My mom is on yet another line between death and sobriaty. She has tried to recover many times but always for the wrong reasons. She doesn't listen but wants help. Mentally and physically she is close to her end and loosing my mother is a real concern. She says she wants help but will not listen to anyone and doesn't want to take the right steps to getting help. She wants a quick solution. So what do you do when there is no listening just repeated conversations of talk that go no where. I don't want to loose my mom but i know I can't be the one who saves her she has to save herself.
2006-08-21 16:36:43 · 13 answers · asked by AJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her that you are gonna drink yourself to death if she dont stop,put apple cider in a whiskey bottle and make her think you are gonna drink until you die because you cant survive without her.and tell her if she dont care then neither do you.
2006-08-21 17:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by sassy brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no quick or easy solutions to this problem. She has to want the help herself, until she is ready there is nothing you can do to help her. I learned that the hard way, I grew up with an alcoholic mother.
The best thing you can do is worry about yourself, take care of yourself, know that none of this is your fault. Mayb suggest that the two of you go into family counseling together. That seemed to help my mom a little, but not really. The only thing that helped her was when she almost died in a car wreck while she was driving drunk. It scared her into sobriety.
Have you tried joining ala-non, or some other support group/program designed to help the loved ones of addicts? That is the best advice I have for you, that helped me alot when I was younger.
2006-08-21 16:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know my mom has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember and I'm 35 --She owns a bar soo go figure....She was diagnosed with cancer 4 years ago june but they caught it in time so she no longer has it .. unless it has came back which they told her it probably would if she didn't quit smoking and drinking she had a very critical 14 hour surgey to have it removed and now she is twice as bad you would think if anything wouldv'e stopped her this surgeory would've been it but....... the bar is is her life the more people that tell her she should stop the more she drinks and smokes it seems GOOD LUCK
2006-08-21 16:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your dad has a concern and has had it for 30 years, opportunities are high there is not any intervention which you or your mom is going to do which will treatment him. he's so based and deep in his alcoholism that it would take some thing alongside the lines of his liver finally failing to end him. Your mom has each and every remarkable to be labored up, yet as you stated it rather is in basic terms inflicting conflict, and clearly no longer helping the area. i'm rather sorry, yet i do no longer think of you are going to locate the respond on your concern on Yahoo solutions. i know i do no longer know you in my opinion yet i would be praying for you and that i desire which you will locate some thank you to artwork via this.
2016-09-29 13:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will not be successful at staying sober until she does it for herself because she wants to. there is no quick solution. You are right, she has to save herself. Watch the TV program "Intervention". I think it is on Discovery. Decide if that is something you and others who love her can do.
2006-08-21 16:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and a few very close friends and family members can have an intervention.
You get together and have to your Mother join you. Then each person reads a letter they've written telling your Mother how her drinking has negatively affected their lives. Then ask her to please seek help.
Unfortunately you Mother has to want to help herself and she has to join a sobriety program. I wish you luck.
2006-08-21 16:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good child. And you are right, it´s not in us to save others. They must want to be saved, and Jesus can do that for your mom. Only Jesus saves... One thing you can do to help that happen is to put your mom´s life in God´s hands. Ask Him to take care of her. He surely will.
2006-08-21 16:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your course of action depends on your age and hers.
If you are an adult then a rehabilitation centre is the only answer.
If you are still a child then call your local child protection services.
2006-08-21 17:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check her into rehab. my mom was an alcoholic and she only stoped after she got drunk and had sex with a guy she didnt know and got an std out of it. your mom has to want to stop. professional help is the best and do it before she dies or gets worse. best of luck and god bless :)
2006-08-21 16:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By removing all of the freakin alcohol around the house. You won't get through her unless she is sober. Good luck.
2006-08-21 16:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋