ive been dating with my bf for over a year..we are happy couples..but there is something that bothering me..y he is so hard to trust me..he dont even trust me if i hangout with my friends n my bestfriends which is guys..he scared that im going to change my mind and dating with my own bestfriend..i tried so hard and slowly to grow his trust in me..i dont know how far he trust me..but seems that it still at the same level..opinion or solution anyone?
2006-08-21 15:20:44 · 25 answers · asked by rayna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All guys are insecure when their girlfriend hangs around another guy. Let your boyfriend hang out with you and your friend, let them get to know each other better.
2006-08-21 15:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your asking the question in relation to you when he the one with the problem. As you said he is the one who does not trust. Ob there an issue with him maybe in his past etc. He needs to address this as without trust there is no real relationship. Trust is hard to establish once you have lost it however if the trust problem does not stem from you then it is unfair that you are having to put up with his insecurities and being punished for it. Talk to him as it is not going to get any better. Maybe the fact that you hang out with guys is a self esteem issue for him, invite him along but you have a right to have male friends. Think of how you would feel if he was hanging out with female friends without you, out the shoe on the other foot so to speak. If you are a couple then do things as a couple with your friends, invite them over to his place etc so he is on his own territory (males are funny like that) then move on from there. Get your male friends to bring along there g/f or female friends so it make it less threatening.
2006-08-21 22:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even a good man, like i have, will feel uncomfortable with his woman having a guy friend. when you enter an adult relationship, you have to understand what is appropriate and what is unappropriate.
take for instance, my neighbor tim. he is the nicest, but not an attrative man. well my man doesn't mind him coming over, as long as he is here.
it's not that he doesn't trust you, he doesn't trust the other guy, because he knows how a man thinks.
if it were you, would you want this man going and haging out at the playboy mansion.. NOPE
2006-08-21 22:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Karen Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you act different with your guy friends when your bf is around that would worry him for any reason? or maybe your bf has an issue in trust and needs proof that you are with him because you like HIM and that you wouldnt be interested in any of your friends.you should try talking to him.
2006-08-21 22:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the problem lies in his own insecurities. If that isn't the case, maybe he sees something in the way you act around the guys you know that makes him uncomfortable.
2006-08-21 22:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by NGE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he has been hurt by past girlfriends and can't help but to feel that way. there is nothing you can do to show him you are trust worthy, he just has to work that issue out with himself and understand that you are not his past girlfriends. just keep doing what you are doing and if he doesn't trust you that much, he would have already left by now.
2006-08-21 22:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just doesn't think he's a very worthy boyfriend. It's got nothing to do with you; I imagine he will do the same with whoever he dates until he starts liking himself more.
2006-08-21 22:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by dSweetBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are insecure and always are mistrustful of others. So don't take it personal and live your life and have fun. Its not your fault is his upbringing that made him that way.
2006-08-21 22:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why doesnt he trust you...maybe he has been hurt in the past that makes him not trust anyone....just talk to him and see if you guys can work through it all
2006-08-21 22:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you and your boyfriend ever hung out with your male friends you need to try it and introduce them to one another and let him see for his self that it is just friendship nothing else and if that don't work ask him what the problem is good luck
2006-08-21 22:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋