Hello, I need as many questions to ask as possible. If youre dating someone, whawt questions would you ask about his/her sexual history? What questions should you not ask? what questions should you only ask if you really want to know the answer? What questions might or might not offend him? what questions are too private to ask? Please Help! Thank you!
2006-08-21 16:05:56 · 27 answers · asked by Christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, lets pretend for a minute that you have high moral standards, and while we are all not perfect, you would still like to know a few things about him. also, lets say hes in the 10% of all honest men, now, what would you ask him..
2006-08-21 16:15:29 · update #1
also, he is the one that i plan on marrying. but would like to know more about his past that we havent talked about.
2006-08-21 16:18:04 · update #2
Ask the important things. Like about stds, was there any particular girls he had deeper feelings for beyond just sex?, has come close to getting any women pregnant. I say with sexual history nothing is off limits. And with most guys that haven't been with too many girls anyway, should be able to answer these questions. Now as for being too private or so you don't make yourself paranoid don't ask how good were the past girls, because you will always be comparing yourself to him in bed. Causing you to lose your own confidence. And the top question you should ask is does he still have any contact with these ex girls? If so what is the contact? friendship something on the side, still might have feelings for any of them, any baby mamas? After that you should be set.
2006-08-21 16:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
On a first date? None of the above. If you are getting close to becoming intimate, then you need to ask him if he has been married, or if he's been in previous serious relationships. Then ask if he has any problems you should know about. Regardless of what he says, you should insist that he use a condom.
There are no questions you should not ask. By going blindly into a relationship, you could be putting your life on the line. A little embarrassment is worth it if it saves a life. And if you are going to be intimate with him, there are no questions that are too private to ask.
2006-08-21 16:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, never ask a question you don't want to know the answer to. Second, you do want to know his sexual history. So ask. You don't need to ask it point blank - use a little finesse. If you are at the stage where you are considering sleeping with him then there really aren't any personal questions that are "too personal". You can ask any questions - the way you ask them will determine if a person is offended or not. If you ask with an attitude - you'll probably offend him. If you are having an open conversation I doubt you would offend him with well placed questions.
2006-08-21 16:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by carolcoach64 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should ask any questions that ease your mind regarding your partners sexual history. If you have a mature relationship then no question should offend him. As long as your not asking for details and specifics of his past trysts that I don't think anything should offend him. You have to look out for number one. Worrying about hurting or offending him is not more important than keeping yourself safe. If necessary go and have STD screenings done together.
2006-08-21 16:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly, you're supposed to ask about everything and be comfortable enough with your partner not to be embarrassed or shocked by their answer. Reality is that love is forged and lust is immediate. Sometimes the need to be with someone pulls a lot harder then needing to know them. Make sure you ask how many ex's he still gets along with. Always, always, always ask if they've been tested for aids. You have the control anyway, he obviously wants some attention so just torment him until you get honest answers.
2006-08-21 16:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i would think that in this day & age " most any & all " questions would be a safe & right question to ask him/her ... and do be most attentive to the answer ( cause the life u save might just be ur own). Knowing or wanting to know as much as possible ... whenever u can...about a partner's (or potential-partner) sexual history nowadays is not really such a bad -thing !
And as far as risking "offending" him/her with such questions... if you are as mature & concerned -enuff to dare ask... then he/she should be just as mature,caring,concern to respect the nature of your well-intended interest in knowing .
Aids & other STD terminal -illnesses are "Real" !!!!!!!!!!!
Besides which, ur fiance (future hubby to be) ...should perhaps want to know & ask just as much about yourself... so it's fair that you should leave your-self just as open in that area of discussion .
2006-08-21 16:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what questions would you ask about his/her sexual history?
Only the ones you really needed answered, and could cope with if the answers weren't to your liking.
What questions should you not ask?
See above - same question, different wording.
What questions might or might not offend him?
Surely you should know him well enough to answer that yourself, otherwise you might want to reconsider sleeping with him at all (yet).
what questions are too private to ask?
If it's someone you wish to have sex with, hopefully none. You should be able to ask anything, and be able to have anything asked of you. Just don't get too upset if the answers surprise you...
2006-08-21 16:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good thing to ask is like give a number when askin how many sexual partners theyve had dont ask how many just give a round about number ask have you had more than 10 sexual partners or wuteva # u want to ask definitely ask if they have been tested also ask if thier partners have ever or were ever tested if your not comfortable with talking to that person about it chances are you shouldnt be comfortable enough with that person so your basically wasting your time also open up a conversation about going to get tested together if your relationship is going well and you think you both might be ready to take it to that level good luck girl
2006-08-21 16:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rican_Princesz_Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line... if you're gonna ask a guy about his sexual history, do it straight up... BUT, just to let you know in advance, the majority of guys will NOT answer it 100% truthfully. So, if you can handle the fact that the answer you hear will be somewhat candy coated, or downplayed, then there's no science behind it... just ask it.
2006-08-21 16:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by late664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking for safety reasons, i would ask him one question in general. Have you had an HIV test?
If you are asking for sexual reasons thats tougher. First I would say how many partners has he had. He will either open up from there or close up. Play it by ear.
Personally I dont like to talk about sexual history period. HIV test is all that matters
2006-08-21 16:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by No More Ghosts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋