I was suposed to be set up with a guy at a party and my friend who is married was hanging on him during the party and come to find out a week later after he was suposed to call me on wednesday that she has been text messaging him and I think she might have went out with him this weekend. what do you think I should say to her? Do you think I should tell her husband? What would you do if you were in my situation? I really thought I liked him and wanted to go out with him.
2006-08-21 15:26:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the skank's husband.
2006-08-21 15:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, she doesn't sound like much of a friend or a wife for that matter. Next, If she's married, she shouldn't be hanging on anyone but her own husband.
You could approach her and let her know that you really liked the guy and that it was wrong for her to go after him. I would not tell her husband because what goes on in their marriage is really none of anyone's business and you would only be telling him to get back at her. That would be stooping to her level - not necessary.
Whatever you felt for that guy, forget about it. He's obviously not interested in you and he's not worth your time anyway because if he can get together with a married woman, what would he do if he was in a relationship with you?
Maintain your respect for yourself and do not give it up for anyone. You can find better - in both a man and a friend!
2006-08-21 22:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by NGE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not-so-gently point out to her that she's in a COMMITTED relationship; dating is NOT allowed. Do not however tell the husband unless you have concrete evidence that she's banging the guy...and even then I think I'd hesitate if I were you. It's not your business in the grander scheme of things (besides she could always deny it and then where would you be??).
Worst case, just dump the tramp and move on with your life. Do you REALLY want that sort of person involved in your personal affairs?
2006-08-21 22:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the guy. Obviously, he prefers your married friend over you. Even if your friend stops seeing him, do you think the guy would ask you out? If he does, will you feel comfortable with someone who didn't choose you first?
Just tell your friend how you feel. If you're really her friend, act like one. Maybe she will realize the error of her ways. BUt if you tell her husband, then you will lose a friend and you will forever be tagged as a backstabber. Moreover, you would be accused of sourgraping coz you didn't get the guy.
But if you really really like the guy, call him and ask him out. Pretend his communication with your "friend" doesn't bother you and charm him into choosing you instead of your adulterous friend.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 22:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what I would do is thank her for showing you what kind of friend she really is. Also thank her for saving your time on the loser and saving you from heart ache later. If he knew that you were supposed to be set up together and he did your friend be happy. Don't waist your time on him. And as for telling her hubbie. Just let it go cuz she will screw it up on her own and when she does you are not to blame. Oh one more thing. Keep her away from your next boyfriend. She cannot be trusted. Good luck.
2006-08-21 22:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one cause whatever you do you may lose a friend and in the process break up a marriage.
Before you say or do anything you need proof to back up what you are accusing her of.
A text message is so harmless these days.
As I always say there are other fish in the sea.
2006-08-29 22:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, tell her you don't agree. Don't surround yourself with people like that. One of those situations; if you have friends like that you don't need enemies. Sounds like you were just the fall guy, maybe to cover so her husband wouldn't think anything. If you are friends with her husband too, and you having nothing to loose at this point, he deserves to know. Cheating is cheating, no one deserves for it to happen to them.
2006-08-21 22:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would inquire her about her relations with this young man and i wouldnt tell her husband unless your certain shes cheating. However if your certain she is, then dont say a thing to her, go straight to her husband in strict confedince and make him promise you he wont tell her it was you that told him and that way youll still have a chance with the new guy.
2006-08-21 22:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her of her shameless ways but I wouldn't go to the husband because then that would put you in the middle of some drama. As far as this guy,I would just forget him and move on to something better.
2006-08-21 22:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in this exact situation. actually she was married (1-2yrs) and informed us(some friends and me) that she wanted a divorce because he was abusive. As friends we were all trying to help. i took her out and she met this guy who seemed great at first. then another friend was trying to set me up and this was a really good guy. then i went to a party to meet him and the friend i took out was all over him. Later i did get to meet him and we became friends though i kept my girl closer. i let it go and looked at it as it wasn't meant to be. a couple of weeks went by and i recieved a call from her husband asking if she was sleeping around on him because he feared catching an STD because she was still sleeping with him too. Ok enough is enough if i were in this situation what would i want, i'd hope someone would be honest with me especially if my guts telling me to ask their friends. So i did and to make sure i wasn't called a liar i took a group (two car loads overstuffed) of friends so that her husband could meet the guy with out any of us having to worry about a fight. Well they both decided they wanted to catch her in the act so all of us went over to the third guys house and wouldn't you know it there she was. Her husband tried to be nice and baseball bats were drawn out by them(not us) but there was only four of them and a crap load of us. He kindly asked to talk to his wife but she was busy yelling at all of us then she went up to him yelling and screaming and busted him in his jaw a few times before he stopped her. (i think he was just stunned that she was cheating on him not with one but two guys) And then he yelled do you all see the abuse i have to put up with as he threw his hands in the air. This caused us all to lose our friendship with her and we all became friends with him. She lost everything including the respect of her friends she later became a drug addict busted in a meth lab and has yet to find something that will last. i set him up with a friend and he has been happily married for 10 years. After all was said and done and the guy i was supposed to get set up with was tested for STD's we started seeing each other for a while though it didn't last but we just wasn't meant to be- but that was just us
2006-08-21 23:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend she is not i would confront her in private and tell her how i feel and let her know that she will never use me again and i wouldn't tell her husband anything cause what done in the dark always come to the light leave her alone cause she is a snake good luck PS: remmeber she bite you once twice is a no no
2006-08-21 22:35:10 · answer #11 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋