I've been dating this guy for a year and a half. He's told me he loves me only once, has many female friends, brings them up all the time and just recently took one out to dinner because she got a promotion.
He claims he has many friends who are girls because he's just always felt more comfortable with them because his father was not good father. Yeah right!! Anyone one else agree. Would anyone else be willing to deal with this?
2006-08-21 14:46:23 · 23 answers · asked by hikerchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-21 14:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's said I love you only once in over a year, it's time to move on. It is. You aren';t getting any younger and you can do better. It's one thing to have afemale friend or two but if it's dinner for a celebration, then you should be going as well.
Celebration, is just that--celebrate, the more, the merrier..
My sister did the same thing as you: stayed with "him" for 3 years, broke up for a year and started back for another 3. She finally threw in the towel but has spent the better part of her "twenties" in this relationship that went nowhere. She's thirty now and trying to maintain another long term relationship.
Don't do that. The fact that you got on line, and asked this wuestion means you have good qualities and you're probably a decent person, don't let this happen to you.
Goodluck & Godspeed
2006-08-21 21:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mike B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally will not be able to deal with this. If i am in a relationship with a guy, its just about ME and HIM and NOT me, him, and HER!!!! In my opinion, if a guy is in a relationship with a girl, he should not be going on any other dates with another female. And yes, most guys have a lot of female friends but if they are "true friends" they would have to understand that he is in a relationship and give him his space. But this is not up to the girl to do, it is his job to let his female friends know whats going on. Even though your boyfriend does have all of these female friends, looks can be deceiving and can eventually cause a mix-up in you and your boyfriends relationship. What i mean is that he can have a female friend but she can SEEM or LOOK as if she is more than just a friend.
If you havent already, try sitting down with him explaing to him how you feel. And you never know, he may actually change. But it is not up to anyone else to decide what is best for you, only you can do that. But i wish you the best!
2006-08-21 21:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Be Told 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is friends with a lot of women doesn't mean he is cheating. I am more comfortable with my male friends, female friends, just a few. My best friend is more comfortable with women, it doesn't mean he is cheating on his wife.
If he was hiding the friends from you, not letting you meet them or talk to them, then you might have a reason to worry. Trust is big part of a relationship. If you don't trust him, you might as well call it quits now.
Maybe you are just insecure about your relationship because of something you have done or something that has been done to you. That does not mean he will do it.
2006-08-21 22:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by big momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a female friend out for a promotion is more then fine I think. I am gay, and have had male gay friends take me to dinner for less then that in a completely platonic way.
Try not to be jealous simply because he has other female friends ;P
2006-08-21 21:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by kakumei_keahi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope hes a flirt ..he want every girl in the planet.. wants to feel a pimp about it... He is really selfish ... b/c hes not thinking of you .. hes not ready for a relationship because there is no need for him to be seeing all this women .. in the 1st place.. if he really did loved you. YOU ll be the ONLY one to fill his day his DESIRE for GIRLS.. HE s not into you that more sweetie.. let him GO and let him try to "get all those girls" you are much worth it for him ... Just see yourself you dont need No guys around you to feel good with yourself..you are capable of having a nice meaning relationshim you just need the RIGHT GUY .. .. DUMP HIM NOW!..hes old ..
2006-08-21 21:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him for a year and a half and you are only now questioning his fidelity? Have you taken the time to tell him how you feel about his female friends? As you feel uncomfortable regarding this, do whatever is necessary for your peace of mind.
2006-08-21 21:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way, if he were your HUSBAND, hanging around all his female friends and taking them out for dinner, would you tolerate that?
As for me, absolutely not. The fact that he doesn't have close male friends also seems to indicate a masculinity problem, which as others have already suggested, could indicate that he's gay, bisexual or transgendered.
2006-08-21 23:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by t blk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, unless he has given you the right not to. he seems to be completely open and honest. by being insecure you will only push him away. believe me, if someone wants to cheat, the WILL, even though you may think they have NO female friends. the issues you have are between you and him. focus more on what he feels for YOU and what direction the relationship is taking than blaming the female companions in his life. good luck.
2006-08-21 21:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stick it out because my guy has a lot of female friends too and i've became really good friends with some of them. some guys just like having more females around rather then hanging with a bunch of guys.
2006-08-21 22:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I would because I too prefer friends that are girls than guys. I also see where your coming from because my gf has a problem with it too. Talk to him about it and tell him that if he wants to take anyone out you should be present, if its to be curtious he should have no problem with it, I know I wouldn't.
2006-08-21 21:52:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋