im 17 want to get married by 20 and have AT LEAST 7 kids. God will bless me with a financially stable hubby i believe. im not a golddigger. ew. i cant wait.
oh and im waiting to have sex and i wont kiss until were engaged. thats my idea of a perfect relationship.
2006-08-21 13:39:47 · 35 answers · asked by CHANEL 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You seem to have your life well planned! I am the mother of 5 boys and 2 girls! I had my first baby one week after my 24th birthday. My youngest was born when I was age 38. Those were the happiest years of my life.We owned a wheat ranch in WA. state. Our boys were taught to hunt and fish and how to do an honest days work.The girls were taught how to cook and sew,do gardening and how to preserve food.Life was much different then than it is today. If you plan to live in a large city,you might reconsider the size of your family. As a parent to keep your child safe you have to know where they are and what they are doing 24/7.I think that would be next to impossible in a city! Make sure you are in very good health because you will spend sleepless nights,many times walking the floor with a crying baby.And at 6 am you have to be awake to get all the other kids and the hubby started on their day!We lived so far in the sticks that the little school didn't have a hot lunch program.My Sundays were spent making small pizzas,cookies and batches of trail mix for their lunches( the kids helped) Buy a good quality washer and dryer, with 7 kids you and your hubby,that's 9 pair of jeans,9 shirts,9 sets of underwear and 9 pairs of socks.... every day!. Start early in learning how to divide your time between laundry,cooking,cleaning,helping them with their homework,after school functions,getting everyone to brush their teeth and to bed on time. And those occassions when you're little one announces at bedtime: mommy I promised the teacher you would make cookies for the class party...... tomorrow! But those were wonderful years. I wouldn't trade those memories for anything,yet I would not do it again...for anything! I now have 14 grandbabies with two on the way!
2006-08-21 14:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are young and want to start your family young also. I was 22 when I had my first child 11 years ago. I'm now 33 and having my 4th. Don't be so quick to grow up. Enjoy your youth. Enjoy spending time with your husband when you get married. I think children are a blessing from God and childbirth a miracle. It's wonderful that you want children. Just remember they are a full time job. Don't jump into anything unless you are absolutely sure you're ready. Saying you want 7 kids now when you don't have any will be completely different when you have about 3 and are going in about 10 different directions at one time. It's a full time job. Take it day by day and one step at a time.
2006-08-21 15:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by dedee1127 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chances are if you don't kiss a guy until you are engaged you aren't going to get far enough to get married...sorry, but come on....I waited to have sex, but no kissing?
How financially stable do you think most 20 year olds are? You have your whole life to be a wife and mom. I am doing what I always wanted, but believe me, I could go for a late night movie, or a Sunday Afternoon watching dumb stuff on tv once in a while.
Seven kids is way too many. I have seen big families and I planned to have one, but things didn't work out that way.
Money is not the only issue. You only have so much physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually to give of yourself. The more children you have the less each child gets. There are only so many pieces of the pie to go around. I've seen in big families that kids get neglected, or left to their own vices, or left to raise each other (which is NOT their job)...the older ones are bossy, the middle ones get ignored and the babies....well, they get to be a baby for about 18 months until mom pops out another one.
I think four is a perfect and managable number. A big family, but not so big that you can't do things for each child, like library trips and just mommy time.
Think of dance lessons and T-Ball schedules...think quality not quanity.
Whatever you do, space your kids out. It is so sad to see a baby forced out of the role of baby too soon.....you need time to enjoy smelling each little head, and the baby needs time to be a baby.
2006-08-21 14:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I watched this documentary called "Meet he Duggars". At the time, they had 16 kids.(Later on there will be two more to make 18).
It showed their everyday life and how they shopped for food, did the laundry and the mom home schooled them! Their house got too small and they had to have another one built and the family all pitched in to help build it, imagine that!
They had a "buddy system" where an older child was paired up with a younger one in that they didn't actually babysit the child but just made sure they learned what they needed to learn in the everyday details of life.
I said all that to say this, if that family can raise 16 kids then you can raise 7, if you really believe you can and your heart is totally in it.
My mom raised 7 of us so I know it can be done.
2006-08-21 13:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your plan to wait and do anything remotely sexual is good. however, you will more than likely have a really hard time getting engaged before you even kiss. sorry, just the facts of today's society. my hubby and i want 3 or 4 kids, but sometimes what you want and what you can afford are two way different things.
2006-08-21 13:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Large families are wonderful. Just be sure you know what you are getting into. You should have a child first before you say such things. You have no idea what all is involved. Also, you sound a bit selfish. What about your future husband, if you will have one? He has no say in when to stop? You are making the decision on how many kids you will have before you are even engaged? Save your decisions for later.
2006-08-21 14:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Considering the economy of America today, having 7 kids is not easy. Especially when it comes down to education, order in the house, and financial problems. Taking care of 7 kids would just be a day in hell. However, if this is your plan, I will support you. Even if I don't recommend this, you should follow your dream of creating a big family. Though I do not want to discourage you, you should contact parent counseling first to see how difficult it is to raise a child and you will get my point. Check out http://www.cde.state.co.us/cdesped/RSS-PCT.asp and http://www.adoptionillinois.org/Birth%20Parent%20Counseling/
2006-08-21 13:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
G-d help me to have one or 2 kids, it's hard on your body and financially and you need to be ready to take care of 7 completely. It almost takes the whole day taking care of 1, not to say 2 would be double that amount.
All I can say is good luck.
2006-08-21 13:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by mariana m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way! 2-3 is right for me, but no more than that. How will you support them? You can't just depend on your husband. What if he lost his job and you had to get a job and raise the family and clean the house and carpool the kids and cook dinner. You have no idea what you're getting yourself into. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's reality.
2006-08-21 13:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by M N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a grip on reality. Seven kids.. you'll change your mind about that number after number one. Oh yes, we all want a rich husband, but honey at 20 years old your not going to find that kind of guy unless you are maybe Anna Nicole Smith. My advice go to school, earn your own money. Then think about marriage and kids. You don't want to end up on welfare!!
2006-08-21 15:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋