i dont think i will ever trust any man, im in love with this guy, and we are suppost to be getting married next year. but i just don trust him. hes never gave me a reason not to i just dont. i dont know what to do. i need some help.
2006-08-21 13:16:36 · 9 answers · asked by ajiel07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
marriage is about trust, so if you don't trust him, don't get married yet.
2006-08-21 13:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to fix your inner problems. Ask yourself why you don't trust men. Do you trust women? Do you trust anyone? If it's just the men you don't trust, then somthing in your life have caused you to have a sexist view on men, and it's destroying your ability to trust them. Find out what it was and solve it by looking within yourself. If you have a great guy, and he's truly done nothing wrong to make you not trust him, you could be loosing something great by self sabotage.
My first girlfriend never trusted me fully, and I treated her like a princess, and never gave her a reason not to trust me. She could never get over the idea that she felt I would either cheat on her, or was cheating on her, and I had never given her a reason to think that. In the end, I dumped her and told her it was because I never truly felt loved and trusted by her. I can't be with someone who doesn't trust me, espeically when I didn't do anything wrong. I was tired of taking the blame for something that happened in her past with someone else, it wasn't fair. I know it was because of the first boyfriend she had who cheated on her, but she was so hung up on that experience, she never let go of the past and fully embraced the present.
2006-08-21 20:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you trust somebody in your past (does not have to be an intimate relationship) where the trust was broken? This could be why you are having trouble with trust. I would go to individual and marriage counseling to work through these issues before you become married. Even counseling through your church would be okay. Whatever works for you. You need to talk with somebody whom has an unbiased point of view on what is going on.
2006-08-21 20:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't rush into this marriage; sometimes intuition tells us things our hearts and minds don't. If you're not comfortable trusting this person, something is wrong. If you really feel like it's your own problem with trust, I'd see a counselor to find out why, but for now, I'd hold off any permanence in this relationship and listen to my instincts.
2006-08-21 20:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by telaine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the same way with my man so what i do is psych myself out i take a deep breath and then i just try and believe what he says let go and let god u will trust him in time thats all you need to do
2006-08-21 20:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by tweetie4eva2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust has to be earned.E-mail me if you want Im isn't working.
2006-08-21 23:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the top 3 people are totally right.
2006-08-21 20:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by mr. answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone about your insecuruties, do not let the past catch you up, be happy with this guy get the help you need
2006-08-21 20:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be giving off signs that are subconscious that are not right and you may be picking up on them.
2006-08-21 20:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by wondering_lefty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋