Ok, I was with my boyfriend for about 3 months and we broke up a week ago. Before we broke up we had a little fight, also, I thought he was a little boring at times, but since we broke up I realise that I really liked him. He is a very quiet guy, he is like that with everyone. Before we broke up I said I needed a break to think, only 2 or 3 days later I came back saying I was sorry and didn't want to let him ago. He responded with "Are you sure? Because you seemed to be very upset." So i asked him if HE thinks we should. and he said he think we shouldn't because I seem unhappy. I told him I am. And he just said "That's what I think..take it or leave it" Before that he also said he loves me. Now, I'm not sure if he really loves me, or if he lied so he wouldn't hurt me too much. What should I do? Should I talk to him? it's been a week now. Should I tell him I still like him? Or.. what? Do you guys think he really loves me or lied?
2006-08-21 13:17:58 · 19 answers · asked by Staticx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes you should let him know you still like him. If one of my ex's (if they weren't married or engaged) did that I would take them back like nothing happened
2006-08-21 13:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by gatorsun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he likes/liked you a lot, and after three months...he may have honestly THOUGHT he loved you, but that's not a very long time to build love in a relationship. Even so, you can't expect the guy to allow you to pull at his emotions like that. I do understand where you're coming from too...but put yourself in his shoes. One minute he thinks you're happy, the next you're considering breaking up. He's not sure what to say or how to proceed because you're basically calling all the shots.
He can't STOP you from breaking up with him so you have the power, but he's imagining that if you get bored, or find someone more interesting...you'll leave and he will have wasted his time. He's going to have a hard time putting his heart into a relationship that he doesn't feel is stable, so he WILL pull back on the love thing to protect his own heart. The question is, do you love him? Because if you don't, or don't really think there is the potential for love...then you're just playing him and that's not fair to him.
2006-08-21 20:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your heart on the line. Take the chance! It seems like you and him had a fight (which is normal) and maybe said some really mean things to each other. Talk with him and be honest. If you can't make a final call, get back together, you'll regret not having tried harder if you don't.
2006-08-21 20:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by valoriousblue777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you two have only been dating for 3 months and that is not enough time to get to know someone. I think he told you he loved you because he didn't want to lose you, but since you wanted a so-called break, he is thinking otherwise about your relationship. But, people told me, if I had to think twice about a relationship, that I should get out of it. If you really like him, talk to him and try to explain what you want out of your relationship and try and work from there. If he doesn't want that, then he wasn't worth waiting for.
2006-08-21 20:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by browneyed_gurl05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur not gonna believe this but the exact thing happened to me! So i told him that i loved him and that i was sorry i put him throught all of this. i told him i loved him and he said he didnt want me to get hurt again. So then i told him that i wanted him back but that if he was just trying to be nice he shouldnt bother. But he said he love me and now we've been together again for 2 months and things are better than before!
2006-08-21 20:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'am going to tell you like a man.love can happen at any time,so the olny way to fine out just #1 be a friend or give a shot again. But you say he boring or is that your unhappy with him.
think about it then talk to him
2006-08-21 20:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Robert D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give yourself somemore time to decide whether you still like him. You obviously broke up for a reason, don't try and go back and fix it. You are currently experiencing confusion and desperation. This time is different for you since you're used to having him around. Give yourself sometime to regroup.
2006-08-21 20:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ot's only been three months. It was a spat. Patch it up and try to find common ground to work from. Accpet him aws he is and if that proves too boting, leave it off like adults.
2006-08-21 20:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Toxic Buddah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When You really love someone you will give up everything that is important in your life even that person that you love, you will set her/him free... WHY? Because true love is loving someone so much that the only thing that you really care about is their happiness. EFIL
2006-08-21 20:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your heart,
If the time that you needed is over, and you feel you want to be with him, try it out, take it slow.
He sounds like a nice guy,
But i think you need to be honest with him.
2006-08-21 20:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by girlscanfishtoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋