Is it ok to be scared to have kids? Mom left me with her step-sister when i was 3 and said she was going to a job interview. After 3 days she still hadn't come back for me so here sis took me to my grandma's house. I lived there for about 8 years then moved in wit my dad and step mom then just last year my step-mom kicked me out because she read my journal and didn't like what i said. And my dad didn't say anything. Is it ok to be scared to have kids because i don't want to be like my parents.
2006-08-21 14:40:16 · 17 answers · asked by gismo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You will probably be a very good parent because you know what it's like to not have good parents. Don't be scared, just love your kids.
2006-08-21 14:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Donna Lu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 sisters and 1 brother and i grew up in foster homes.The rest of the kids from my stepdads other 2 marriages had horrible lives growing up. Only 2 out of the total of 8 kids has turned out to be a bad parent. Don't be afraid to have kids. Just make sure you are old enough and maybe take a parenting class. If you really want your kids to have a better life than you did, you'll find yourself working really hard for it. We all did!
2006-08-22 01:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is scared to have kids because of the many different reasons. You know some people are afraid of raising them, some people are afraid of how they might turn out, and there are many other reasons. You're not the only one with this feeling so don't worry. There are so many people in this world who had a pretty bad childhood and who are now scared to have kids. But you should learn from your parents mistakes and just not make the same mistakes. :)
2006-08-21 21:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by MOTHERRR SOUP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, my mother did the same thing to me when my sister and I were 1 and 2 we ended up bouncing from family member to family member and I'm 37 now and have 2 kids of my own, I didn't have my 1st til I was 24, I was scared too but I found the right person and I knew he would be with me and those of us who have been in this situation tend to go to the other extreme with it!
2006-08-21 21:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by amd730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal.
no you will not be like your mom because this is unexcuseable behavior, you seem like a bright person who wouldnt abandon your kids. Dont blame yourself for your parents being disfunctional.
however I've always been scared that I was the type of person to accidently leave my sleeping child in the back of the car on a hot day. but I know in reality that i would Never Ever really do that.
2006-08-21 21:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's ok to be scared. If you truly want kids...surround yourself with people you love and look to them for support and guidance. Hopefully, you will have a husband to experience this with because it makes all the difference when you raise a child with the help from a father.
2006-08-21 21:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by LNZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is and as far as your step mom she doesn't have a heart how would she have act if you were her bilogical child and she read your journal she wouldn't have thrown you out and what wrong with your father don't he love you don't he know what you been thru he is suspose to love you uncondtional that how my parents me and i raised my children good luck seek help from a big sister organzination
2006-08-21 22:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES ITS OK TO BE SCARED,,,but just learn from thier mistakes and be a better parent and know that every child deserves love and happiness.
2006-08-21 21:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared, i'm sure you'll be better than your parents were by the sound of it. You sound young though, so don't rush into it. Late twenties maybe, after enjoying your life for a while.
2006-08-21 21:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but if the time comes, I'm sure you've learned from the
mistakes from your family to know what not to do. Best of luck to
you.
2006-08-21 21:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋