finally decided to find out the truth I did!! But by that time my heart-ache was awful and I wasn't the only one getting hurt so did his wife. So please act on it and don't believe him because he will lie... Good-Luck

Answer 3

This is a difficult situation. From what you have described, his behavior implies he's interested in sex. You describe a lot of sexual chemistry, but little emotional/relational connection. This tells me that while you see him as a romantic interest, he sees you as a purely sexual interest.

The best way to find out if this guy is married is to ask him. Don't get involved in a relationship with him, sexual or otherwise, until you know.

Answer 4

You are not awful by any means! You are living and enjoying life. You will have many loves and as a result many heart aches before its all over so don't get all caught up in saving yourself for anything because the first time will not meet your expectations and there will be thousands of encounters after that which will eventually be great!

Don't be timid--its 2006! Ask him if he's married and take your time from there.

Answer 5

per chance you ought to attempt mind-blowing out with diverse adult adult males? no longer basically is my husband the most marvelous guy i have ever met, he's also my stunning pal. And all of my pals who're married also love their husbands/ different halves. this theory that someone will change right into a terrible individual after marriage (husbands and their wandering eyes, different halves growing tiresome nags), that is a cliche marketed through undesirable sitcoms. of direction it occurs that folk replace after the marriage day, yet this does no longer should be case. There are adequate sturdy adult adult males (and women persons) accessible that one would not ought to marry a sleaze. sturdy success!

Answer 6

There's more fish in the Sea
Find out what language he speeks
LEARN the words

ARE YOU MARRIED if he says no go with the Flo or Alice or something

Answer 7

Well, you could atleast give the guy a bj or even just a handjob, then you'd get to see how big his package is, and it wouldn't really be cheating as much as if you slept with him, if in fact he is married.

Answer 8

Sounds like he just wants you for sex. Guys can be really charming when they want to get you into bed.

Answer 9

First of all a gentleman does not touch a woman who is not his wife or fiancee. Don't kid yourself, he wants to get laid. The rest is up to you.

Answer 10

Please just ask him if he is married! Or, something like, "I live with my parents and my sister and our dog. Who else lives with you?" Then it's not as direct but you may get the answer you seek.

And please come back and let us know how it worked out! Good luck!