When I was in high school and a little after I was promiscuous. It seemed like i just could not commit to one relationship.When I tried to commit it would not work out and when one would want to try to me I would be uninterested. I was just confused. Since I turned 20(now 24) I slowed down and became an active member of my church. I am no longer promiscuous either I have one boyfriend and have been faithfully with him for the past three years. Although I was seeing different men at a younger age there were also rumors about me that were not true. So before I commited to this current relationship I told him the truth about the number of men. I just would rather him know the truth. He still wanted to pursue a relationship and seemed ok.
But that was a lie he holds it against and at times throws it in my face. I am different now i honestly am. I just do not know what to do. I feel like it shouldn't matter but almost like I deserve it almost like a punishment. 70% of me feels guilty
2006-08-21 16:13:04 · 4 answers · asked by STAR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't deserve it!~!!! Dump his "holier than thou" butt and get a REAL man!! Try letting yourself be 100% pissed off,and forget the guilt crap!!!
2006-08-21 16:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Stormy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you are an honest person, but I feel bad he is doing this. The high school years were yesterday, and you learned from it. It shouldn't matter how many men before and he should be lucky you chose him over all the others. As hard as this sounds, and it is easier said than done, he should let go of your past, and if he cannot accept it, you should let go of him. Good luck.
2006-08-21 23:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by lacey_2000_02453 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is just that, the past. Never tell a guy you were promiscuous. What good could it do? Unfortunately there is a double standard in dating. Tell him to buzz off. Let he among you who is without sin cast the first stone. You deserve forgiveness, not punishment. Look at where you are going, not where you've been. Good Luck....
2006-08-22 20:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Papa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey there, i think that you need to not pay attention to the guy ,,, if he is throwing it in your face it is an insecurity of his, you keep finding your self...don't let guilt take over you, the guilt your feeling is that the guy now has insecurities and you feel responsible for his insecurities, threw your past......wether or not he knows this is what he is doing, ............shouldn't matter you need to know that you are on the right track to healing, don't let anyone in the way of a path to complete healing.................
2006-08-21 23:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by expression 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋