(im not Ava, im her cousin)
I am 21 years old and Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 years. hes the only guy ive ever been with. I met this guy and i kissed him. My bf found out and he forgives me, but i still have feelings for the other guy and he does me. I cant stop thinking about him. is this normal feeling? Will it go away? Should i break up with my bf of 7 years and take a chance? i feel ive out grown my bf. Ive never expierienced other feelings then this. Pls dont be mean.
2006-08-21 13:41:04 · 8 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me thatif i left him, hed kill himself, also. (i dont know if he would)
2006-08-21 13:56:31 · update #1
You have indeed outgrown your current boyfriend. You started dating him so young that you have never known anything else. Definitely move on, if not with this guy, then with someone else. Your boyfriend threatening to kill himself is just another reason to leave him. Anyone who would sink to that level of emotional blackmail deserves to be dumped.
PS: Tell Ava not to gain any more weight.
2006-08-21 14:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've actually liked a guy even when I was with my boyfriend. Though, I was only with him for about a few months. He forgave me, too, and I stayed loyal to him because I do love him. If you're sure that you're ready to let go of your boyfriend, then go with the other guy you have feelings for. Just make sure you're doing the right decision because 7 years is a long time, and just because of some attraction with the other boy shouldn't ruin a perfectly great relationship. As of now, I'm still with my boyfriend for three years. Just know what your feelings want. Best of luck!
2006-08-21 20:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give this new guy a chance. Especially if you feel you have outgrown your boyfriend. It's not fair to him that he forgives and you still have feelings for the other guy. Be gentle and break it off. But most of all listen to your heart. I was in that situation and I did what my heart told me, I lost my boyfriend but it turned out we were better friends anyways:) Do what you think is best for you!
2006-08-21 20:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ava's Cousin you have to way up what you have at 21 you are still young enough to start new relationships several times over , but is this new guy all that you need and deserve will you receive the same loyalty from him as your current guy is giving you at present . Its always nice to look over the fence at the nice green grass , but sometimes the sweat that it takes to keep that grass is just to much and we realize that what we had isnt as flash but it suits us just fine .
2006-08-21 20:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/f for 7 years, wow, thats a long time. if you feel you have outgrown your b/f then go for the new guy. Just be sure your not doing it because you are so used to your b/f that you've taken him for granted. evaluate what the consequences would be if the new guy doesn't work out. then follow your heart.
2006-08-21 20:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Stinger 22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound a lot like, me, i say drop him or maybe 7 year boyfriend is puppy love,time to move on hun,and dont look back.
2006-08-21 20:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As usual Bethany is giving good advice. (Now if she would only ask a question)
2006-08-21 21:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rockvillerich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you might have out grown your boyfriend but why would you risk losing all that time invested?
2006-08-21 20:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by j e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋