Christians Only please: I'm going to visit a pregnant teen friend?

Question

I'm going to this girl's house in a couple of days and I was wondering what I should say. I haven't talked to her in a few months so I don't really know how things are going. I am going with someone else who has been in touch with her, but that isn't going to stop me from looking dumb. Any suggestions? By-the-way this is a very smart and hardheaded girl. She likes to do things on her own. And I am going into this with the intent to speak about God and church.

She is not a christian and I have never and don't plan on belittling her. She used to go to church but got turned off b/c people were talking about her. So do you really think I would do something like that?

Answer 1

Keep your bullshit beliefs to yourself and just be supportive you twit.

Answer 2

Well, I am a smart hardheaded women, that happens to have been a pregnant teen at one time in my life.
I first was pregnant at 14, and had 3 children at seventeen.

That was 25 yrs ago, btw. So maybe I can give some insight.
The one thing that I found, was every friend that I had in school, split. Everyone. It was without a doubt, the most lonesome time in my life. Fast changing life, I may add. I was taken out of school, since I was such a disgrace. I am sure they prob don't do that much anymore, this was rural Ohio, in the 80's.

The one thing that I needed more than anything, was a friend. Someone to stand by me. When I yelled at them. When I hurt and was lonely. When I was kicked out of school. When I left the familliar of my home, and had to grow up so fast. I had no clue how to keep a baby, or a house, or a budget, ect. And no one to teach me or go with me to a class. So make sure that you are committed in this. That you want to be a part of this girls life. I bet she has enough people that have run. Are you ready for the long haul, because that is how a Christian makes an impact. Anyone can give a few sentences of "it's going to be okay" let go and let God."

God will give you the words that He wants you to say about Him. That annointing will be there, pray pray pray....you may not get a result from the first with her, she may even get mad. Just remember the word doesn't return void, but accomplishes every work.

I hope this helps, it took me a long time before I understood what it meant to be a pregnant teen and mom. I would love to use what I have lived in my life to give help to someone else. be blessed in Jesus.

Answer 3

Pray everyday for her. Go in remembering that she is most likely very terrified and confused about how this is going to change her life. Don't push God on her, that is only going to make her run the other way. Explain what you want and leave it there. You can plant the seed, but allow God to nuture the seed into a beautiful person that loves and lives for God. Remind her that no matter what; you love her and will always be there to help and support her. Please remember that God loves all sinners even those who don't yet walk in His footsteps. Always be there for her weather or not she is yet a Christian, that is what a true Christian would do. And always remember not to judge her, for ye who judge shall be judged. Treat her as Jesus would. Show her the true love of Christ through what you do for her. And never think of her as a sinner. Think of her as a child of God who needs help finding the path. Hope this helps. God Bless.

Answer 4

Wow, you got some really whacked out answers above! Anyway, definitely pray for wisdom. Remember, Jesus always took care of the immediate physical and human needs before preaching.

Sometimes it is a long road before you feel the spirit move to witness. Be there for your friend, be encouraging and uplifting talk about the exciting aspects of having a baby.

Lastly, have a few things of common interest in mind to talk about ... but be ready to listen and remember not all questions need or have answers. Good luck and God Bless, MAC

Answer 5

Babies are blessings from God no matter what the circumstances so try to steer clear of negativity regarding the baby itself. I think if you love her and show her God's love without appearing to be too judgmental, she will be more open to hearing what you have to say. Perhaps you could talk to her about all the special pregnant women in the Bible. Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, Naomi, Elizabeth, and most importantly Mary. Mary was a teen mother herself. Of course the circumstances were different since Mary was a virgin but perhaps this girl might find some common ground with these women. God loves women and babies. God isn't judging her for having a baby, the baby is God's gift and is a precious life. Sexual relations before marriage is a sin and perhaps she will come to realize that in time but God can convict her of that without you telling her she is bad. I would just keep my heart open to what the Holy Spirit prompts you to say and do while you are with this girl and then let God do the rest.

My mom was a pregnant teen (pregnant with me) who got her life right and became a mighty woman of God. She has been married to my father for 32 years and has 5 children and 1 grandchild. God can do great things even through teen pregnancy.

Answer 6

Do not push GOD and your beliefs on her if you want to keep her as your friend. That is not what she wants to hear and if she dont want to hear it from you she will take nothing you say seriously or to heart. You will be wasteing your breath. Im not saying she doesnt need GOD, everyone does, she doesnt need him pushed and that is probably how she will take it. Go in there and talk to her like you would any other day. She is still the same person with the same personality and spirit she had before. She is not a bad person and does not need to be judged. She needs love and friendship in any form or fashion.
Just be a good friend and ask if she needs you to do anything for her. Dont not talk to her for months, dont abandon your friend

Answer 7

Well, it is too late to preach to her about the virtues of abstinence until marriage.....
Go in as a support system, not as someone who is being judgmental and preachy. We all make mistakes, and I am sure that the last thing she wants right now is for you to point out the obvious to her. Be subtle, invite her to church with you one Sunday. See if she wants to come with you to a Wednesday night sermon, I'm sure the free daycare will sound appealing.

Remember, just because she has made some bad decisions does not mean that she is not a Christian already.

Answer 8

If she is hardheaded like you say, the best thing you can do instead of talking about God and church is just be a good example of what you want to tell her to do herself. Just be kind to her, love her, don't judge her, and offer your help and support. Be a friend to her, and your good example will leave much more of an impact than talking to her about church. She will likely react badly if you start preaching to her.

Answer 9

Is the real reason your going to keep her from aborting the baby? You didn't mention anything about her faith, and you haven't seen her in a long time. Why don't you catch up first, find out about her faith. She may have found God and you don't know, and then you'll come off bad. I think you should not bring anyone with you. If you do, she may feel that you dont' care about her, you just care about her baby. And the catholic church has a bad record about caring about only the mother, just until the baby is born.

Be her friend, not her priest. Take her to church if she wants to though.

Answer 10

Remember this can be a joyous occasion for her!!! All life comes from God---- :)

Prayer is essential before you make any move---so remember to pray and ask God to help you be alight and an encouragement---and ask Him to give you the words to say----He will-that's what He says in His word!!!

remember also just because she is a teen--- she now is a mom-to-be....with lots of expectation!!! Let her know that you are there for her ---anytime she needs you---whether it's for a listening ear, or a friend to hold your hand---- let her know that you will be praying for her---to have a problem-free pregnancy and painless delivery!!!! That will be a great encouragement!!!

let her know that she can count on your prayers and your friendship----God will work Himself into the conversation when He should be ---- don't be too anxious---sometimes its better to wait ---- til they ask ---- just let her know you will be in prayer for her----God loves her and He knows what will bring her to HIm---

if you have some special event coming up at church---you can invite her to that ---- but don't push church---let it be there---you don't want her to think you are judging her!!

(Many girls in church make the same mistakes--) so don't let her feel she needs church because of her mistake---NO she needs God because WE all do!!!

Answer 11

I would suggest you three hold hands and you say a prayer for her, her baby and her family. We have no idea how her parents have accepted this...just remember as a reminder to all, this is a gift from God to this family.
Perhaps it could have come in a different way and time
but it did not and it's ok. This is the time this family needs God. I am sure he will guide this girl and her family in the right way if prayed for.