if your in a long term rship and ur really into sumthin sexually but ur partner is not, what do ya do? cheat?

Answer 1

SORRY, I beg to differ with the answers above. The answer from the girl who made her guy go without sex for 2 years is funny as well, because for all she knows her man has been getting it elsewhere. Thats what most men do if their girl is not giving it to them. Thats the whole point of cheating, the other person is not suppose to know.

You need to question what it is you are into. Is it impotrant to you If it is important to you WHY is your partner not into it? Are you into scat? or beastiality? Is it something taboo? Is it reasonable ir unreasonable?

If it is important to you and you can't live without it, is it unhealthy> an obsession? Tell your partner, make them understand what it means to you.
But at the end of the day if you pressure them into something do you love them? And if they won't compromise do they love you?

I have been here. me into BDSM, needed/wanted my partner to be dom, the craving grew and grew. In the end I DID cheat. I met someone through a BDSM website, and once I cheated once it was out of my system and that was it. I would never cheat again, but I couldn't have lived without exploring it, and my partner had refused point blank to explore it with me

Answer 2

If this sexual act that you enjoy so much is so important to you that you are prepared to cheat to do it- then the chances are that you don't love your partner at all and are thinking with what's between your legs.

You should try talking to your partner, perhaps they can accommodate some of your needs or there can be a compromise. Why is cheating your first option? You have been with your partner a long time, surely you can talk to them at the very least. If you can't then there is something wrong in your relationship and you could be using your sexual preoccupation as an excuse to end it all.

Cheating is lying...It's never right to lie to somebody, it destroys any kind of relationship.

Look at it this way, would you be friends with somebody you couldn't trust? Didn't think so. If you couldn't even be friends with somebody you didn't trust then I would imagine something as intimate as sex would be totally out out of the question.

If your interest happen to be BDSM you should use your head because if you understand BDSM you will be well aware that trust and comminucation are paramount in sexual relationships containing power play. If you are cheating with somebody then that is a relationship based on and perpetuated by lies. This is a very very dangerous game to play, you can not do these things with somebody you don't trust, somebody's health and well being can depend upon another person. No responsible person would enter such a relationship being anything other than honest.

Even when a sexual relationship is very casual and based on sex the very least you should come to expect is honesty and respect for limits and boundries.

Never lie to a lover, nothing but misery and pain will come of it.

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Answer 3

Relationships are about compromise ....Give and take ...talk with your partner and come to terms you both agree on. If that doesn't happen, then you have a choice to make. Is this sexual desire more important than the relationship your in? If so don't cheat... that normally never works out to your advantage.... Tell your partner that you must find someone else. But on the other hand, its really not that important...Its not life or death and your love is stronger then your sexual apatite. Try something new ... do it spontaneously and hopefully the reaction is good.

Answer 4

Your feelings for your partner should be strong enough that you want to wait until they are ready to take the step into exploring both your sexualities... I would never suggest you cheat, as you are in a long term relationship, I'd figure that's who you wanted to be with... you could always try different ways to please yourself, toys, fingers, 'n' carrots ;)

Answer 5

Wait... if you really love that person... wait... love is not just sex... i know it is necessary for the body and mind, but sometimes you just can't have it.
My boyfriend has been waiting for me for almost 2 years, because he loves me... because i wasn't feeling ready... and because he respects me. Love doesn't force or anything. You may think, "oh how evil she is, she left her man without any for so long" the thing is that i wasn't ready and he preferred to wait until i was ready than to make me do sth i wasn't sure of.
Cheating...? It was never an option... Don't do it... you'll feel you are touching hell...

Answer 6

You should have thought about that before entering a long term relationship. If your mind wanders for others just for sexual satisfaction, face it, your not ready for a relationship one on one. Do yourself a favor and get out before being fruitful and multiplying. Spare yourself the hassle of divorce or worse.

Answer 7

I think you need to get to the bottom of it. Find out why it is your partner isn't sexual. Don't cheat. Cheating doesn't solve anything. Talk it out.

Answer 8

it depends on what that sexual thing is....i would definitely refrain from cheating on your partner especially if you think he/she could be 'the one'. you do not want to break your partner's heart...so if you really can not live like it....you need to talk to him/her and tell them how you're feeling. get everything out in the open...hopefully you will not have to end it.

good luck! :)

Answer 9

NO WAY !!do you cheat that is not the answer all you have to do is speak to your other half and im sure you will find there is something they want to do and your not sure on either but you will have to learn to compromise!!!

Answer 10

Boy, your partner must really mean a lot to you if you're so quick to cheat when you don't get your own way...not cool.