my step dad raped me(when i was 8)?

Question

he walk in while i was sleeping and i told my older sister what she did and after 3 weeks i told my mom my mom dint belive me untill he raped agine and my mom walked in! now my mom told me it was my folt that she broke up!

Answer 1

you need to talkk to someone else in your family - maybe an aunt or uncle who will listen to you. tell them what's going on. yotu need help and to get out of that house. your mother isn't well, if she thinks it was your fault. so you both need to see therapy - you for what that scumbag did to you and your mother - for her being so delusional to think that it was your fault. it's not that she doesn't love you, she's just really sick rightt now and needs help. but you need help to. so you get help for yourself first, then for your mom.

Answer 2

This is really on the borderline of being to serious to be answered like this. This sounds like something you should be discussing with someone professional.
I'll do my best.
Obviously it was never followed up and I'm not sure if that would be of any help to you with your situation with your mom.
She's a victim too.
To have realized you in fact had told her the truth.
After her choosing to ignore it.
Than having caught him in the act of not only cheating, in itself a terrible thing, but to have caught him in such a shocking, deviated act of degeneracy with her daughter and discovering him to be a pedophile, must have devastated her.
Realizing she probably lost your trust and possibly your respect when she actually caught him, she must have suffered the worse feelings of betrayal, and by a husband, no less, someone you have to assume, she also loved.
Between feelings of extreme guilt and not knowing what to say or do for you and hurt and loneliness over such a devastating and heartbreaking turn of events she must be in a terrible mood.and apparently is taking it out on you.
It's probably that your both serverely traumatized each in your own way from the same incident and not sure what or how to handle it.
I wish I had some secret I could share with you to make it all go away but I don't and I seriously doubt anybody else does either.
Time, they say heals all wounds. So take your time. Don't let a few minutes of your life destroy the rest of it.
make sure you and your mom hang on to each other.
Family is sometimes all you'll have.
Hey, I wish you both well.
Good luck, heh.

Answer 3

Some mom's are so scared, they don't want to lose their husbands because of their own personal struggles. She probably feels that he validate's her as a woman and that she's nothing without him, so she put him before her own children. That's terrible, and live on. Everyone feels like they need a mother. But sometimes mothers need time to realize their mistakes. As for your father, he has problems, he's sick. Everything stems from the childhood. But everyone has to pay for their mistakes. You should definitely tell someone, because you don't want him to hurt someone else, and have him make someone else feel the way you do. I know it must hurt, but time is the only thing that can heal pain. You'll be okay. I hope you feel better, and if you have any questions you can email me.

Answer 4

Mom needs help! It was no way your fault! you were a child. I hope you have had help with this and that he was sent to jail! She needs to concentrate on you kids well-being instead of worrying over a no-good man like that! I really feel for you. I was raped at 8 by a friend's father when I spent the night with her. Back then I had never heard of it and of course we didn't talk about it so I never recieved any help. I put it way back in my mind but it was always there tearing me apart and making me feel used and low. His daughter was the Prom queen and class fav,etc and I didn't have any self esteem .I was popular enough but had no confidence in myself and couldn't succeed in anything.I finally dealt with it at about 45 and just told her about it after he died a couple of years ago. It helped me a bunch!Best wishes and remember you are a special person and this man was sick and hurt you-the victim. But don't stay the victim! Work on it and be the best YOU that you can be. Don't let him succeed in ruining your life!!

Answer 5

As difficult as this would be try telling your boyfriend so he's acquainted with the place you're coming from. If he's a stable guy or woman he'd understand in case you probably did no longer prefer to hurry issues or experience slightly uncertain approximately intercourse. it could be smart to seek for counselling to help you get by using this. i've got had counseling interior the previous and have self belief me it fairly does supply you the talents to try against unfavorable emotions including this. do no longer hesitate to tell the police could you notice your doorstep dad and he does something to make you experience uncomfortable. i'm sorry this has befell to you. I wish you each and all of the suited. added: forget approximately approximately '?' submit above me. that's only misguidance and not needed in a submit like this. you do no longer choose a primeval dogma to guard you, you have already got the regulation to try this. If people prefer to have self belief in such issues then they might desire to easily save it to them selves.

Answer 6

I don't understand the part about your sister and what your mother said. But probably the only thing you could do, with out getting any trouble is, get a job and move out of the house, when you are 20 or older. YOu sure he raped you? Or did he spank you? There's a difference.

Answer 7

Lets hope he is now in prison for a long time. You need to get the help you need to deal with the abuse you suffered. The recognition of what happened and how it was not your fault is only part of the healing process. Hopefully the years have enabled you to put most of that trauma away and get on with life. I really doubt He understood what he was doing because his twisted mind blocked rationality from controlling him.

Answer 8

Sweetie, sweetie, just calm down, ok? Calm down. Deep breaths. Alright? First of all, you should of called the police a looooong time ago, ok? Second of all, it is not your fault that you mom and your step-dad broke up, ok? If your mom chooses to marry someone that is not right for her, that is NOT your problem, ok? Deep breaths honey, deep breaths. Third, why didn't your mom tell the police when she saw what her husband was doing?
Now just calm down and tell the police exactly what happened, ok? I hope you're not lying about this, because rape is serious. It is a crime, a felony, ok? Remember my steps, hun. Remember them.

Answer 9

Mom needs help!!!! You were raped by him! She's sick to balm you. She may feel bad that she didn't believe you the first time? But she needs professional help. And for that matter you should go too. You maybe fine now,but things like that can come back on you later.

Answer 10

It is never anyones fault for being raped. Especially if you were a kid. It was his fault. I don't want to say anything bad about your mom but she is wrong and she is being selfish and she is being a brat. Just because she chose a loser. Your mom is supposed to protect you and make sure ur fine and she is not doing that. She is wrong. It is not your fault. I will pray for your mother 2 c the light. GOD BLESS! Jesus loves you.

Answer 11

First of all i am so sorry but i can't say i understand because i haven't and i don't wont to be raped. But you need to remind your mother in a nice manner that you came before him and she needed to beleave you. You should also say that it isn't your falt HE RAPED YOU AND SHE SHOULD BE A BIT MORE CONSERNED about what happened then with a relationship that could never be because he wanted you. Again i'm sorry but you should defendyourself bite kick punch anything that can hurt.