If you really love someone, their past shouldn't matter right?

Question

I mean like their previous relationships, sexual encounters..... Do you have a right to be jealous at all? Is it normal to feel jealous? I mean if you were a virgin and they didn't wait for you, would it bother you?

Answer 1

I think that the past should not matter i mean everyone makes mistakes. my bf had sexual relationships with another woman, becuase he thought he really loved her, he was so crushed that he thought he would never love again. But he met me....heehee. and i am a virgin, and i don't mind at all. as long as he doesn't say "jeez you know what my ex was a lot better in bed"

Answer 2

If there is a pattern to their past behavior, don't expect to be Glinda the Good who can wave a wand and change that pattern.

People never give up a habit that works. Never.

Other than the establishmnent of habit patters, their past doesn't matter. For example, your jealousy comes from YOUR past.

Answer 3

I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT OUR PAST SHOULD NOT MATTER TO YOUR SPOUSE BUT I HAVE FOUND IN MY RELATIONSHIP THAT IT DOES SEEMS TO COME UP AT TIMES AND IT CAUSES PROBLEMS AND THE WAY I LOOK AT IT IS IF THEY WANTED TO KNOW YOUR PAST AND THEY DIDN'T LIKE WHAT THE KNEW OR HEARD THEN THEN NEED TO GET OVER IT CAUSE EITHER THEY KNEW OR THEY WANTED TO KNOW AND NOT IT IS UP TO THAT OTHER PERSON IF THAT IS SOMETHING THAT THEY CAN DEAL WITH AND IF SO THEN GREAT AND IF NOT MOVE THEN THEY NEED TO MOVE ON IF ITS SOMETHING THEY CAN'T HANDLE AND WON'T BE A PROBLEM IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL BE BE BROUGHT UP LATER

Answer 4

Past relationships doesn't bother as long as my partner doesnot carry her past in her mind. You know what I meant, right?

Answer 5

no the past ias the past and shouldn't matter

Answer 6

well it depends