This question is mainly about the term all (if not most) of us have heard growing up, that you can't judge a book by its cover, that beauty is only skin deep, and that it is in the eye of the beholder.
I was a child once, and I hope to have children and a wife someday, When I was a child if someone told me that it was impossible to do something, I tried my hardest to prove them wrong, and sometimes managed to lose the point of what I was doing it for. I've done this many times in my life, and even today I see young men and women that only date/have fun or sex with each other because there attractive (and yes I DID ask), and I see more young people today showing more skin and *** then ever before, anyway,although I do try not to "lust" at people just because of their looks, I have somewhat of a habbit of doing it, not that I persue it. I've been single for about 4 years and 3 months on the (25th of aug).
Anyway, please tell me why you chose the answer you did.
2006-08-21 16:48:26 · 23 answers · asked by D 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I did want to add the detail that I don't find women attractive ONLY because of looks, actually I much prefer knowing that a woman won't put anti-freeze in my orange juice and kill me for my insurance money.
Paranoid you say? Look how many times this happens a year.
2006-08-21 16:50:11 · update #1
I think you are too worried about being single (the fact you know to DATE how long it's been is a tell tale sign.). You need to stop looking and it will happen. Girls do choose guys because of what is inside, you just have to find the right one. It's all in how you look for them.
2006-08-21 16:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by sewcute594 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that children do the opposite of what their parents say, unless its sounds really exciting and can almost endanger themselves...I have a 10year old and 8year old girls and they know that they are not allowed to mess with certain things. For instance, To cook, but a few times I over slept and they came in and asked me if I was hungry because they made me breakfast...I thought I was gonna get some toast and cereal, but they brought back pancakes, bacon, eggs (flipped really good), and a glass of orange juice. It almost looked as a professional did it. LOL...but yeah, I believe kids today do the opposite of what parents say. I never liked doing anything what I was told unless it was to get up on the roof and start making some noise (with a hammer), or tearing up houses..My dad was into construction and roofing along with siding. Its the feeling of rebelling against what the Authorities have to say. I too used to lust, but than it got old...and I wanted more than what I was getting...so I decided that if I was to settle down and have a life with someone, I'll get HOW ever MUCH I wanted. But of course it doesn't always work like that. Good Luck!
2006-08-27 09:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children learn by seeing. If you practice what you preach they will as well. If you say something and do the opposite, they will learn to be hypocrites.
Beauty is more than skin deep, but often you can see the effects of someone’s life in their countenances. I have met some drop-dead beauties that were total nut jobs. A friend is currently divorcing a very hot woman who knows how to use it on everyone. She is a total psycho.
She has a litter of children by him and others; she never spanks, or asks the kids to wash or brush their teeth and only feeds them if they beg. In high school I’d of likely given my right arm to date her as she is very very good looking, but now I would chew it off to rid myself of this crazy women.
2006-08-28 21:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by treky1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In regards to "judging a book by it's cover" and "beauty is only skin deep"... I don't think being told that as a child will influence an adult to specifically choose to judge appearances in rebellion. I think our world pretty much sets us all up to judge each others' looks. I won't even touch why I think the young choose to trade their integrity for a little attention. As far as your desire to go above and beyond to disprove another person's opinion or direction, I think that has more to do with a feeling of inferiority as a child that has manifested into adult rebellion... bottom line... a critical mindset, a driving force within you to not be controlled, and the most deepest desire to be loved unconditionally. But hey, that's just my opinion. :)
2006-08-21 17:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Choochie Larue 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not just a male thing i do it all the time. Its because kids and teens don't get in as much trouble as adults do. We don't get arrested for stuff like SEXUAL PREDATORY, adults do. And its wrong to just go for someone because of how they look. If you marry someone who is a "hotty" she will probably be a jerk. Most of the time the person you talk to the most, most of the time its someone you would never give a second look. But she/he gets you and understands you and you can talk with them, they aren't usually the "hottys" hardly ever are they. Lust is a feeling but love is something that is set in your heart. You are born to be with one person, they are your soul-mate. It may take awhile to find them but eventually you will.
2006-08-22 13:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Most Cases, Yes
2006-08-28 04:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Spaghetti MY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it works one way or the other. I think somethings your parents tell you stick with you - even if you initially think they are wrong.
As far as the beauty is skin deep think - I think men and women dating and sleeping with each other based on looks alone isn't an example of them reacting to their parents telling them not to do it. I think it's mainly a reaction to hormones and advertising. Society encourages and ideolizes beauty and sex. And humans are animals who react to their insticts - despite the whole concious thought, civilized thing.
2006-08-27 06:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Someone Else 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good point (on the antifreeze). Some kid's will do the opposite of what you say. I, for one, did not. Well, maybe once. Anyway, my brother always would do what he was told not to do. Maybe it's a male thing. Not really sure.
2006-08-21 16:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see you do the opposite, Hm mm.
Well don't quit blaming your parents for the way you are.
It's their fault and you can't do a thing about it.
So go ahead with you paranoid daydreams that allow you to be angry at all women.
What ever you do don't change, it's worked for four years hasn't it?....
2006-08-21 17:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congrats you are human.you can enjoy a pretty picture without buying it!look to the eyes-that's where the soul rests.nothing wrong with being single.girls always know when a guy is desperateso just enjoy friendship-relax and it will happen
2006-08-21 17:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by lcy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋