How to heal the feeling of hatred and wanting to kill a person?

Answer 1

chill out, party with him, if you want to not kill him.

Answer 2

This is a tough one. First of all, you need to sit down and think about why it is you feel this way. Has this person harmed you? Do you feel like this person has 'killed' you? If so, why? Write down your feelings. Then read what you have written and be honest with yourself. Critize the things you know are way out of line. Try to remain calm and go over your feelings with yourself. Look at the situation as if you were both the other person and an outsider. What would you say to yourself if you were an outsider? Would your feelings be rational to any other person? You should realize that it is okay to feel angry and hurt. What is NOT okay is harming another person in any way. You must realize that these are your feelings and you can't let your feelings run you. You know what's right and you should trust that. The fact that you posted this question shows that you are wanting to move past this and that is the first step. You want to heal. You don't want this to effect your life any longer. That's good. Go with that. Don't sit around dwelling on what's wrong in your life all day, focus on living. Look at all the good things in your life and appreciate them. It's not something you can just shake off in one day. You have to work yourself through it and know that you can. If you ever feel like you just can't take it anymore and you might 'explode' get help. Talk to your doctor. If you are thinking of harming yourself or any other person, call 911 immediately. Don't wait, the results of waiting could prove to be much worse than getting the help you need.

Answer 3

Find an outlet, workout, exercise, paint, write, read, build something... The consequences are not worth killing anyone. Its a loose/loose. You will either get caught, have bad karma, or go to Hell depending on your strategy and belief system. Either channel your anger and rage into something positive like meditation or talking it out or whatever. Everyone has those animal instincts deep inside of them, just use self control. The ways of the world do not favor those who kill others. You can work it out or let time heal your pain. Hate is stemmed from pain. Whatever pain this person caused you will eventually go away, killing someone will not remove the pain even if you think it will now. Let karma come back onthe person who did you wrong or angered you. We wreap what we sow in life. I wish you all the happiness in the world! Seriously!

Answer 4

Hatered is a very strong word. Wanting to kill some one is murder. How long have you been having these feelings and thoughts? What could any one do to you that would make you want to kill them? If these feeling continue you need to find a therapists and talk about this. Has the thought of hurting or killing any one ever come up before this? if so than you may be suffering from a anti personalty disorder. How ever it would not be diagnosable untill much more information could be abtained from you. I hope you can find some one to talk to and work this out. Killing some one is never woth the consequences.

Answer 5

Here are a few tips:
Try and see the situation from the other person's point of view
Realize that your anger hurts you, the other person doesn't care
Assess what you can learn from this situation
Accept responsibility for your own emotions and actions

I pray this helps. Another excellent way is to read the Bible everytime you think about the person. Eventually the hatred leaves and you have learned more about the love of God.

Answer 6

This is a very interesting question, because I'm on the other end of it - I've had certain people hate me to the point where they want to ruin my life.

First off, it's very brave of you to even admit this. Seriously...most people will say it's the other person's fault for whatever and ignore their own faults with the situation. So that's a really good thing.

You have to be COMPLETELY honest and ask yourself this. Why do you hate this person so much? If it's because they bullied you or took advantage of you in some way, just tell yourself you're better than that and move on. I'll explain how to effectively move on in a little bit.

If the hate is because of some deep-seated jealousy, hating on the person isn't going to lead you anywhere. In fact, the more you tell yourself to stop hating, it's not going to work. "Getting revenge" is the ineffective way of getting things done for yourself. Preoccupying yourself with the thought of hating another person in general is kind of ironic, if you really think about it. You're wasting a lot of energy hating on a person where you can otherwise spend it on something more productive and beneficial to yourself.

The BEST way to heal the feeling of hate is to get away from it. Move your energy and efforts away from the person you hate and use it into something more useful. There's many ways you can do this...joining a new club, travelling, getting a new job, whatever -- you have to preoccupy yourself, completely immense yourself in something fresh and new so that you'll forget about it.

I reccomend reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I've had friends who are skeptical about the book, but it personally gave me some extremely good perpsective and advice. If you do decide to read it, just be open-minded about it. Good luck.

Answer 7

All I do is realize that they're not worth going to jail for. And as for hating someone, feel free to, it is healthy to let out your emotion. I suppose there is the whole tolerance level thing to apply to this too. And who knows, maybe you are some deranged guy building up his rage until he snaps, taking it out on a good person, I really dont know. I hate a lot of people, I mean a lot, but I surpress that hatred, I tolerate the person, and silently hate them in my sub-concious. You will really have to find your own way on how to deal with it, just don't hurt anyone. Ohh ya, music helps too

Answer 8

Remember that your hatred is hurting YOU more than it is hurting him. If you killed him, well, of course he'd be dead, but he wouldn't be hurting any more. There are much better ways of dealing with this. If you kill somebody, you will be a murderer and a wanted criminal for the rest of your life. You will be punishing yourself... and the person you kill will no longer be suffering at all. What would be the point in doing that? No rational person would choose to kill somebody for revenge.

Answer 9

Work out and get your anger out. Lift some dumbells or run a mile, keep your mind on the person you hate but by the end of the day or the week, you won't feel anything against the person.

Continue lifting weights or running a mile everyday, by the time you don't feel anger while doing this, you will be fine.

Answer 10

Imagine a world in which everyone could kill the person they most hated...there wouldn't be a world! And proof of that is all these people that answered your question encouraging you to kill because they felt the same way you do at some point in their life.

Anyways...you're never going to be satisfied even if you kill him/her, because eventually youre going to hate someone else again!

Answer 11

The sure fire way to dissolve hatred for a person is by positively investing in the life of the person you hate. You can not hate something/someone that you yourself spend time constructively caring for.