cheating!!!!!?

Question

alright so i was cheated on 3 times and i cant let go.the realationship has been a year and it seems very hard to give up.am i stupid??

Answer 1

Well kind of because you gotta chose one!

Answer 2

No ur a lot more cautious now because ur aware of the fact that some men just can't be trusted. I mean being cheated on 3 times must've been tough but what makes it even worse is when u really really loved that individual and they just betray u for no reason. U need to be especially vigilant even though this guy may seem different cause there's no telling what may happen later down the line. Try not to give him too much of ur heart just yet. Put him through a series of test just to see how loyal he is to u and make sure that u 2 are very honest with each other because ther r some ppl out there who would willfully try to break u guys up out of sheer jealousy so u need to be alert and watchful.

Answer 3

Honey, you already know the answer to this question. Look at it this way, this relationship is only a year old right? And in that year this so called "great guy" has cheated a total of three times. Each time you take him back, which is basically rewarding him for the bad behavior. Now picture your life five years down the road with this guy, pregnant, married and he's no longer coming home at night. Your hormones are raging, you are stressed beyond belief and you know where he is, but you can't do anything about it because you've allowed it to go on all this time. Pretty sad isn't it? Sweety, this is just a glimpse of life with him is going to be like. Guys like this don't change. They find someone like you, who's not strong enough to put her foot down and spend their lives doing whatever the heck they darn well please. Set higher standards for yourself honey, you can do better and you deserve better...let him go...he's not worth it. You can't love someone who doesn't really love you!

Answer 4

I think you are in a losing battle If the person has cheated on you three times already then they will more than likely keep doing it. Are you willing to live with the heart break each time it happens? I think everyone deserves better than a cheating mate where it be male or female. I think you deserve better and there is always someone down the road that will treat you better. Good Luck with what you chose. for I can not tell you what you should do only what I think.

Answer 5

No not stupid, Intelligence has very little to do with it. You do sound needy and lacking in self-esteem, since you are allowing yourself to be put through all this. All I can really say for sure is your should stop being a victim. It's such a waste of time.
There is so much more to life than making ones self unnecessarily miserable.

Answer 6

I don't know if you've thought about this, but there are people who simply are not monogamous. I was in love with a man like that when I was in college, and he and I got along wonderfully in spite of it. Of course, he did not expect me to be monogamous, either, but in general I did not have much interest in other men. There were friends we had in common, though, and sometimes things got pretty complicated.

Personally, I would banish the entire concept of jealousy. It implies that you can own another person. You can't, you know: read Amendment XIII to the US Constitution.

Answer 7

Not stupid at all!!! its hard to let go after being burned so many times. but there comes a time were you have to say goodbye to the past and realise not every man is like that. just give it some time

Answer 8

I don't know that stupid is the word for it. I would say you are naive, or maybe just too sweet for your own good. If the same person cheated 3 times then you are better off without.

Answer 9

Your not stupid, just in love...does this person want to go to counseling with you? There is obviously a reason why the cheating has taken place and 3x??. if this person is willing to go to counseling, then the relationship might be worth being in...but if not then, think about yourself and what will make you happy.

Answer 10

You are in love with the IDEA of love. You are not truly in love.
Unchastity (cheating) is the only reason that Jesus allows for divorce in the Bible.

You should find someone who loves you and respects you who loves and respects you as well. It took me 50 years, but I've finally found one, and there is nothing like it on this earth.

Cal-el & Swissy

Answer 11

You are going to do whatever you do. But, I have always felt that if you are confident in yourself, you won't put up with being disrespected, and someone cheating is definitely disrespectful. I've told guys that I am too damn pretty to share a man, and I believe it and won't tolerate cheating.