Voice your opinions! Do you really think what he's saying makes any sense? Or it's totally overated and we girls make excuses all the time? Or just a piece of bullshit so the author Greg Behrendt can cash in on its popularity?
What if there are real and sincere reasons why guys break those "sins" (like "he's not calling you, dump him!", "he's not dating you, dump him!"), what would you do? Like how Liz always complains, it's not always easy!
Give you guys an example. I have a guy friend (we like each other) who talks a lot about me when he is with this friend, and this friend tells me everything he said. Great, he is really into me as he does see marriage in the picture and he can be so excited about me. But why hasn't he made the moves as described by Greg?
If we're to apply the "He's just not that into you" rule, how can such situation be justified?
More to come!
2006-08-21 15:49:48 · 9 answers · asked by Miss_Perfect 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next, we’ve started a relationship. But he’s really busy with his work, so he can’t contact me as much. But I know how he’s been working hard to build a good rapport so he can start planning for the future. Fine, Greg says a man is never too busy to get what he wants. But girls just reverse your roles just a minute and let’s say you’re really really busy day and tired from work, as much as you want to talk to the guy, how do you handle it? I’d end up being able to just contact him just how much little time I have, regardless of how much I am into him!
So how does “Greg’s rules” justify this? That a guy would go far to make his girl happy? Ever heard of how you really want something but you do not have resources or energy to go for it?
2006-08-21 15:50:34 · update #1
Finally, we’ve broken up because of his work and busyness, he knows he can’t contact me enough and he knows I’m hurt because of this, and he knows he’s not capable of communicating with me the way to make me happy. The way the relationship started was kinda rush so we both agreed to take a seat back. I also agree we should get to know each other better, and we both know that, if the relationship goes on, it may end up worse and harder to patch things up. We’re now both friends again and still hang out and we still see hope and future in possibility of getting back together.
So come again Greg, a guy won’t break up with a girl he’s really into. But what if, the situation’s hopeless and the guy just wants to make it work, and the only way it can work would be to take a seat back in the relationship?
2006-08-21 15:50:55 · update #2
Now let’s take ANOTHER guy into the example. I’ve met this one guy who hasn’t broken any of those “sins” and yes, he calls me, he dates me, he’s not having sex with someone else, he even wants to marry me. Oh yes by Greg’s rules he’s really into me, right? Not! Until I found out all he wants from me is just sex and I don’t want to give it to him, he vanishes.
2006-08-21 15:51:09 · update #3
You know, it's really interesting to see how most girls who have read the book respond, kinda predictable isn't it? You can almost tell who's been reading "he's just not that into you" as their dating bible just from their response. So they've been following the rule, great. Now what about looking things from the OTHER side of the rule? There are always two sides to everything.
2006-08-21 16:04:09 · update #4
You are obviously an insightful, intelligent girl. Why on earth would you think that Greg Behrendt suddenly has all the answers to dilemmas that have been plaguing the world for thousands of years. It's just another self-help book in a long line of self-help books. It should come with a warning label: "For Entertainment Purposes Only".
2006-08-21 15:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are exactly why Greg wrote the book. Girls way overanalyze every little thing. We give men entirely too much credit. Overall, Greg is completely right, but he's not grandmaster of the universe and every single thing he wrote isn't true for every single person on the planet. The point is that girls need to relax. Like you. Get a hobby.
2006-08-21 22:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. I could've used this book decades sooner to save me from a bucket
load of wasted time and heartache. I recommend it to all my lady friends every day. if you don't believe him then go ahead and get burned on a continuous basis by a bunch of weasels. but you ladies deserve far better than that.
2014-09-21 17:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by spike_bloodworth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The book is true. The sooner you believe it the better off you will be. If he wants to be with you he will be. If he doesn't make time for you, you aren't on his mind much. It is cold and harsh but honest. I love that book. Screw him and move on. This goes for any other girl that read this book and found a scenario that fit them. Which is all of us.
2006-08-21 22:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by kari 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe those signs Greg says even BEFORE the book was out. It's true, I'm saying this because I have my fair share of admirers and ex- boyfriends.
My ex-boyfriend is your exact traits in the last guy you've mentioned. He was a sensitive guy who cares a lot about me, calls me even the busiest day of his life and hopes the best of future when we're together.....and just when you thought you've found the right 1, he gaves me the cold shoulder when I rejected him for sex.
I didn't see this as a misbelief of what Greg says in his book.....to me, it's true when he claims that this guy (my ex - bf) isn't into me after all....cuz all he wants from day 1 was sex.....get it?!
I wasn't all bitter after the breakup,.... and of course it wasn't easy cause I do love him after all, but I believe the reality of his selfishness when it comes to relationship matters , cuz he was'nt willing to wait for me in sex.
And I even have guys that still calls me before start of the relationship with ex-boyfriend till the end of it, like till now....I treasure the relationship with them, though I don't see the hope as they see for wanting to be more than friends.
Maybe the time wasn't right for all of us and we'll just wait and see what holds up for an occasion fwhen spark eventually sweep us from our feet.
Love isn't easy....that's why we as women tend to blind ourself with excuse in order to trick ourselves into a perfect relationship.
I get myself out from that rut and stick to the rules that THE ONE will show up with his sencerity and trust ....just like Greg says!
Why not, you say?
Greg was once a jerk too......and he knows how to get the women he wants if he's willing to give in.
2006-08-21 23:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks for you. If he left....he's just not that into you. I think his book is really just common sense. If someone chooses their job over you, then you came second. My boyfriend is VERY busy, but always has time for me.
2006-08-21 22:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by honk2goose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..you wrote so much about this book that now I wanna go out and buy it. Thanks!
2006-08-21 22:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chill and calm down. breathe in, breathe out...
2006-08-21 22:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by tyrox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..now I don't have to read the darn book. Thanks!!!
2006-08-21 22:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋