Ok im getting a divorce! I am wondering do men really like to take on women with children? How does the mans family react to having a "ready made" family?
2006-08-21 15:18:22 · 20 answers · asked by keylee l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok im not looking for someone to take care of me, by saying take them on...I simply mean will men generaly date single moms..
2006-08-21 15:36:47 · update #1
There are plenty of men who will, do you want a guy that does not accept you AND your kids? There are plenty of those too, and it will be dissappointing sometimes.. but you aren't missing out if they are not willing to give of themselves that way in a relationship. Also, be VERY careful.. Pedohiles and Child Molesters prey upon Single moms. Beware the man who courts your children.. Might be a pervert.
2006-08-21 15:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by enquiring mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of Coarse they do. Just remember men do anything to get in your pants. Only losers would not want a woman who has Children. Most families should not act badly to having a ready made family. So long as the Person had found a good mate. But there are always going to be people who say all she wants is someone to care of her kids. Just ignore someone like that, and follow your heart, but be smart. Be up front with anyone you date, that you have kids. If they don't like it they won't stick around then long enough for you to fall in love then. If they do stick around it shouldn't be any problem for them.
Just to comment on another Question you asked a while ago: Sure Guys like Bubble b_tts, But Big Boobs and a small B_tt is cool too! Some Guys look at the complete package not just a B_tt. Be Happy you have a small B_tt, do you know how many women would love to have that?
2006-08-21 22:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by tm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the type of men you find. I am also a single mom and when I started dating I ran into some real losers that were not feeling me having kids, but now i found this great guy (he has a kid to) and it seems to be working out. Remember that when you get in a relationship its not just about you. You have kids and its important that who ever you get invloved with respects that and can take on the whole package. Good luck
2006-08-21 22:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal Ball 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's true most men don't want a woman with baggage, or a snot rag here and there. That's why you let them know up front what's what. Then if he decides to take it any farther with you then so be it. If he gets your number and doesn't call or you call him and he doesn't return your call then leave him alone, he wasn't worth your time anyway. I don't know about most of the single mother's on here, but I won't let a guy that I am dating even get near my child unless we have been together for damn near a year so I can see if he is suitable for being around my child, I don't play that. And I don't think he wants to see mommy coming home with a different man every other night, that looks bad on you and makes your child wonder....just remember to wait awhile before you start dating, you don't want a rebound man whose gonna want to tap that and could give to rats *** about how you feel and your children, yah feel me? Keep yah head up momma, your gonna make it and find someone good for yah. If you do have your "NEW MAN" around your children, if they don't like him get rid of him. I'd rather lose a man than to lose my child.....
2006-08-21 22:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by blakgal11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been divorced for about two years now, I find there are a lot of men that date women with children. Plus I will only date men that have children. I find that they understand my position with my children and how they must come first even before our relationship better. Men that have never had to share there special someone with children just don't get it.
2006-08-21 22:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by southernyankee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, you want the truth and here it is. It is very hard. I am newly divorced. And It has been a year. My son is RESISTANT to me dating. He is nearly 16 and I have been discovered by a wonderful man. My son makes it a bit difficult, because he still harbors fantasies about me reuniting with his father. Now this is just with ONE child. Now you will have to find someone carefully. Your number one priority is protecting your kids, but it is and CAN be difficult for a MAN to not be intimidated with the ready made family AND responsibility (financially you need to show him, YOU are not dependent on him). Additionally, this also is difficult to balance HIS needs and your KIDS needs. Yep, that is going to be tough. ALSO you must RETAIN parental role. He is not their father. He SHOULD NEVER discipline your kids. You have that responsibility. NEVER bring the guy to your house UNTIL there is talk of serious commitment. ALWAYS be honest about your kids, do not surprise the guy. He has to be willing to accept the whole package. Well, I hate to sound like Dr. Phil, but you have to be you and your kids will have to be themselves. I am telling you, it is not easy. It isn't impossible. Always, always, always have the GUY checked out by law enforcement, or on line background check. You do not want to bring a pedophile into your household. NOW, I think that covers all of the bases.
2006-08-21 22:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have a tough time
age of the children will be one factor
how much you complain about your ex will be another
how sexually active is another
not all guys want another mans mess
some will go for the MILF factor
but if you look at the numbers, your odds are not good
most will perceive ( rightfully so ) that your children ( should they become involved )are more important than them.. and that wrong...
you will not get the best candidates of men as the good ones are taken..
2006-08-21 22:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to start dating to find a replacement father for your children you are in for a lot of disappointment, If you are going to start dating to find a new love you will have much more success.
Most good men will not base their love of you on whether or not you already have children.
2006-08-21 22:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear single mom, every man is different and so is every family. Now ask yourself the other way around about a man w/children.
2006-08-21 22:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been divorced twice.I have two beautiful children.And have been lucky enough to find a good man.But,always make sure that if you find a man and you two hook up.If he has kids make sure that the kids like one another .It's not easy in the start of any relationship.Good luck.....
2006-08-21 22:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by cissie1977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋