Does Southern hospitality exist? If so, why do people in the South seem to have such hatred and intolerance?

Question

for people from the North?

What is it about Northerners that Southerners cannot stand?

Answer 1

What is it about the invaders we can't stand?

Everything.

The way they talk, the way they drive, the complete lack of manners, the way they look down on us as ignorant rednecks.

Do you know how many times a day during snowbird season I have to hear "WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T CARRY (insert brand name I have never heard of) HOT DOGS?????!!!! I GET THEM IN JERSEY!!!!"

Yee-haw. As I would love to tell them, there are north bound lanes on I-95, too.

I mean, hey, when I went up to Wisconsin I didn't have a hissy fit just because the grocery stores don't have and have never heard of boiled peanuts.

(I also hate the way they throw their hands around when they talk- it makes them look like a three year old with ADHD having a temper fit.)

Answer 2

Yes in deed! I am a southerner born and breed. I see no evidence that people in the South seem to have any more hatred and intolerance than people anywhere else. If anything, we have less hatred and intolerance. I was born in New Orleans and moved to the Northshore of Lake Pontchartrain when I was 9 years old. The people around here and over there all seem to respect each other. Now we have our common criminals like anyone else. But for the most part I think the South gets a bad rep. I love the South!

Answer 3

This is an excellent question. I'm going to focus on the first part. Once upon a time, there was such a thing as southern hospitality. But then Southerners got used to hearing that, and stopped working to maintain the privilege of being referred to as hospitable. I lived in TN for almost 7 years and can't remember one time when I met someone who was truly kind just to be kind. I live in the North now, and meet kind people every single day. The people at the gas station are kind, waitresses are kind, the people at the BMV are kind. Southern hospitality is a thing of the past, what we should refer to now is "northern hospitality".

Answer 4

anyone can be nice or evil it all depends on how you are raised. I lived in the south for a long time and as long as you are part of the "click" they are very hospitable. I was always taught that if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all but I think it only goes so far and mean people can kick the niceness right out of you. Kill them with kindness doesn't always work and unfortunately mean people can turn even the nicest person antisocial.

Answer 5

I live in Texas which is rather the south and people are very friendly and kind here. I spent over 50 years in southern California and Texas reminds me of how people were 40 years ago in so. Cal. But times have changed in s cal.

Answer 6

Because southern hospitality do not apply to people from the north.

Answer 7

There is Southern hospitality, but with so many Yankees moving to the South it's harder to find. Northerners come down south and try to tell Southerners how to do things.... There is a bumper sticker you see all over Florida that says "I don't care how you do it up North" Another favorite is "Teach a Yankee to drive... point him North" Too many Northerners move down south and complain about the south and crow about how great things are up North.... us Southerner wish they'd just shut the heck up and go back home!

Answer 8

I am a Yankee who has lived in the south for about 25 years and I have never seen the so called "southern hospitality"

Answer 9

I think it stems back to the Civil War.

My step father is a "good old boy" born and raised in south Georgia, and he refers to my husband (a Michigan native) as a "yankee," but all in good fun.

I've yet to meet anyone from the south who truly hates northerners, or is intolerant of them. If anything, they don't understand people from the north who talk fast and drive faster.

Answer 10

I think that Southerners are very friendly to those that are friendly to them. Maybe you've had a bad experience because you went down with preconceived notions (ie- people often think that southerners are racist or stupid coming in and carry that burden in meeting them, making the interaction not so hot). I've lived all over the country and the south is by far the friendlist place that I have ever been.