People what do I do.Found out my ex has started dating someone 3 weeks after we broke up(we have a son together),then thought I'd found out who it was but then found out it was someone else(my friends sister)I told him I knew and he then told me he had finished it with her cos he realised it was too soon.Her sister then told me he was lying and that she had told him where to go and that he needed to grow up etc.I accused him off lying to me and he came over tonight to discuss.
He showed me the text messages from this girl that said she was prepared to wait for him to sort his head out and she really wants him etc,I told him if he wants her go for it,just don't mess my son around.I phoned her sister to tell her I had seen the txt messages and would like to talk to this girl so I could straighten any confusion out for myself with her as I don't know what or who to believe anymore.In theory am meeting this girl tomorrow to chat.I don't want my ex back but need closure.What do I do?
2006-08-21 12:44:07 · 16 answers · asked by rhieanon6108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I went through something similar with my ex! The worst thing was, he told her that I was jealous and she wasn't allowed to my house when he came for access visits. I found out, rushed out and said hello, dragged her in and offered a cup of tea.
Eventually she realised that my ex is an immature kid who wanted to have everything his own way and she dumped him.
When you see this woman, be polite and just explain that you don't want your son messed about. Keep it short and sweet and stick to the point.
The fact that he's seeing someone else is actually none of your business, you don't need to know anything and what good will it do? Do you really expect anyone to tell you the truth? Does the truth even matter?
Your ex is a dick. He's dumped you to have the single life, so he's welcome to it! Leave him to it! Don't read his text messages again. Don't ask him anything about his personal life. He wants it to be over, so its now over. That area of his life is none of your business - and what you do is none of his.
Stop asking after him, stop asking for info. Finish it now.
Concentrate now on you and your son. Make sure you have your finances straight and can cope. Decide what you're going to do from now on.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-21 13:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by sarah c 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The big question is do you want him back, you do have a son together so he's going to be in your life for a long long time, and if you can't accept him seeing other girls then you will never have "closure" (hate that word - so Jerry Springer).
He might have finished it, but not before he started it and that's what probably hurts the most.
As for the new girl, I would be more concerned as to what type of person she is, as she might well be spending time with your kid.
and the wee man is going to get pretty confused about all this at such an early stage in his life.
2006-08-21 20:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u need closure? He is obviously finished with u, so whether or not he is dating this new girl should not be your problem. You don't want to turn into the crazy psycho ex, especially if you have a child together, it is not a good idea to get ur ex mad at u for seeing his ex/girlfriend. I don't think u should meet her, u need to move on and if it bothers u this much u obviously still have feelings for ur ex that u need to get over. Nothing good can come out of meeting this girl, call it off before it is too late.
2006-08-21 20:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by bobatemydog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wisest actions are always the hardest. The best thing you can do in life is to keep your respect in any situation and know you can happily hold your head up high and feel proud of yourself.
So try not to imagine the scenario, rather decide that whatever is presented to you you will deal with it calmly and collectedly and with grace.
When you have done this you will feel great and proud of yourself.
Rise above all the crap and let them wade around in it. Good luck x
2006-08-21 19:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Paula 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Through a bucket of squirrel **** over her head and let your ex know that you are now dating a man with a very large Ben Johnson who also happens to be a rising star in investment banking.
2006-08-21 19:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of been there, done that. no easy answer. If it's mainly to sort out any confusion re: children, feelings then it's best to be pleasant and ideally not call her a f buddy.
However you could always sit there taking some pills, tell her there anti biotics and has she had to start taking them yet.
good luck with it
2006-08-21 20:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by gary s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont understand why you need to meet this girl you have decided relationship is over your exs life is nothing to do with you( unless you are still friends and he askes for your opinion )apart from when it affects your child it is your ex you should be talking to setting up some reasonable ground rules like dont introduce new girls to child unless serious so as not to confuse him but you can only ask nicely move on with your life let him do the same otherwise it will all end in tears
2006-08-21 19:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by marina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shove him out the door, change your phone number and tell him to take a running jump. My partner of 16 years left, and was seeing another woman 2 DAYS after he left me. Dont bother seeing this girl- theres nothing in it for you, and remember, he has been seeing her such a short time after he left you- are you sure he wasnt seeing her before then??? Dump him c ompletely, and buy a new dress, ring your mates, and have a girls night out and stuff him!! If youre lucky he will fall under a bus.
2006-08-21 19:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Take a Holiday. You have a son to worry about. Don't let him get hurt. Take care of yourself.
2006-08-21 20:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by thecharleslloyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, look gorgeous & play it cool - act like your over him - she is probably stressing about it too!
2006-08-21 19:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋