I've been dating my boyfriend since mid-May, and we've been "going out" since the beginning of June, and I think he's pretty wonderful. So I will be going to his sister's wedding as his date, but I feel like I should buy them a present, but then again I wasn't invited, my boyfriend, the bride's brother invited me...So what's the right thing to do?
2006-08-21 16:19:38 · 15 answers · asked by Cheryl M 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You have 3 options:
1. You in on a gift with your boyfriend
2. Buy a small something - or even make something if your crafty
3. Go and buy something off the registry if you want to make a big impression with them. Go all out.
Personally I would do the second option. Buy a pretty photo album, bring you camera and take some of your own photos to put in the album. Give it to them when they get back from their honeymoon. Just put a few pic, don't fill the album.
Go and have fun!!!
2006-08-21 16:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~*~*Jenny Anne~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Customarily, the gift one brings to a North American style wedding should be similar in cost to the meal that will be presented at the dinner. Think of it as an 'exchange'.
However, you barely know the people, and you sound young, so stay simple. I think your best option is to find out where the bride is registered, go there, see what is on the brides "wish list" and get her something small. Ask your boyfriend or his mom where the bride is registered. The registry list and purchase of the gift can often be done on-line. Don't worry if you don't like the affordable gift; if it is on the list, the bride wants it.
2006-08-21 17:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by giddhom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get them a little something, One way to go is to get a bottle of wine and a couple of glasses and put it in a cute basket. Nice gift for less than $20. Another one is a jar of sauce and some pasta, mayb toss in some wooden spoons or a couple of cute bowls, maybe a box of those crispy bread sticks, and a note saying this is for their first night home from their honeymoon. Or you could do a breakfast basket, with shelf stable breakfast foods and a gormet coffee.
All are less than $20, but very much appreciated. And you may not know them too well so you really don't know what they already have. Pretty baskets can be gotten for next to nothing now, wrap with clear cellophane type paper and a pretty bow. Ta da!!
2006-08-21 16:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by suequek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the bride a gift and do NOT bring it to the wedding (the height of tackiness and inconsiderateness), but have it sent, and do not be cheap either, but get something nice from the registry. This is a maybe future sister-in-law and you have been foisted upon her! I am sure that she is grumbling to her fiance right now about an extra person at wedding (who is this flousie? I am sure that they will break up after the wedding, etc, etc), so get a good gift and be extra nice.
2006-08-22 04:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by sq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the verify the registry individual. yet somewhat, no person expects you to spend $a hundred on a present given your age and faculty concern. if your bf works, then use his money to purchase a present for $50. while you're on your guy or woman, $20 is advantageous given your concern. i might experience undesirable if somebody overspent on me, esp a student. people spend too lots those days and finally end up in debt previously they have even finished college. As for what to get, bypass to mattress, bath, and previous or Linins and issues and get a decision of kitchen gadgets -- greater small cutting boards, corn on the cob holders, outsized serving spoons, etc.... those are issues that once working a kinfolk for years, i'm no longer able to have adequate of. additionally, you may get a $50 reductions bond for $25 at a financial enterprise.
2016-10-02 09:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should pay for present but you could both go together to choose something. There is nothing stopping you from buying something as well,though, but etiquette is that as he is bride's brother, he buys the gift and the fact he invited you as his date, it is his responsibility.
2006-08-21 16:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dazed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning it, just buy them a bottle of wine-like $10-$12 can get you a good one-look for a sale too-put it in a nice bag with a card, 'best wishes'. Don't say 'congratulations'. That means someone has reached a goal, like running a race-best wishes sounds nicer.
2006-08-21 16:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by ShaMayMay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are dating this guy for such a short time, I don't think you would have to get an extravagant, expensive gift, but I would get something nice if it were me..If you don't know what to get, try a gift certificate...they always work. I'm sure what-ever you get they will appreciate. Go and have Fun
2006-08-22 15:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by 2179 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just a card would be appropriate if you've never met the sister, and maybe a small ($10) gift like a candle or picture frame if you have.
2006-08-21 16:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking a little to much on this one. Go as his date and bring a gift. Have fun, don't let little things stress you out.
2006-08-21 16:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by The one and only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋