my dad and i visited friends out of state. we had dinner with a large family. didn't know anyone at the table, except dad. dad and them talked a lot , but i just ate the food. i did answer their questions, but i didn't engage in a conversation like my dad and them.
what would you have done?
2006-08-21 15:34:12 · 13 answers · asked by 0821l_4a8^#y$855 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your Dad is obviously close with the family. He was hoping that you might develop a relationship with these people, or why else would he have taken you along. You were right to answer the questions. Another thing for you to have done would have been to thank the host for the meal and to compliment the food.
It is a good idea to have a few things to talk about that don't have anything to do with religion or politics. Food and the weather are good choices. People always have an opinion about what they like or something like that. And everyone has to deal with weather. You can start a conversation with just about anyone about these topics. Other good topics are movies, sports and television.
If you are shy, you are shy.
But if you end up being talkative with someone it never hurts to try and get to know them. If you let them, a lot of people will end up doing all the talking for you. Everyone loves to talk about themself or their likes. Take a little time to learn their history, A smile never hurts anyone.
I'm not saying you have to pour out your inner most secrets or become someone's life long friend. But coming out of your shell, getting used to new people and surroundings will make you a more well rounded person.
2006-08-21 16:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have engaged the closest 2 around me in some small talk at first hoping that it would grow or that others might join in. There are all kinds of questions that you can think of beforehand to ask in the event of a lull in the evening. And everyone loves answering questions about themselves - such as - "So - what do you do?" "Do you come from a big family?" "Are you going anywhere fun this winter?"
2006-08-21 15:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jaylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an extrovert, so I would have happily engaged in conversation - just like I do with just about anyone including people on Yahoo! Answers!
My husband is an introvert - almost painfully so. He would have likely been quiet like you were. There's nothing wrong with this, as long as you're polite, answer questions (as you indicated you did) and don't appear to be bored or disinterested.
2006-08-21 15:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by midlandsharon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have just talked to the people around me. I am pretty chatty, so sometimes I people when I dont feel like really having conversations, but want to liven it up for others. Ill ask questions like, about their food or some thing they have that you can compliment and have them talk. Then it gets other people talking to them and they think you are a great conversationalist...even tho its them talking!
2006-08-21 16:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by ShaMayMay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the place is overcrowded and you have given permission, then it extremely is not invasion of privateness. whether you do no longer provide permission, i think of that because of the fact they're public seats, you have no say no rely if somebody will take a seat next to you or no longer. it extremely is alright to dodge eye touch with them, or you need to take a e book with you for cases like this ... that's what I do.
2016-12-14 09:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by vazid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this family related too you if not..them find the hottest chick there and flirt with her...or start talking about sports and or music and movies...!!!!
tho I'm a quiteperson too...but next time you should try too start talknig too people.
2006-08-21 15:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i do not like airing my personal busines with a bunch of complete strangers. I find that people who are more secure with themselves are able to restrain from babbling on and on about themselves to people they dont know
2006-08-21 15:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talked and talked. I don't know much about anything but conversation is my forte.
Rose P.
2006-08-21 16:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think either way is fine. If you feel like talking, then talk. If you don't feel in the mood to talk, then just do as you did and answer their questions.
If you don't feel in the mood to talk, don't force yourself into idle chit-chat.
2006-08-21 15:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry, for it is the resposibility of the host to put effort to make sure your feeling as home. Which didn't happen.
2006-08-21 17:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋